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You could also design one yourself and use some third party to sell it.

How do I get people? - henderyjem

I don't know if anyone's suggested this before but maybe Stef should start printing NAA / "Not an argument" T-shirts so I don't have to keep repeating the phrase. I'm lazy and it's easier to point to my shirt.

Go find them. Join meetups where you share common interests with people. Consider it all to be experimentation and trial and error. The more you interact with people, the more you get to know yourself and stretch your capabilities. I'm enjoying time with people in one 12-step group in particular. It's called ACA, or Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families. These people aren't philosophers, but the self-work they do is no joke. The concepts of false self and true self are an official part of the program. They do the work to know who they are and who their parents were. Just try different things and don't wait for people to come to you. Go to them, be yourself, and see who comes toward you. Reject the ones you don't like and welcome the ones you do. That's it. There are plenty of people in the world to find a few you like spending time with.

It takes time. Go out and meet new people. Join a club or organization or classes or something. I've been meeting new acquaintances by going to a gaming store and playing tabletop games with people. There are some people there that I genuinely like and am glad to see. But I've also been journaling/therapying a lot about expectations of friends and relationships in addition to things that might prevent me from connecting with others, such as disdain for normal people, social anxiety, insecurity, etc.

The other side of what coin? This is so grossly inaccurate I don't even know where to begin. They hate him for his ideas. Make sure that it is the Stalag translation, the only official English translation ever published. Worry for his own Volk, not his own species. Just wait until you get to the chapter about Nation and Race. You're in for a bumpy ride.

No. You get peace when everyone has a gun. Or none. But people who do not care about your plea for peace, will most certainly have a gun, so then only the first option is realistic. Animals are smart, and they have various weapons or ways to defend themselves, because their predators don't care about their plea to let them be.

So you had a suspicion based on observable patterns, which turned out to be correct...and you are ashamed of yourself? Sorry I don't see why.

Why would you hope the nation is more mentally ill than it already is?

Interesting question. Off the cuff I think it's better to have lower IQ kids with a better emotional experience than higher IQ kids with a mother who isn't present, physically or emotionally. That's just a recipe for neurotics.

Sounds like you are tripping your balls off. You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

This might be a long one, and I apologize in advance for that. Also, if I get hit points on my account for this, I don't really care. I have something to say. This morning, when I heard on the news that it was a guy with an Arabic-sounding name who committed the bombing, I swear to God I thought to myself, "Muslim". I was SO ashamed, totally disgusted with myself. As if my brain were just on autopilot and thinking that it would have been a Muslim to conduct those bombings. Kids, don't do what my stupid head did. I know it's hard, because every single day in the media, there are those stupid little micro-aggressions that add up to a really big problem, directed at the minority group of the moment. Every century picks a new minority group to pick on: disabled people, gay people, people who just aren't white, anyone of a different religion, and so on. This decade, it's Muslims...and a whole bunch of others (thanks Trump), but mostly Muslims. We brand people as "other" or as "enemy" or as "different" in the negative sense, but it's these labels that CREATES the so-called "other" or "enemy". People honestly don't get this and it's REALLY annoying, but it's like saying to someone that they're a piece of shit. The more you say it, the more it gets ground into that person's head, and, despite whether it's true or not, the more the person will start to believe it. It's called the "thousand paper cuts" phenomenon: a paper cut is one little thing, but then cut and cut and cut away until BAM, you've bled out, or are so injured that you just can't function. I am NOT condoning what happened in Manchester. Not in the slightest. I think that people who attack others and especially children or animals (i.e. groups that can't defend themselves) are terrible. However, it may indeed be the case that they are terrible because they themselves have suffered greatly. Think about what's gone on in Syria: can you honestly imagine being so incredibly oppressed by your government that such a large proportion of people choose to leave a country? It's very difficult for anyone living in Europe (at least Western Europe) and North America to imagine this, because we have always lived lives of relative ease compared to those who live in war-torn nations. It's called white privilege. Whites, myself included, have had the privilege to live in these relatively peaceful, orderly nations, but very much at the expense of nations in which these privileges are not at all present. I've made this point on another page before, but it is fear that most often makes us revert to the mindset that we must kill in order to live. But why should we have to kill in order to live? I see no reason for that other than those reasons that are found in a mind that has been warped by fear: fear of death, fear of retribution, fear of the pyramidal structure that our world has become, and so forth. And it will be fear that makes people retaliate, and blame the "other", while in reality we create that "other" by aiming guns rather than reaching out hands. I do NOT believe that this issue is beyond repair, mind you. It's going to take some doing, but for God's sake, people, I have just two things to ask of you, and this applies not only to anyone here who cares but to the world generally, if I may be egotistical enough for a moment to make such a bold request... 1. Put down the fecking guns 2. Stop saying "us versus them" and "the other" and "the enemy"; it's not helpful And I'm done. Like I say, I don't give a damn if I get bombarded for this. People who feel the need to perform violent attacks are only ever doing so out of fear, which comes out as aggression because we as humans know of no other way to deal with fear. And that's all I have to say about that, except to express my condolences to anyone here who's from Manchester and witnessed this shit go down first hand. No amount of money or compassion towards the families that now suffer could ever compensate for such losses, ever.