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  1. I've made some poor choices as a young woman. Most were driven by nihilism, a lack of purpose, and leftist indoctrination. I thought that I could have a lot of sex, travel without much direction, and do drugs socially because progressivism! I thought that I could avoid the college trap and pick up a trade (didn't work out due to an injury), but I find myself in-and-out of community college, constantly running into the "burden of choice". "What should I do with my life?" is a question I surely wanted to have answered 5 years ago. But, here I am, 23, asking the same question. Only within the last year have I realized that I want a family one day, and that I need to cultivate more attractive feminine qualities. How can I build humility, social skills, friendliness, and just a better/happier disposition? No one wants a directionless lost soul. Especially not any conservative types. What are the wisest choices for young women to make that can help them become resilient, amazing moms? That can help them become contributing, loving, and helpful wives? How can I stop getting so anxious about finding the "right career"? Should I just get a job and go to Church? I feel embarrassed to be asking all this on an internet forum, but I really enjoy Stefan Molyneux and I imagined that this community would have some interesting things to say.
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  2. Kon'ichiwa! Instinct. Really, I don't do very much to discern people since my actions naturally filter out people I might not like and attract those I might. The key is to act in accordance with both my beliefs and objective morality. However, to discern whether someone is good or bad as a shorthand, I'd recommend simple tests of empathy (do they make you wait? Do they apologize for things begrudgingly and/or make false apologies often? Are their actions inconsistent with their words? Do they get defensive easily? Do they seem to know themselves and why they make mistakes or project them onto others?) and of character (do they believe morals are subjective? Do they consider themselves entitled to X? Would they tell you a truth that might "hurt" you or lie to cover it up? Does lying come easily for them?). I think these are easily testable, and I'd recommend not dropping people who fail them immediately since they might be like you and not aware they had these problems (or that they were problems), but I wouldn't spend more than a week trying to reach out to people who fail these tests since you've only a short time to bag an alpha. An important thing, I think, is to have good friends before having any kind of boyfriend since they can act as a second (third, fourth, etc.) pair of eyes and perhaps protect you from making mistakes. Likewise you can help them, thereby demonstrating reliability and compassion, both of which are essential for attracting true alphas (reminder: guys with moral clarity, dedication to becoming fathers and breadwinners, self-knowledge, etc.) I used to be lonely (when I was younger and a Socialist), however that all more or less ended when I started seeing a therapist, getting away from Leftism, and becoming an individual instead of... well, Stefpai's mother might be a good example of what I might have become if I didn't break off the Leftist/totalitarian/paranoid bandwagon that has infested the modern public school system on the East Coast. A key factor in my no longer being lonely is my separation from false and fair-weather friends and inward seeking of value. I don't want to be the "smart guy", the "handsome guy", or "most likely to be successful guy" by vote of others; I want to be all that by own actions. I've become much less socially needy (i.e. needing of warm bodies) as a result of focusing on my career and bettering myself. I don't have many friends anymore but I can't say I miss them; if anything I feel as if I've made room for new friends who'd be compatible with whom I'm becoming (or more precisely making myself into): a successful man, both financially and familial. Mainly because it attempts most strongly to be objective with how its source of morality as compared to being more subjective and local like the various Protestant churches. ...Also because I came from a Roman Catholic background and therefore wish(ed) to discover more about my cultural and ethical roots. Suffice it to say, I have found it spiritually and morally satisfying. I can't say I've learned of much difference between the Roman and the Eastern Orthodox Churches since we're pretty much identical except in whether there should one Patriarch (the Pope) or many (the various Orthodox Patriarchs). In practice I consider this more a matter of practical philosophy (i.e. should we have one guy in charge or many?) rather than of morality. The strength of the Roman Catholic Church is mainly in its longevity and its strive for rationality; this has provided the Church with the best arguments for God etc. etc. and given us a moral fiber I think the Protestants lack. However I do not consider belief in God particularly important, but rather the moral lessons and historic depth the main thing to focus. "Why be good?" as compared to "be good or else". I know only a little of the other denominations, though I do know there's a lot of creepy crap going on with Jehovah's Witness and, at least until recently, the Mormons. With the latter I'd note their founder is a man who claimed visions through a hat and became a polygamist. Kinda like Mohammad minus the bloodshed. F*************************************************K NO. I only did some research about them just now (since I never heard of them before) but they have about as much representation of the Church's beliefs as the Socialist Party or the Communists does with American or Christian history/thought. Which is to say some Roman Catholics are Socialists (like the anti-Pope), but they are the exception not the norm. Some of the strongest voices for the Free Market came from the Church, with philosophy, reason, and objectivity being the primary things most historical Catholic priests have been pursuing since the progenitor of the Church Himself. Yeah: You don't. You cut out the people that failed you (unless they're selling life and limb to make up), admonish the institutions, and promise yourself and your future husband and children that you will not repeat their misdeeds, and instead strive towards becoming a Peaceful Parent of the Stefanist variety. You're welcome. All of what I suggest is a personalized culmination of what I've managed to learn from Stefpai. I recommend combing his words and works about the matter for yourself since I cannot claim to be fully sure of my suggestions as I have yet to fully enact them. Also keep in mind I am 19 with minimal romantic experience. I have some work experience and am confident in what I'm doing, however I would be cautious to take my advice since I haven't successfully demonstrated the lot of it in my own life yet. Especially as far as friends and romance since I've largely focused myself onto my work and am avoiding any kind of romantic or friendly involvement since I don't consider myself good enough or ready for anything long term until I am making six-figures. EDIT: This ought to go without saying but, since it's above, don't date guys who drink or do any kinds of drugs; they're losers. Unless it's mandatory for a business conference or whatever I'd treat any drinking of alcohol or taking of drugs as a deal-breaker by itself.
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  3. Stefan doesn't respond to the forums, he would prefer that people work on their questions and send a note to [email protected] to get on the show and discuss them. That being said, you cannot point to something and say "that's a 'right'". All concepts don't exist except as ideas that can be communicated and evaluated. Rights, in general, are inherent and unalienable... you cannot separate them from people. They are actions people can take that others should not interfere with. Free speech means being able to say whatever you want without interference. Property rights means being able to own yourself and your output without it being taken from you, or destroyed. Rights only exist to the extent that others respect them. Because they are different from culture to culture, and state to state, they are therefore difficult to claim as universal. To the extent that they are universal, if not first principles, they rightly enter philosophical discussions.
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  5. I think it's very similar with men and women these days. I spoke also with my male friends on this subject and they confirmed it. Maybe it is different on some religious dating sites. I think we are pretty equal when it comes to dating. People are desperate, lonely and many of them are damaged and they don't even realize it. So they take what's available surprised that it didn't work out and they are left with the feeling of resentment. If I knew what I know now I would never use online dating again. Not so sure if it was a good idea to use it back then. I should go to a therapist rather than to jump into dating so early after ending very bad relationship. I guess sometimes it's better to learn the hard way than not learn at all.
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  6. I've done in the past some online dating and I can't recommend it. Maybe I wasn't lucky enough or I've chosen the wrong type of men but it didn't work out. Dating online is like looking for a love in a club or in a bar. Same people looking for sex, switching partners constantly. The chance of finding someone valuable in that kind of crowd is very low. I think the best way to meet someone is to figure out what you are looking for in this other person but also I think it's very important to have something in common, similar interests etc. My female cousin use online dating and her experience it's pretty similar to mine but she is still doing it. I guess it benefits her in some way. I told her to be honest with guys and to say what she wants in relationship. No time to waste for silly games and especially if she wants to have kids (she is 35 years old). People are afraid to be honest but who they really are will come out sooner or later so what is the point of lying in the first place? It's very hard to find suitable partner and we have to be picky because it's not only for ourselves but especially for our future children.
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