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Hi guys. I felt like this was the right thing to do because this could possibly help others going through the same thing. Some of you may be going through your history, and bad things may be popping up. Stuff that you'd rather forget that you did, or more honestly stuff you wish you could change/fix. I am dealing with a few things of my own, but I wanted to firstly apologize to anyone who may have read my post on JohnnyBoy's last topic a few months ago. In it I stated that "as long as you haven't done any un-restitutable harm, you can still have love". This was incredibly irresponsible of me. For someone going through a hard time, reading that and applying it to their specific situation (considering their potential lack of knowledge about this kind of stuff) may have sapped them of the drive to keep digging through their history to better understand and empathize with themselves at a younger age, or even stuff they did recently. This could have left those who saw it in a really dark place, and I don't wanna leave people in dark places. This isn't the rock-solid rule. You never know what connections you can make in therapy. You never know what insight you can hear that makes it all come into focus and makes everything clear. If you are dealing with this type of stuff, do not give up. The fact that you're here, that your true self is alive, that means something. Keep searching until you find that bit of information that makes it all understandable because your true self survived, and that is a fact that should not be over-looked. To quote/paraphrase Stefan in a podcast called Restitution and The Future: "You said we can't do anything about the past. And I don't think you understand what a thing that was to say to me, someone who has spent a lot of time focusing on the past. The truth is that there is something that we can do about the past. And that is to understand the truth about it." I hope this can help some of you or inspire others to keep pushing the bar in therapy. The answers are somewhere in your head and you owe it to yourself and your future to keep digging. IN ADDITION: If you could, could you send this post out to some of your friends on this board? I want to try to get this message out to as many people as possible. I can't do anything about those that may have seen it while browsing and not logged in (there's no way to tell how many people saw it) and that's something I have to deal with but I want as many people to see it as possible, so if you could boost the message I would greatly appreciate it.

Self-honesty is a good sign. It gives you the ability to change. Given your unfortunate self-assessment, you really, really should go to a therapist. They can help you identify your problems, their causes, and solutions. I sincerely wish the best for you.

It's not easy to criticise the God-Emperor. His magnificence is utterly blinding to the common mortal. You can forgive Mr.Molyneux for being so feeble.

As a Beta K (I'll be honest; although I am straight-forward and honest, I don't go out much and when I do it's almost always for routine reasons so me calling myself Alpha K is like me calling myself the champion boxer of my household when I'm the only boxer), I see no reason for living unless I give myself one. A bit of an implicit given, yeah? If I don't give myself a goal, why not lay back and slowly erode? Becoming a father is about as instinctual and fundamental a goal for men as any; in fact I don't think you can really call yourself an adult male unless you are actively following a plan of some sort that results in becoming a father, and aren't really a man until you've become a father. Before we talk practically about the hoops and nets you may or may not face and have to maneuver, I'm going to do as you've asked and list some simple pros and cons with being a K man versus an r boy (i.e. becoming a father and husband versus an eternal man-child and/or hermit). K MAN: Pros -You have a purpose for being that is biologically reinforced. You will be doing what's natural and therefore in harmony with yourself as compared to being depressed/anxious and/or direction-less. -Assuming you marry rightly, you'll have the greatest conceivable ally: a true and loyal wife. She can, depending on what you focus on getting, whether she has it, and whether she accepts what you have to offer in turn, become a great mother; housewife; sex machine; accountant; singer; instrument player; playmate (not sexually think like games or hobbies); friend; comrade (i.e. someone who'll stand by you in a fight both physically and spiritually); intellectual; etc. -Assuming you both husband and father correctly (if you can do the first the second ought to be natural, while the second can't be done without the first) your children will pretty much inspire endless love, happiness, and joy for you and perhaps live on to eclipse you in terms of life accomplishments. The possible joy and pride that comes from being a good Father is endless. K MAN: CONS -Fuck up and your life is over. May as well stare down the Hudson, Skuykule, Tiber, or whatever and jump. Basically your life will either be Heaven or Hell depending on whether you succeed or fail. r boy: proz -Your life has the potential to be a series of easy orgasms, both literally and metaphorically. Whether you choose to be a useless waste of skin or a high performing but sterile monster, you have the chance to dedicate your life to pretty much anything that stimulates you in the moment and forget about the heavy and weighty concepts known as "creation" and "love". I mean, don't you just want to smoke weed, do LSD, and shoot yourself in the balls with STDs? r boyz: conz -Unless you are an r by default, you will feel an omnipresent anxiety and creeping sense of depression because you'll know deep down you're not living life the way you're supposed to (biologically, morally, or however) and will feel just as bad if not worse than if you screwed up trying to be a K Man. Basically there is no happy ending for r boyz unless you are a high performing sociopath like pretty much any Democratic politician. ======= If you want to be happy, you really don't have a choice but to become a K Man. Life is shit if you fail, but even more so if you don't try. And while the r boyz waste their lives and their genes away you, like me, could be living life to the fullest in the true spirit of masculinity and do that which the likes of Frankenstein can't do: CREATE LIFE. And it's all as simple as finding the right woman, getting a secure source of income, finding the right place to live, and being a good Father. The devil is in the details, but if you are anything like me you know it's better to try and fail than never try at all. Martyrs are sung for, but never the cowards. Meanwhile the victors get all kinds of laurel wreaths and monuments built for them. When life is as simple as "Win/Fail" and "Fail/Fail", you know already which path to go. There is no viable happy life as an r boy unless you truly make yourself an r. And the reason why I decided to categorize childless men over 30 as r boyz is because unless you want to go insane you must fundamentally screw the long term future and focus entirely on the present to be happy as a single man fighting his own biological imperative. Practically speaking, I have 3 very simple life steps you should consider--because I'm following them myself. STEP ONE: Attain a secure source of income, ideally equivalent to 80K + per year (American dollars). Do this by age 25-30. Maybe 35 if this step requires 4-6 or more years of college and school. As a wannabe novelist my plan is to be published within the next couple years and try to make a substantial enough income from it to justify relying on it entirely. STEP TWO: Find a woman. I recommend watching Stef's "How to find a nice girl..." for details. Basically be yourself, but first make yourself into the kind of man you'd want your daughter to marry, clean out the skeletons you're hiding in the closet, then when surfing the women comes, do what Stef's wife did and be forward and direct with what you want and what you're looking for. Doing this will scare off the r women and attract the K women because you'll be demonstrating both a desire for what they're also wanting, and the courage to be upfront and take rejection. I plan on doing this between ages 25-30, aiming for a woman of approximate age. STEP THREE: Find a permenant place of residence. Ideally a high quality (read: WASPy, with W also meaning "Wealthy") neighborhood in a country you'd be willing to risk your life for in the event the bull crap hits the fan and you must fight for your Fatherland/Motherland/Trapland. I plan on moving to Russia because I don't consider America worth fighting for, and am therefore learning Russia, but this is just me and my prophecies of doom making me think this way. STEP FOUR (SCREW COUNTING): Become a Father of as many children as you can reasonably afford. I think 5 is a great number since if you do it right you can provide for your children their own best and eternal friends, whom themselves can rely upon when becoming K Men/Women and effectively form a close knit extended family/clan over time. As a man I'd like to do this by 30-32 so that I won't be old, creaky, and shooting blanks. Take into consideration the kind of women you're into and whether being her superior in terms of wisdom and experience will be a problem. Since I want a woman who is better than me in every way (or at least in certain ways, and equal in others) I don't intent to aim any younger than 2 years since I have a very low tolerance for stupidity and ignorance unless she has some seriously redeeming qualities like being a genius who is a fast learner. ...well, that's what I have to say. How does this help you? Feel inspired to be a man yet? Or are you considering cutting your balls off and joining the suicidal herd of MGTOWs (who have good points but not the willpower to use them to secure a good woman and/or change their environments) and r's?

Hi, guys! I wrote a book titled How to Find a Great Therapist, and I'd love if y'all would check it out. It's only 99 cents! The inspiration for writing this book came, in large part, from the many stories I heard on these boards about your struggles to find a good therapist. I also have FAQ at the end which consists of questions that came exclusively from FDR listeners. It's available on Amazon here. Please let me know what you think! Book Description: "This book is not just about finding a good therapist. It is about finding a great therapist. The kind of person who will inspire you, challenge you, and change your life. The kind of person who will help you make real progress. "If you are just looking for someone to talk to, this book is not for you. Throw a rock and you will find a mediocre counselor who will gladly take your money, go through the motions of “listening” to you for an hour, week after week, and never encourage you to change. And maybe you don’t want to change. That’s fine. Just check out another book, because this one will only stress you out. "However, if you want to thrive rather than survive, use this book to demystify the often muddled field of psychology. You will learn: How to identify an awesome therapist. How to know if you’ve found a bad one. What to expect from therapy. How to trust yourself. And how to improve your odds of permanent growth. "The author takes her years of “couch surfing,” during which she saw over twenty therapists and coaches, to simplify the process and help you make life changes efficiently and with the support you need. "This short book is jam-packed, full of principles that you can use to feel confident about an often confusing and stressful transition in your life. Make the choice to change your life and find a great therapist."

Why cannot Stef mention anything negative about Trump. Seems like he has almost been paid off to create more division. He is always wanting us to attack the left. He slipped pass #PizzaGate saying he was too emotional... yet brings emotional and imitating condescending voices into his casts. He was fighting for freedom but now has supported Trump blindly , Trump is keeping the swamp pumping the stock market bubble... and even been on a few visits to Jeffory Epstines Island.... nothing but emotional diverting bullshit from Stef. Why cannot he bring Truth to this? Has he been paid off that much? He is no longer bringing philosophy to the world, just more propaganda. We are in for dark times if leaders like this flip so easy. DO NOT KEEP YOUR HEAD IN THE SAND!!!! WAKE UP!!!!!