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Lol. I would instead say that women often make many decisions, but what they care about is generally much different than what men care about. I do agree with this. There are always outliers, but I think that most women don't truly care about politics. I mean, most women I know care about politics in a vague, general way, but not to the degree where they will do diligent research and make careful choices. I've been legally able to vote in 3 presidential elections, but haven't, because when push came to shove, I didn't feel like I knew enough to make a good choice. I had read and listened to the news on all 3 elections and had "gut" decisions on who I preferred, but if I had had to defend my choice in a debate, I doubt I could have done so. I simply spend most of my energy dealing with other things to be totally knowledgeable about such large-scale webs of global politics. It's not that I don't think they are important - I do - but most of my world is made up of the internal landscapes of those I'm most intimate with, and I spend a ton of energy learning them, navigating their inner territories and even guiding their emotions and thoughts. I think I'm a very opinionated person, but more often that not I fall into the "support" role, and find that I am very good at it. I don't think this makes me stupid or diminishes my depth or intellect, although it often feels as though others see it that way. I think that most women - even if they are hard-core feminists - still operate like this on a very fundamental level, which is not at all suited for politics at a larger scale. I would say that this is true in a lot of ways. I will go to extremes to avoid having conflict in my personal relationships, and often (and too often it's long after the fact) realize that I was simply re-acting in a way which I had somehow learned instead of actually choosing. However, I think that it's a mistake to take agency away from women. We are not addle-brained half-humans, and make many important decisions all the time, one of the most important being who is going to be a good bet. Men figure out things, women figure out men. It has to be this way. I would have argued otherwise when I was younger, but after having kids I see all too clearly that I was no exception, and that having kids sort of forced that psychology onto me. Without children I am just as free as a man to go out to make things/get things/conquer things, but with children I am tied, fairly incapable of doing much more than simple house tasks, and utterly dependent on my husband to take care of me so that I can take care of them. If I were to want my own independence, it would come at a cost to my kids. Even working from home would be negative for them, because I would not be available to respond to them in the way that they need. I could do it, yes, but it is not good for them. So once a women has kids, she's more or less a prisoner of sorts to her man's resources. She can only escape at serious costs to her children. So this means that a women is best equipped if she 1) chooses the right man, and b) she adapts to suit whatever man she is with. If you can't change it, join it. So yes, of course, women are fully human beings who can and do have moral agency and choice, but I think there is such a big difference in risk-cost scenarios for men and women that choices between the sexes look very different, and we each have very different psychologies which have adapted to help us cope.