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I've been wanting to share this information for awhile. I grew up with a narcissistic parent and I've run into several people now who have had to deal with narcissists in their lives. Dealing with a narcissist is very dangerous and a massively toxic influence to your life. Understanding them can be very difficult, but once you know what to look for, everything makes sense. I try to offer some practical advice on identifying and dealing with narcissists.

"A narcissist is someone who fails to realize that I am the center of the universe."

Dylan, thanks for sharing your experiences on this. I think it's pretty helpful on quite a few levels. Especially in the specifics, which were not just similar, but oddly so. It's made me see that these people all share something in common, and if others can see that, it makes being objective about them that much easier. "The result: my mother and my grandmother's reactions proved I was right." Ironically, your grandmother and mother's reactions do nothing to defend themselves; they only go to confirm what has been said about malignant narcissist's tendency to downplay their actions, shift responsibility, and play the victim card (among many other things...). What's that saying about not interrupting one's enemy when they are defeating themselves? Happy new year.

I don't know if they can be fixed from the inside, either. Like I mentioned in the video, the narcissist thinks it's great that the whole world exists for them, so why would they even want to change? I've ever heard if they go to therapy that they become worse, because it just makes them more manipulative from their new and better understanding of human psychology. Two options are all I know: 1. completely remove them from your life or 2. Just agree with everything they say when you meet them, then do whatever you wanted to do anyway when they're gone.