How can you tell? As far as I know, only automated monthly donors get badges.
Well those that do, are free to correct me of course.
So you can just throw out an assertion without evidence and if you're wrong, people can correct you? Does that sound reasonable to anyone else? What does this have to do with Stef's original post?
Is it okay for your partner to be attracted to others? Absolutely. It's normal and healthy. If you were the only one she was ever attracted to, there'd be something wrong. And I don't think being attracted to others means she's not attracted to you.
Now, that being said, it seems as though she's telling you about her attractions to manipulate you and break you down. Can you think of why she'd do that?
Trolls will always be trollin', which is sad - but I think it's up to Stef to set up clear donating guidelines or else small donations will be a consequence.