Kast

Hey, I'm moving down to Charlotte, NC and hoping to find some rational folks living around this area.

I am off I-81 between Binghamton and Cortland.

I've been thinking the same thing lately ,friendships and finding a girlfriend. I have a lot of buddies at work and have a few people who are buddies at school but we don't hang out outside of those social situation which I find ok. I do think having friendships are important because you work on connecting with others which will help you connect better with your significant other.Atleast understand what works and doesn't. Although, I can't really answer to much towards your other questions as I haven't really figured out the answers myself.

I would say you first have to show that you are into "deeper" conversations and topics. Talk about an issue with someone you think that has the possiblity of being a idea and feeling driven showing some vulnerability. A minor issue of course. Then see how the response goes. You'll know quickly whether they're a safe person or not. This is what I do to "test" to see how far people think about things. As for what field, probably an ER nurse first which will lead to becoming a Nurse Practitioner. Always liked the idea of travelling the world going to poorer countries and administering aid.

It is possible that people that are in relationships that are based on solid principles can have members of the opposite sex as friends. It is just a trust issue that many people never come to terms with that make the majority of people be wary of their significant other having friends of the opposite sex. I think you should ask why is she trying to reconnect with you after a hectic time in her life? It may be uncomfortable but you could sit down and ask her why she suddenly is interested. I don't think people feel guilt for nothing so you should ask yourself what in your past may be causing this sort of response now. Now as for your second question, I've been contemplating this question to. I've decided the route in life to go is the medical one. I will be going back to college for the time being so will not see the inside of medical offices or hospitals for atleast another year, as I'm going into the nursing field which fast tracks you into offices and hospitals. I wouldn't say you were being irrational by protecting yourself against the other med students because there are a lot of hidden emotional minefields out there but I would atleast try to see who within your class peers you could share tid bits of information with who respond in a positive way. There are a lot of "deeper" people in the world, someone just has to show them the ability and oppurtunity to express their "deeper" self.