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It didn't say anything about alternatives and suggestions. I'm looking for something that is censorship resistant, hence federated/decentralized technologies. Discord is vulnerable to censorship. Some content creators host their own communities, similar to FDR, like Free Talk Live and School Sucks. I will give them a try. And the Skeptic Society has a forums. I will set that up and go from there. Perhaps I will see some of your there. And I will ask those communities for further suggestions.

I'm trying to get off of social media, but I still need community. Where else can I go? Preferably communities that are built on federated technologies, not just a platform that has a liberty community. In the interest of promoting boards in general, the admins may want to promote a few sister boards. Edit: Part of the reason for getting off of platforms is censorship, which is why I am trying to lean more toward federated/decentralized technologies.

I chatted with a gentleman from Zanzibar. He told me there was a major feastival in Zanzibar that some people, mostly government employees, unofficially recognize the festival as a celebration of Freddie Murcury. It cannot be made official because the Muslims have issues with homosexuals.

Primer is a notoriously complicated 80 minutes. It all seems to make sense until you are hit by the last 20 minutes. One of the major themes is the moral failings of the characters and the effect of a major technical breakthrough on the morally imperfect people. They are very clever and technically skilled but ethically they are morons. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0390384/

A possible FDR guest? Philosopher Kwame Anthony Appiah discusses honor and its place in social and political movements throughout modern history through his book is "The Honor Code: How Moral Revolutions Happen." From Appiah's site:

You could come to such a conclusion in at least two ways. I am interested to know why you think some conflicts may not be resolvable. Consider two children who both want the same toy. It is a finite resource that cannot be shared so at least one child will have to go without the toy. This may be what you mean about a conflict that cannot be resolved. The NVC method is to look past the toy, the 'strategy to meet a need', and look to the need itself. One child may want to connect with the past and the other may want self-expression. Once the needs are identified there are infinitely many, by definition of an NVC 'need', ways to address these needs. NVC assumes there are enough resources locally to have these needs met. That is another reason you may not think that all conflicts can be resolved. Generally, conflicts arise on the level of strategies. We all have the same needs to varying degrees at different times. If we think creatively about how we can meet our needs, and don't merely cling to our preferred strategy, then I suspect that we could use the resources at hand to meet our physical and psychological needs. NVC limits: I wouldn't try to NVC my way out of a tax bill. You can't do creative problem solving with people who are following orders and not allowed to think. The idea of 'need' can be tricky to understand. So, if somebody couldn't figure out how to make the leap from 'strategy' to 'need' the conflict would get stuck. For other psychological reasons some people will not consider giving up their preferred strategy or will not negotiate with 'the enemy'. Those are some practical reasons why a conflict may not get resolved. Otherwise the theory seems sound, and it has worked well for my family helping to repair damage over the last 1-2 years.

In NVC judgement has meaning that is different than the common usage. An NVC judgement is a statement that confuses the world for ones experience of it. Let's consider a statement that is relevant to FDR, 'Mike is evil.' The common usage of this phrase would be similar to 'I don't like Mike, a lot.' This is a statement about the speaker's experience, even though 'Mike is evil' seems to be saying something about Mike. NVC tries to avoid these confusions. On the other hand if by 'Mike is evil' an FDR'er meant that Mike knowingly violates principles of UPB, that really is a statement about Mike. There is no objective/subjective confusion. The statement is in objective form, and the content is about objective characteristics. This is NVC compliant, as I understand it. The main reason to stress this ob/sub difference is for clear ('annoyingly precise') dialogue when going into a confrontation so that it can be meaningfully resolved. If we go into a confrontation with the idea that the problem is that 'I am too angry' it implies a negative prescription to solve the problem. The problem is with me and my excess anger. Less anger will solve the problem. NVC shifts the focus to your experience and needs. Perhaps you feel agitated and disturbed. Then perhaps you need more tranquillity and empathy. You can then turn that into a request, like for me to speak to you more quietly and for us to discuss our feelings daily. Resolving conflict and establishing empathy are the main goals of NVC.

A jackal is merely the confusion of objective and subjective. There are different ways around it. As we have mentioned one way is to define things objectively. Another way is to make it clear that your language show experiences are not objective characterises. Like in the OP Child1 said,'My experience of you is stupidity.' Another way around it is to educate the person you are talking to. If they come to understand that experiences are not a claim on objective reality then you can say 'you are funny' without the confusion. In NVC talk this would be to 'put on your giraffe ears'. As opposed to 'putting on your jackal ears' where a person hears claims on their characteristics despite your language not indicating any such thing.

Yes, objectively 'stupid' does not reflect what these children are doing. The main point there, I suppose, is that it is not a problem with the word but rather a problem with how it is used. For the geeks in the house, in regular expressions some functions are 'greedy'. There is no problem calling something greedy in programming despite some people using it as jackal attack. Note that even 'judgmental' is used as a jackal the way that your ex used it. In NVC 'judgment(al)' is not a jackal because it is being used as a substitute for objective characteristics. Yes, I am assuming that your ex did not objectively define her terms. Note that your use of 'sensible' is a jackal. It can be a difficult habit to break. But if you have strong relationships then it may not be a problem.

I will apologize in advance that I tend to take in core principles then make them my own in practice and so with NVC. As such I am not sure exactly what of NVC is canonical and what I have made my own. One of the core ideas of NVC is the idea of 'judgment' (or 'jackal'). And in defining what exactly is a judgment may be my first break with the canon. I have come to define an NVC judgment as 'language that confuses objective and subjective', or that confuses the world for one's experience of it. And there is little doubt that such language exists and causes problems. We could begin with the statement 'Stef is funny'. This statement is of the same form as 'Stef is human' and yet says something very different. 'Stef is human' is talking about the world, objective reality, specifically Stef's relationship to other humans. (The truth of the statement doesn't change its status. The same can be said of the statement 'Stef is canine' though it is false.) 'Stef is funny' is talking about the speakers experience, subjective 'reality', of Stef while the language suggests that funny is an objective characteristic of Stef in the way that being human is an objective characteristic of Stef. Why does this matter? The simplest example has taken the name 'jackal trap' in my home. Child one: "You are stupid." Child two: "No, I'm not." Child one: "Yes, you are." Child two: "No, I'm not!" 'You are stupid', assuming it is sincere, is confusing Child1's experience of Child2 with an objective characteristic of Child2. This makes it seem like they are disagreeing about something in the objective world. If Child1 were to be to be annoyingly precise and NVC compliant he would say something like 'My experience of you is stupidity.' Child2 could counter with 'My experience of myself is not stupidity'. This language makes it much more clear that they are not disagreeing about anything, merely having different experiences of the same thing. This can get more complicated if words like 'funny' or 'stupid' are defined objectively. 'Funny' could be defined to include anybody that has made Joe Rogan laugh. 'Stupid' could be defined to include anybody that has scored less than 85 on an IQ test.

There is a forum called 'General Messages' and one called 'Miscellaneous'. It seems to me that these are redundant. Though they would seem to be of different priority since one is at the top of the forums list and the other is at the bottom.

37% of working dads would quit if spouse or partner could support the family Another 38% say they would take a pay cut to spend more time with kids Don't be surprised if you see more dads on the playground with the kids during the workday. According to a new CareerBuilder.com survey, 37 percent of working dads say they'd leave their jobs if their spouse or partner made enough money to support the family. If given the choice, another 38 percent would take a pay cut to spend more time with their kids. Nearly one in four (24 percent) working dads feel work is negatively impacting their relationship with their children. Forty-eight percent have missed a significant event in their child's life due to work at least once in the last year and nearly one in five (18 percent) have missed four or more. According to the survey, the time working dads spend on work far exceeds the time spent with their children. More than one in four (27 percent) working dads say they spend more than 50 hours a week on work and nearly one in 10 (8 percent) spend more than 60 hours. In terms of the time they spend with their children, one in four (25 percent) working dads spend less than one hour with their kids each day. Forty-two percent spend less than two hours each day. While more companies today are offering various programs and options to promote work/life balance, some working dads say their employers are lacking in this area. Thirty-six percent of working dads say their company does not offer flexible work arrangements such as flexible schedules, telecommuting, job sharing and more. Richard Castellini, vice president of consumer marketing at CareerBuilder.com and father of three, offers the following tips to help dads gain a healthy work/life balance: 1. Keep in touch -- While you're at work, make a quick call in between meetings and projects and let your children know they're top of mind. 2. Plan a kid-friendly potluck -- If co-workers in your department have kids, ask your boss if you can have a kid-friendly potluck for lunch on a Friday. Not only does this allow the kids to spend extra time with you, but it also gives the employees in your department time to get to know each other better. 3. Give your undivided attention -- When you're at home spending time with your family, turn off your cell phone, step away from the e-mails and give your undivided attention. If you bring work home, do it after the kids have gone to bed. 4. Keep one calendar -- Schedule baseball games and play recitals on the same calendar you use for meetings and travel to make sure you never double-book yourself. Save your vacation days for those special events in your children's lives, so you're there and in the front row. 5. Make time -- At least once a week, schedule a family activity that involves interaction such as a game, bike ride, trip to the playground, etc. Also, make sure to schedule a date night for you and your significant other. http://www.cnn.com/2007/US/Careers/06/13/dads.work/index.html?iref=newssearch

Day care supervisor Savannah Silvana said the children are learning that police officers are their friends and people they can rely on. Someone they can turn to in times of need. “We talked about the things that happened,” Silvana said. “We try to teach the kids how police protect us.” She said one student asked why the man killed the police officers. And they discussed how the police risk their own safety by trying to protect the people. Asked who is looking after the three fallen police officers now, several children said “the angels.” http://www.journalpioneer.com/News/Local/2014-06-11/article-3758933/Youngsters-honour-fallen-RCMP-officers/1 To be fair children have less to fear from police since they don't have anything to steal.

The Ting Tings - That's Not My Name: The song usually gets me chocked up. I think it reflects the schizophrenic nature of loneliness. Sometimes hysterical and sometimes tranquil. Perhaps even both at the same time. My mother got depressed and left when I was very young. We, 4 kids, had different women take care of us for my first 8 years. I remember getting into fights then but I had no struggles with friends or loneliness. At 8 we moved and I left my friends and I had much less adult supervision. My father continues to be a workaholic. I mostly went from school to home with my 3 elder siblings, oldest 12 years old. That was when I really started struggling. I had some kids to play with but I never connected to any of them. I remember not smiling because I always forgot to brush my teeth. There were other less secure kids than me. I wonder what they went through. Some kids were even picked on by the teachers. How sadistic. I never took friends over. Our house was usually a wreck. When I got a paper route I would go to the corner store and get a microwave meal for supper. I sometimes cried alone in my room, and even sometimes while walking my paper route. I was lucky to be good looking in high school and I was approached by girls. Otherwise I would likely never have made the jump. Now I have a good romantic relationship, a step son and a daughter. I met her on a dating site. Most of the people I spent time with would sabatoge my pursuits and relationships, so there was no chance of meeting anybody through them, or even around them. I still don't have friends other than her. It makes things pretty volatile when we disconnect since I loose most of my bearings. NVC has helped my be more stable when we disconnect and we more easily keep and repair connection. My social skills are improving but I'm still not sure how to make friends. Though I also don't have the same drive to get more people in my life. I am currently mostly satisfied. If you have insights please share.

These numbers seem kinda all over the place. For example, 'To what extent do you fear being a victim of crime in your community?' Atlantic is double the national average; then 'Have you been a victims of crime in the last towo years?' Atlantic is less than half the national average. What?! The RCMP confidence seems to suggest they are default good unless the news tells them otherwise. Does this generally mean that the ancap, non centralising message is not getting out? http://www.angusreidglobal.com/polls/48971/canadian-confidence-in-police-courts-sees-significant-rebound-over-2012-sentiment/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=canadian-confidence-in-police-courts-sees-significant-rebound-over-2012-sentiment