Steff Prax

Wow. That's a tough one. My convictions as an Anarchist and Atheist grew steadily over my 17 year marriage, before the divorce. Our principles certainly differed, and I certainly craved rational conversation, but it was her controlling and manipulative behavior that eventually put my misery over the edge. Getting a Christian/PoMO to take the red pill, when they don't want, is certainly a challenge. I didn't hear anything in your delivery about being miserable in the relationship as it currently stands. It seems you are just fortunetelling that their MAY be unhappiness down the road because you can't pound rational thought into his head as fast as you'd like. If you don't have kids, then you don't have much to lose by walking away, but I have to wonder how hard you've tried to talk some sense into him. Some of us are quite a bit more thick-headed than others. The degrees of our Statist and religious indoctrination varies. By your admission, it took you 2 years to get deprogrammed. How much eloquently stated material did you have to absorb during that time to get to the point where you are today? Did your hubby have the same exposure over that time? Can you restate the same arguments to him with the same level of eloquence? I would certainly hold on the idea of kids at this point, but I just have to wonder if you've really given him a fair chance to catch up to your "enlightenment".

I'm 42 and my girl-friend/fiance is 51. I think I've always had a maturity level about 10 years older than I really am, so it works perfect. My attraction to young women stops in the instant I consider their capacity for intelligence and moral behavior. Similarity in principles, interests, and philosophies is what will really make the relationship strong, and finding an attractive young lady under the age of 30 that isn't a Statist/Socialist moron is a rare find indeed. I adore and respect my kitten more than anyone I've ever met. Her willingness to be freakier than any chickie in her 20's is a huge plus too! I suppose she's more of a cougar than a kitten. lol

First, I'd want to make sure you guys had watched "Why men don't want to get married" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1t6j50Tkwy0 and "Why men don't want to have kids" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dujXV7D7RXo I think that may help narrow things down a bit. I was pressured into marrying my high school sweetheart at the age of 24. I was going through the motions because it was what everyone expected of me. We dated for 8 years before marrying. We had kids. I divorced recently, after 17 years, and now, with taxes, child support, and alimony, I get to keep about 20% of my income. Its horror stories like mine that strike marriage fear into the hearts of every young productive man, and frankly, they SHOULD. Fortunately for me, I managed to find the love of an amazing woman that I do intend on marrying. However, the ONLY reason we are marrying is because without doing so, there are people with guns that will prevent her from staying on this side of an imaginary line on the ground for an extended period of time, or permit her to make a living. We do not seek to have the State or Church condone or control our relationship by licensing and certifying it as valid. That is up to us. That being said, we DO NOT live in a Stateless Society, unfortunately. So, in order to be productive, we DO have to play the game at times, and there ARE advantages to getting married in this Statist Society .... taxes, healthcare issues, and affairs of estate come to mind. Your fear of marriage is well founded ... just look at my condition ... and consider Stefan's take on it. However, it IS a significant gesture regarding your willingness and commitment to the relationship. I can't blame women for wanting that level of commitment before having kids ... being a single mother without help or financial support is tough. Encumbering the man in the relationship with the threat of violent coercion should he decide to call it quits later down the road seems an attractive option. I suggest you both be honest with your fears and consider the pros and cons. Just don't EVER do something just because you felt that is what was expected of you by society, friends, family, whatever.