Wesley
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You're being vague. I give precise example what went on and how I deal with it.
I didn't answer anything. I was asking what proof you wanted. You didn't answer my question at all. I think I am done with this.
(Here is an example of anger leading to me not continuing to beat my head againt a wall and being quite helpful.)
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Either they are or they are not. Now please explain.
I have no idea. I just found the article and posted it for people to comment on. I didn't say whether I supported the ideas in the article or not or supported the organization or not.
It could be an onion story for all I care and it may still be interesting to discuss...
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Now you're telling these people are honesty, truthful and far from the things I have been told.
I said nothing of the sort...
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Oh so for the circumcision one you put a clip of the procedure, but when it comes to breastfeeding, no visual example?? You monster!
Personally, I am ok with Stef not visually showing us what breastfeeding looks like...
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http://money.cnn.com/2013/11/22/news/companies/bitcoin-virgin-space/index.html
Good news, future space travelers: Now you can enter the void without bringing your wallet.U.K. business magnate Richard Branson announced Friday that his commercial space travel venture, Virgin Galactic, will allow customers to pay for their flights with the digital currency Bitcoin.
"Virgin Galactic is a company looking into the future, so is Bitcoin. So it makes sense we would offer Bitcoin as a way to pay for your journey to space." Branson wrote in a blog post.
"A lot of the people who have joined Bitcoin are tech-minded people, as are many of our current future astronauts."
Bitcoin was created anonymously in 2010 as an experimental form of money that exists only online, and is not regulated by any central authority. Around 12 million have entered circulation, with the Bitcoin algorithm capping the eventual total at 21 million.
The volatile currency surged in value earlier this year after a banking crisis in Cyprus shook confidence in government-issued money, and it has rallied again in recent weeks. Bitcoins are currently valued at about $735 each, up from roughly $13 at the beginning of the year.
"One future astronaut, a female flight attendant from Hawaii, has already purchased her Virgin Galactic ticket using bitcoins, and we expect many more to follow in her footsteps," Branson said. The Virgin Group founder added that he had acquired some Bitcoins himself as an investment.
Branson plans to join his two children on Virgin Galactic's first commercial flight next year. The company says several hundred passengers have already reserved spots, which go for a whopping $250,000 each.
It seems the number of things you can't buy with Bitcoin is running out!
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The page say it's not found and it's Christian site btw.
Link fixed.
The Christian Science Monitor is relatively well-respected and a secular publication that is owned by a church.
Here is the info on their FAQ page if you are interested in reading it:
FAQ1. Is the Monitor a religious publication?
No, it’s a real news organization owned by a church – The First Church of Christ, Scientist, in Boston, Mass., USA. Everything in the Monitor is international and US news and features, except for one religious article in the weekly magazine and Daily News Briefing – a version of which has appeared each day since 1908, at the request of the Monitor’s founder, Mary Baker Eddy.
In an age of corporate conglomerates dominating the news media, the Monitor’s combination of church ownership, public-service mission, and commitment to covering the world gives the Monitor a uniquely independent voice in journalism. In fact, unlike most US news organizations, the Monitor does not rely primarily on wire services, like AP and Reuters, for its international coverage. We have have one of the strongest networks of global correspondents in the news industry. Each year, we typically report stories from more than 350 places in 100 countries around the world.
2. Why does the Christian Science church own a news organization?
One answer might be found in a story the Monitor’s Washington bureau chief, David Cook, related in a talk several years ago:
"Consider this case. It is 1907. An elderly New England woman finds herself being targeted by Joseph Pulitzer’s New York World. She is 86 years old and holds some unconventional religious beliefs that she expounds in a book, Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures. The book becomes a bestseller, making her wealthy and a well-known public figure.
The New York World decides she is incapable of managing her own affairs and persuades some of her friends and her two sons to sue for control of her estate. Although Boston and New Hampshire newspapers and major wire services interview this woman and find her competent, the New York World is unrelenting. The lady in question finally is taken to court where the case against her is dropped.
And the next year this woman, Mary Baker Eddy, founds The Christian Science Monitor.
Given her experience with the press, it is not all that surprising that she sets as the Monitor’s goal 'to injure no man, but to bless all mankind.' In one of life’s little ironies, Joseph Pulitzer went on to endow the Pulitzer prizes for journalistic excellence.
And Mrs. Eddy's newspaper has gone on to win seven Pulitzer Prizes so far, the latest in 2002 for editorial cartooning.
Mrs. Eddy had been thinking about a newspaper for a long time before 1907. Way back in 1883 she wrote: 'Looking over the newspapers of the day, one naturally reflects that it is dangerous to live, so loaded with disease seems the very air. These descriptions carry fears to many minds, to be depicted in some future time upon the body. A periodical of our own will counteract to some extent this public nuisance; for through our paper we shall be able to reach many homes with healing, purifying thought.'"
3. Does the Monitor have an agenda?
We are not about promoting any specific set of policies, actions or ideologies. The founder of the Monitor was convinced that what reaches and affects thought ultimately shapes experiences and moves our world forward. News, therefore, should be thought-provoking, trustworthy, and engaging. We seek to give our readers the information and multiple perspectives they need in order to develop their own constructive conclusions.
4. If the Monitor's news is secular, why is "Christian Science" in its name?
It's about honesty and purpose. We do not hide the fact that the Christian Science church has stood behind this publication for more than 100 years. While some might argue that not having those words would give it wider appeal, to remove them would mislead people about the organization that supports the Monitor. Eddy knew this from the outset. She insisted, against strong opposition from some of her advisers and church officers, that the words “Christian Science” should be in the paper’s name.
5. Do church leaders determine or influence the Monitor’s editorial content?
The Board of Directors of the First Church of Christ, Scientist, has oversight over Monitor editorials and editorial cartoons, but rarely edits content. The board selects the Monitor’s editor, whose staff chooses stories they feel are most meaningful to our readers.
6. Why doesn’t the Monitor endorse political candidates?
The Monitor’s editors believe readers should decide for themselves who is best qualified for public office. Through our extensive political coverage from Capitol Hill and in races around the country, we strive to provide all the information necessary for voters to make political decisions most appropriate for them, their communities, and the nation.
7. How would I find out more about the Monitor’s founder and Christian Science?
For more about Mary Baker Eddy, the pioneering woman who founded the Monitor, see The Mary Baker Eddy Library for the Betterment of Humanity at www.marybakereddylibrary.org.
Visit www.christianscience.com for information about Christian Science and our publisher, The First Church of Christ, Scientist. Here you can learn more about Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures, the premier work by Monitor founder Mary Baker Eddy. You’ll also find articles, discussions, and events showing how people are using spiritual ideas in their daily lives.
Regardles, this still is a story that is out there, and it coming from Christian Scientists might be an examination point in itself.
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I mean something you can prove, meaning links. I don't agree with many professional claiming anger is healthy. That would be like saying poison is healthy in small amounts.
What kind of evidence would prove this to you? You already seems to discount any professional that claims anger is healthy or my own personal experience where anger has helped me.
I cannot come up with a solution to a problem where every available solution doesn't count.
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Anger never helped me and when i was a kid if I was to be angry because people hurt me I would be angry constantly. It's not just my parents that hurt me. My sister caused problems so did some of my teachers. Kids giving me a hard time and more. I made bag judgements when I got angry even if was other aspect of my life. In business especially when you deal with the public you can't get angry at them and tell me off. You lose customers.
Sometimes I get frustrated and that's not good either. I try to tone it down with peeve. I'm more calm and tend to make better judgements. I don't know any business people making good business decision with anger. If you think anger helps show me an example where anger helped at all.
You failed to show me real world example how anger helped someone. In martial arts you even slightest angry you lose concentration and you perform not as well. My sister made a lie about me and my aunt stabbed me in the back. But they are the ones stressed over and angry. i know because she talked crap about me. The sad fact my sister been back stabbed by my aunt shows it. My aunt been even mean to her students. She is so unhappy with her life and angry at people. Her husband died a few years ago but this is going overboard. She has more than enough money, things you she wants, she has more friends and others who care deeply about her yet she is the one is miserable. I was really angry eventually, I failed most people would have been angry long ago. Now I look at it it was petty things. She just has negativiity and been too much to even to talk to. Once I realize it was something wasn't worth getting angry over I was calm and made rational decisions. I can say this I gave her the fair chance more chances than I go give most people.
Life is too short to be angry I have better things to do. The autocorrect feature on my browser is "peeving" me.
I listed several examples as to where anger could be helpful. I think all of the examples I listed have been relevant to me at some point in my life.
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No, I don't hear thrashing around, loud bumps or adults screaming. I really can't understand why children would have temper tantrums like that though.
I think that children have temper tantrums because they cannot express themselves in a healthy manner.
Imagine you are incredibly uncomfortable and there are people around you who can help you. You will ask for help. They ignore you.
You might then ask a little louder, and they may still ignore you. You may then thrash about or yell or try to do something to get attention and then they may listen and help you.
The next time you are uncomfortable, you are much more likely to start at a louder and more thrashing level than at the quiet asking for help. After all, you were punished when you just asked by being ignored for genuine expression and rewarded at least with some attention for creating a tantrum. Then these parents then always wonder why their kids have many tantrums.
It is true that crying could be some normal. Kids play and get hurt and in general express emotions very fully when they are sad and not scolded into not expressing themselves. However, I would guess that this situation is somewhat worse than that if it is happening so regularly and so forcefully, but it is a good point that it may not be the result of abuse or neglect by the parents.
I wish that when I felt sad I was able to fully express my feelings like a child can. Not in a tantrum way, but to really cry deeply when I am sad. That was beat and yelled out of me though and it has been very difficult for me to relean how to express myself emotionally.
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Show me where anger has positive effect. Not once have I seen positive effects from anger. I have seen anger causes stress, frustration, etc. Even with myself it caused problems not something helped me. Do you have a right to be angry? Sure you do. Does it help any? I highly doubt it. People expect others to get angry, that's what they expect but when you are compassionate there's nothing they can do. They just get frustrated and leave. I had people angry at me, calling me names and sort. I was kind and firm to them. I told them if they couldn't be respectful to anyone they had to leave. Nothing they said could get me angry and later on they came back apologizing. I said no need to apologize just asked them to act with respect they would expect from others. If I got angry I would have lost a custom. In fact that has happened before.
Anger is the innoculation of abuse. If I get trapped in a situation of verbal abuse, getting angry at it ensures that I am much less likely to be in that situation again. You can get angry to set boundaries for when someone goes to far in a relationship. You can get angry in order to defend yourself or the people you love. You can get angry at abuse which would lead to you never acting in that way yourself. You can get angry which can drive you to make changes in the world or in yourself. There are many potential positives of anger.
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The price being high doesn't matter. The price could go 1000x its current value. Everyone would just deal in mBTC or uBTC and everything would be normal. BTC is infinitely divisible, so the price of 1 BTC really doesn't matter at all.
There is a very large market for bitcoin and it is constantly increasing. It will only get more.
Lots of people buy stuff with bitcoin. Having coin in order to save also is not a negative or look down on a currency. It is very important to be able to save and people may choose to do that.
Put any small amount you can save into bitcoin. You do not need to move the amount you use for daily expenses (or mafia pay-offs) into savings. That is not what anyone is arguing you should do.
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Yeah, the trouble is that the bullies get to decide what bullying actually is of course.
Well obviously "official bullying" is not included. Just like all official definitions of terrorism have an extra clause in them that excludes the state.
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I thought this might be interesting to discuss.
1. Bullies lash out because they have low self-esteem.You’ve heard this theory before: The classroom bully acts aggressively toward others as a way to compensate for the fact that, deep down, he really doesn’t like himself. This may be a satisfying explanation for bad behavior, but numerous studies show it to be untrue. Indeed, research shows bullies feel just fine about themselves; some studies suggest that they have excess self esteem and feel better than others. (Some researchers speculate that this is one of the ways they rationalize their behavior.) This doesn’t always mean that bullies lead a blithely carefree life, however. The Centers for Disease Control has found that bullies are more likely than other students to experience violence at home.
2. Zero-tolerance policies against bullying decrease bullying“Zero tolerance” policies became popular in the 1990s to deal with a host of school – and, for that matter, criminal justice – challenges, from drug use to violence to sexual harassment. Usually a zero tolerance policy includes an automatic penalty for a given infraction, regardless of who is involved or what the extenuating circumstances may be. The concept is that if kids know they’re going to get kicked out of school for bullying, they just won’t do it. This approach is still favored by many anti-bullying groups and websites.
But researchers say there’s no evidence that zero-tolerance policies lower the incidence of bullying. There are, however, a number of studies that show a correlation between zero tolerance and increased aggression and harassment at school. Why? The American Psychological Association’s task force on zero tolerance said in 2008 that these policies did little to standardize punishment and did not take into account the best developmental approach for teenagers. Other researchers have said that zero tolerance does little to build needed compassion.
The other side of the anti-bullying spectrum is not necessarily always better, however. A comprehensive international review of anti-bullying initiatives by The Campbell Collaboration research network found that peer-based, or peer mentoring, anti-bullying programs often increased rates of victimhood, as well.
3. Technology is the problem. Cyberbullying is the main form of bullying these days.Social media, the Internet and cell phones have certainly changed the bullying landscape. Children today have a far harder time finding respite from bullying; what might have once taken place only at school can now follow kids home on their cell phones, Facebook pages, and e-mail accounts. The Internet also provides a slew of opportunities for people to be mean, from slam boards (no-holds-barred college gossip sites), to fake Facebook accounts. Add to that some scary statistics – such as the National Crime Prevention Council’s finding that more than 43 percent of teenagers have been the victims of cyberbullying – and it would be easy to focus anti-bullying attention on-line.
But many researchers say that the vast majority of bullying still takes place in person – in the classroom, the schoolyard, and the cafeteria. Much of the on-line bullying, they say, is an extension of what starts face to face; studies also show that students report in-person bullying to be more damaging.
Many of the high cyberbullying statistics may come from the way different studies define “bullying,” which in some surveys is described as anything from a mean text message to an unauthorized forward to another teen blocking the victim from his or her Facebook page. (Academic and legal definitions tend to require more components for behavior to qualify as bullying.) A recent survey by the Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project found that 15 percent of teens who use social networking sites say they have been the target of mean or cruel behavior there; 69 percent say their peers are mostly kind to one another.
4. Everyone is equally at risk of falling victim to bullying.While there is no single profile of a bullying victim, there are characteristics that make a child more likely, on average, to become victimized. Researchers say that socially marginalized children, whether because of sexual orientation or disability, are more likely to be bullied. Bullying also “plays out differently across gender and age, ethnicity and race,” professors Danah Boyd and John Palfrey wrote for “The Kinder & Braver World Project: Research Series,” a 2012 synthesis of research on bullying published by Harvard University’s Berkman Center for Internet & Society.
There are also situations that cause a child to become a more likely target for bullies, some researchers say. Children who are new to school or who do not have friends are more likely to be bullied than those with a more secure social network.
None of this is to say that bullying won’t happen to anyone; many researchers simply urge schools and policy makers to recognize these risk factors.
5. Bullying is a major cause of suicide and school violence.There have been a number of high-profile, tragic, incidents of bullied children committing suicide. School violence – most recently the shooting at Maryland’s Perry Hall High School – has also been regularly linked to bullying, usually with the explanation of a bullying victim seeking revenge. But researchers say the connection between both school shootings and suicide is far more tenuous than popular media reports would have us believe. The media coverage of the 1999 Columbine High School shootings put the idea of the loner, bullied students taking out their anger through violence; author Dave Cullen, who was one of the reporters covering the story, spent the next decade researching his book “Columbine,” untangling the myths of trench coats and outsiders he says his media colleagues created.
“We all knew what happened there, right?” he wrote about Columbine in a New York Times soon after this summer’s mass shooting in Aurora, Colo. “Two outcast loners exacted revenge against the jocks for relentlessly bullying them.
As far as suicide: While research has found that victims of bullying do face serious psychological challenges and is associated with an increased risk of self harm, there are typically other mental and situational factors also underlying suicides. The Centers for Disease Control found that suicide was the third leading cause of death for youth between ages of 10 and 24; it lists a number of risk factors, including depression, alcohol abuse to easy access to firearms.
“Not one bit of that turned out to be true." -
http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2013/oct/29/bitcoin-forgotten-currency-norway-oslo-home
Man buys $27 of bitcoin, forgets about them, finds they're now worth $886k -
Wesley, Astute observation.... you see, its difficult though, because hes very charming. I dont know if youve had this experience, but he learns what you like and he pretends hes like that, then he also finds what people dislike and spreads rumors as if he is oblivious and with you emotionally when hes reallu soing it purposely. For instance, hell say "oh he has no intregity, you know that?" "Hes got absolutely no integrity", "no integrity, he has no integrity." He told me rhia after we had a discussion about peraonal integrity four days earlier. He also openly talks about how hes writing abouy everybody in the breakroom, and that we are all charactera in his movie. His weakness,
I think you may have hit enter before you finished your thought.
However, if you know this about this person, then why would you share personal information or beliefs? Why are you even talking to them?
You also didn't answer why you thought there would be reprecussions at your job for asking to not be around him. I am curious as to that answer.
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If my parents spanked me it's not negative right? It's just is?
I don't know what the rest of your post means.
This is an action. An action can be evaluated as positive or negative. This has nothing to do with thoughts, beliefs or feelings.
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Thank you for asking. Let's use a bucket of water. Negative actions and thoughts is dirty water because it causes you stress. Let's say positive thoughts is clean water. You go to therapy and change things you have mostly positive thoughts, however you haven't forgiven so there's still negative thoughts. You might not be fully aware but subconsciously it's still there. The more negative thoughts will result in dirty water. So can you say the water in the bucket is pure? Of course not because it contains dirty water.
The rice experiment will prove this. I asked people to do it but they won't. If you do it you will understand what I mean.
On top of that negative thoughts causes stress. People that hurt you in the past are harming themselves because it takes thoughts to do bad things. Unless they pay back what they have done they will continue to suffer. If they are harming themselves probably for their entire life would I be angry or dislike them? If I can truly forgive them then I won't suffer and that person will, would be unreasonable for me to continue to be angry at them. Stefan talks about highest level of virtue. How can you have highest level of virtue when you hate people. Of course it's not that I don't get angry, but I don't hold grudges for a long time. The difference is I'm striving for highest level of virtue. I don't claim to be virtuous because I haven't reach there yet.
Btw it's not about suppressing anger but transforming it. There is a big difference. I hope you enlightened to it eventually.
I do not see how justified hate is a negative thought.
I don't really see how any feelings are negative. They just are. I would consider anger and hatred to be a feeling rather than a thought.
Thoughts I wouldn't evaluate on a positive/negative scale, but on something more similar to a true/false scale. Beliefs that generated thoughts can be challenged, but if a belief is wrong it would still be odd for me to say it is negative for the person. I think I would be asking the "compared to what?" question. I wouldn't say "thinking 2+2 = 5 is negative", but rather that "thinking 2+2 = 4 is false."
Maybe you could explain that a little more what you mean and then I can better articulate the problem I find with it.
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Armitage, yes but I dont sant ti pursue. I am fearful I may lose my job. I also fear I will lose respect from your other people. Theres over ninety people that work here. Im sure other people are irritated and confused around him as I am, but if I tell then management will kniw I follow the rules, and our relationship will pribably crumble. Im at work now, im gonna start off small and tell him I dont like heaeing the verbal abuse of ithers. He will probably find that hilarious and continue to do it around me, so as to say "fuck you", which is better than him relyijg n me to listen to his shit. There is no salvation or solution with him directly, he is constwntly doing this kind of stuff to everyone. He makes up stories about people by using what he know you despise and pretending the other person has thise negative qualities. The thing is, if I tell him I know this, its annoying because then he completely changes and pretends hes just like yu and your defenses are lowered and he does the same thing over again. Its all a game, it reminds me if the movie predator, where the alien is invisible and camoflaged within nature. He tries to be like you because he figures youll like yourself. I just cant fucking stand it though, but he also oikes getting peole angry, he figures the first persn too get angry, loses. This is where my problem lies, I have an above average amount of fear and anger in confrntar ions and I dont want to use it on a troll oike sadist who irgasms over it, but its also a oanguage he desnt speak. He never gets angry ever, but then flexing my anger around him may scare others off at work. So reaooy its oike a war if yiur reputation with others. I want ti say forget it I dont caee I need ti stand up for myself, I mean I really dnt, I understand most people are pretty much pro-violence and go foe whoever is just more elloquent or charming, their sort of like sugar to ants with people. I find charm to be skeptical over, while others massage themselves with a blindfold to these peopoe! But I dont know, this is very important and its hard to stay strong believe ng isolated in standing up to him but im give nna start with continuqlly speaking my mind. I also cant confide in him whatsoever. You dont try ti get close to asnake! But anything I di tell him or he finds out I will just know hes gonna use it as a weapon or psychological tactic to woe or soothe me into his propaganda.
This sounds to me like passive-aggressive behavior. He is incredibly angry, but thinks anger is wrong. He illicits the anger in others constantly and then rejects it by laughing.
I would not confront him on the idea that he is performing this behavior. Either he will see it is making you angry and that will feed his addiction, or you will trip his underlying rage in which you should be very scared oof what may happen.
You should try to do whatever you can to mninimize your exposure, ask to be moved somewhere else, ask for you to not be paired with him. I am sure something could be worked out.
Why would you pointing out someone is abusive or just express the preference of working with someone else make you lose respect or lose your job?
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I think the first thing to figure out with a fear is to what extent is it justified and to what extent is it not justified.
To the extent it is justified, then you should thank the fear as something that will protect you from a dangerous situation.
To the extent it is not justified, you shoul figure out what you are actually afraid of, mostly as learned behavior from your past. The fear/paranoia was useful when an actual potential danger was present, but now it may be on overdrive. It still is useful in identifying scary situations, but it should be one of the voices you listen to, not something that overtakes you with paranoia.
I would maybe look back at some of the mecosystem podcasts. I am sure some people with experience in the area or who are currently listening in that range could help pick out some good ones.
I hope this was useful for you. I do not think I am the best one to answer your question, but I see that you weren't getting responses so I wanted to help you out with my understanding and maybe spur some more responses.
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You can not have true love with hate. If you can not forgive the person that you have hate at some level.
I do not understand either of these statements. I do not think either is true. I would appreciate an explanation as to your thought process.
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Some time ago, BitInstant was working on a Bitcoin debit card that you stocked with Bitcoin. Then at the Point of Sale, you would swipe it like any other debit card and it would send them a credit using a company like Mastercard or something.
I can only assume this hasn't worked out yet as I haven't heard anything about it since then.
Anyone who could create a viable Bitcoin debit/credit card system work do a lot in bringing Bitcoin within reach of the technical "Luddites".
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An open-source map of local bitcoin businesses has been started that is separate from the very large list of online retailers. Even if you do not have Bitcoin, if one of these businesses is in your area it would be awesome if you supported them. This also may be something to check back with as Bitcoin continues to expand.
I am adding it to the "What Can I Buy With Bitcoin?" section.
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I am a big fan of random banter and podcasts where Izzy makes an appearance.
Podcast 1637 up until the 8:00 mark certainly qualifies
http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_1637_Freedomain_Radio_Sunday_Show_April_11_2010.mp3
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PheePhyPhoPhum: is there a book or a paper on Peaceful Parenting from Stef? Could you send me the link or where is it located. I cannot find it. Thank you.
It is still in progress. A first draft is available in the Gold + forums. Otherwise you would have to probably wait for the final to be produced and it to be released.
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This was in there. Somewhat softer language, probably to be more encompassing and get a higher return.