Wesley
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For starters, I will put a link to the torrent thread for any large number of downloads or more regular users:
http://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/34236-more-torrents/?hl=torrent#entry317261
Besides that, I think we may need information as to bandwidth usage and what cost is considered low cost. Doing a quick Google search yields sites with various tiered plans:
http://www.maxcdn.com/pricing/ (Monthly, click button for yearly)
https://www.cloudflare.com/business (bottom of page, start at $200, though they likely get a bit higher with higher requirements)
http://aws.amazon.com/cloudfront/ (Only pay for number of requests and data transferred)
This is just from searching CDN quick on Google, so it is easily possible that none of these are good options or that there are better options than CDNs available.
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‘Marriage improves cancer survival rate by 20% and can be BETTER than chemotherapy when it comes to battling the disease’
Marriage has many benefits when it comes to raising children, buying a house, and having a hand to hold during life's toughest times.
But new research suggests that, for some cancer patients, having a husband or wife could be more beneficial than chemotherapy.
New research from Harvard University shows that, for 10 common kinds of cancer, being married means patients are 20 per cent less likely to die from the disease.
Academics found that people who were married were more likely to get diagnosed early, before tumours could spread, and more likely to have life-saving surgery.
Amazingly in some forms of cancer, including breast and colon, the benefits of being married outweighed the stated benefit of chemotherapy.
The study, of 750,000 people including those with lung and prostate cancer, also found that the effect was larger in men than in women.
Unmarried cancer patients - including those who were widowed - were 17 per cent more likely to have metastatic cancer, which spreads beyond its original site and were 53 per cent less likely to receive the appropriate therapy.
Dr Ayal Aizer, chief resident of the Harvard Radiation Oncology Programme, said: 'Our data suggests that marriage can have a significant health impact for patients with cancer, and this was consistent among every cancer that we reviewed.
'We suspect that social support from spouses is what's driving the striking improvement in survival.
'Spouses often accompany patients on their visits and make sure they understand the recommendations and complete all their treatments.'
Then the article ends by backing away from saying that marriage is better than being single and instead says that a partner can be replaced by friends or other family- as long as there is strong social support.
However, it is interesting to think of Christina as being better at curing cancer than chemotherapy. Add one more point to her skill set.
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When I hit my kids to solve problems, it teaches them that hitting people is ABSOLUTELY NOT acceptable and that hitting kids is wrong. In fact, to make sure my kids don't hit and bully people, I am going to go hit and bully them right now. That will teach them a lesson.
I cannot understand the doublethink that people praise. It is baffling.
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I understand your hesitation. Do you believe "forgiveness" is a "virtue," "Live and let live?"
Not at all
If I say to you, "congratulations on not shitting your pants in public this time!" and I meant this as a genuine compliment, would it not seem in conflict of your interests, and be seen as bullying? What if you wanted to shit your pants in public and were frustrated that you could not due to constipation? Wouldn't that "gesture of kindness" be seen as mockery?
I do not understand how the analogy relates. No one has ever congratulated someone for not shitting themselves unless they were a child or disabled person where it was appropriate to congratulate it. I cannot think of a situation where anyone has ever wanted to shit themselves.
From the emotional undertones in the original post, It is pretty obvious to anyone with emotions and empathy to infer that I didn't like my birthday and I see guav's first response to be a passive-aggressive verbal attack on me. I feel threatened.
He obviously was trying to manage your emotions by trying to turn your feelings into happiness. However, it was not attacking. That was a feeling that you had that was triggered, which you then managed by taking out your anger and anxieties onto him. Even if he did attack you (which I cannot see) the answer is not to attack back, but to express true feelings. Not the conclusion of "you attacked me" but the feeling of "when you say that, it makes me feel _____" and then you look and analyze together whether it was him, or if it was you getting a trigger from your past and many such things. If this is not possible, then you still do not attack back, but just do not interact with them.
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If it was someone who I randomly met and passed by, I would take it at face value. Yes, I would think they are misguided and wrong, but they really only mean well wishes.
Like someone who says "bless you" when I sneeze I say thanks, even though I know it comes from a time when people thought demons where exiting your system through sneezing.
When I wish Merry Christmas to someone who happens to be Jewish, they do not get offended, but they return a Happy Hanukkah.
Now if I met with a great friend who I knew for a long time, then I would talk with them about my feelings around the topic and hear their responses and we can talk about how we can deal with it in the future.
This is vastly different than attacking someone who wishes you well more or less in passing. Someone who is in passing does not foster strong emotions, but people in your past like parents do. This why you look at parents and other caregivers and see if there was projection.
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What do you mean by "a cry for help?" I think you might be onto something.
I think I did have a depressing childhood and I'm still grieving it. That's what "birthday" is to me, ...grieving the childhood I never had. Every year, I get one step closer to freedom from illusion such as, "I had a great family all along. They were just hiding."
It sounds to me that you were taking out some of your feelings on someone who was just trying to wish you a happy birthday.
You never asked me if I wanted to be told "happy birthday." It's not fair to me or you.
I don't like my birthday because I've never had a good one. Wishing me "happy birthday" is like a big "fuck you" to me. It's okay because you didn't know before, but please respect people's wishes.
Your parents did not respect your wishes and you birthday reminds you of this. You project "your wishes not being respected" from your parents onto Gaurav who did not know your feelings about a situation, unlike your parents who knew everything about you and still rejected your wishes.
Please tell me if I have it wrong, but people generally do not enjoy when this kind of things happen, especially when their intention was good wishes or to comfort you a bit.
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I would agree with Lens. The goal for putting a band-aid on the problem is desensitization. Hopefully your feelings will be repressed enough to get by.
Trying to actually solve it involves finding the origins of the emotion and experiencing it. Once you are able to empathize with yourself, you will be able to want to not go there again and work to change things. You can only change once you know and experience the events that created it. Getting help from a good therapist can be invaluable.
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You never asked me if I wanted to be told "happy birthday." It's not fair to me or you.
I don't like my birthday because I've never had a good one. Wishing me "happy birthday" is like a big "fuck you" to me. It's okay because you didn't know before, but please respect people's wishes.
I would just like to point out that you titled this thread "Happy Birthday to Me".
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So they tell a white lie like "due to the shape of your daughter's ears a nerve might be damaged if we perform the perforation".
I could see many situations where this wouldn't be a deterrent. They already decided to cause the girl pain for aesthetics.
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Value is arbitrary. It can be valuable to me to mug someone and steal their money, as I become richer for it. However, that does not make it any more moral or rational to do it.
Value of actions and morality of actions are completely different categories.
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Podcast I listened to today relating to this:
http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_898_How_to_Meet_A_Nice_Girl.mp3
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This somewhat reminds me of a "Handbook of Human Ownership" for parents. That could be an interesting short book.
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Someone I would like to see is Kal Molinet
https://www.facebook.com/kal.molinet
http://www.youtube.com/user/Renegadeboysct
He is a very well dressed and well spoken anarchist who has focused on methods with how to talk to people and make the ideas seem obvious and agreeable with the average person. He focuses on making anarchy a fun community that treats people well instead of angry and frustrated people who get pissed off at irrationality or government policies or something.
I think he would be a decent resource to go in-dept on your "Biggest Obstacle to the Liberty Movement" video.
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I am wondering why you couldn't take a break from school to write. You could get a part time job to pay bills, put yourself all-in on writing for a few years, either gain certainty in failure or in success and could always go to school after certainty is gained. You do not need to major in English to write. You just need to get out there and write, especially with the ability to self-publish e-books on Amazon and such.
Worst case scenario, you have the experience, decide what you want to major in, no longer feel regret at not being a writer as you tried your hardest, and then go to school slightly later with hopefully a little bit of money more than you had before.
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I would ask what would happen to you when you tried to express what you wanted?
My guess is it was met with scorn and disapproval by at least one parent. This is then normalized by you and your sister. Your sister views guys who ask her out who she doesn't want to go out with and an annoying inconvenience, rather than a compliment and she then reenforces the normalization to you. This leaves you not wanting to express preferences in general, and especially in dating relationships and a history of expressing preferences that was met with disdain, disapproval, and eventually self-attack.
If this is the case, then I am truly sorry for your experience.
What I would begin to realize is that if a woman shut you down and is negative to a simple question, then it is not someone you want to be with. If you had been with that person, then it would have been a recreation of the scorn and disdain for preferences that you experienced in the past. If these situations keep happening to you, I would analyze why you would keep asking out women who act in this way and specifically work to try and do something different in the future.
The way you know that the woman you are asking out might be worth it is that she politely declines or accepts, both of which are not a negative experience and just an expression of your preference, followed by her expressing her preference.
I did develop this from some personal experience with anxiety about asking women out as something similar happened with me.
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I would have much preferred my parents to be poorer and to have cared for me and shown me empathy and loved me than for my upper middle class parents to have done many of the abusive behaviors they did do.
I know this isn't directly related to the OP, but I thought I would go from a different angle than the other probably are going.
I also like Alan's post which went from a different angle than usual.
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Atheist
Reyshizz (YouTube Channel) rhythym2468 (FDR Handle)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Xlwj6B2gvU
Lyrics Snippet:Cuz nobody would believe in their right minds
Honestly this is funny, I can't lie
From stories of Jewish zombies to the holy poltergeist
From raining down fire to eating Body of Christ
I know baby Jesus looks sweeter than Reese's Pieces
But I'm good, I'll let the Catholic priests eat em
Rabbis suck the blood after they mutilate his penis
You telling me this is what being clean is??
A-T-H-E-I-S-T
(Yup)
A-T-H-E-I-S-T
(Man)
A-T-H-E-I-S-T
(Lets Go)
A-T-H-E-I-S-T
Song Meaning:I didn't have a song in mind today, so I figured I would post from another FDR thread into here.
http://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/36426-atheist-rap-song-with-lyrics/#entry339071
This song seems to be about frustrations with hypocrisies, oddities, and abuses in religion. Today was the first time I heard it and I found it quite enjoyable. If you enjoyed the song, then support them so they produce more!
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Those are two separate arguments.
1. All property was once acquired by force.
When restitution is possible and can be proven, then provide restitution. If someone is dead, then I should not be held responsible for the sins of my father, let alone for ages past.
2. Property (external to the body) is an invalid concept.
This one always annoyed me and I usually just ask them for their money and their clothes if they have no just right to own it. They never give me it. It is impossible to eat, produce, or live in any way without either having things that you have some ownership claim over (renting included) or to take something that is unowned and acquire ownership over it. No one has ever explained to me how this can be done without them fundamentally misunderstanding the concept of property or ownership and without in the process of explaining it, not currently exercising ownership of property external to their body.
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That could be a funny presentation to anger any sports fans since football season is starting up. I remember there was a really early podcast that talked about it right here:
http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/Sports_and_the_State.mp3
It isn't super descriptive into the history, but draws analogies between supporting a state and supporting a sports team. If that doesn't satisfy you, then maybe you could pose some more specific questions as to what you are looking for.
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Cameo Lover
Kimbra
Lyrics Snippet:
I've got high hopes baby
But all you do is take me down to depths that I never knew
You've got two arms baby
They're all tangled in ladies of the black skies posing blue
Let go of your mother
And turn to your brother
Not a long gone lover's noose
Sometimes baby the hardest part of breaking
Is leaving pieces behind you
Oh we've all gotta get by
Let me come and hold you high, with you
'Cause everyday's like talking in your sleep
Love is like a silhouette in dreams
Open up your heart, open up your heart
Open up your heart and let me pull you out
Everyday's like talking in your sleep
Love is like a silhouette in dreams
Open up your heart, open up your heart
Open up your heart and let me pull you out of here
Song Meaning:This song is about a person who is stuck inside himself and being "broke down". Kimbra is trying to be there with him so they can be broken down together and he can have someone to lean on. She is also expressing the struggles about how difficult it is to take it on and that it is heavier and to depths she never knew.
The whole point is to get him to try to break with the past traumatic people, which this piece shows:
Let go of your mother
And turn to your brother
Not a long gone lover's noose
Sometimes baby the hardest part of breaking
Is leaving pieces behind youFinally, the goal is to open up his heart to show real emotions and be vulnerable again. The music video shows him slowly opening up and "gaining color" as it progresses and he tries to open up more and more.
Also, if you get a few minutes you can browse some of Kimbra's other songs. She tends to have a very free dancing style that is completely her expression, as well as she often has bits of scat singing in her songs with free expression of vocals as well. (Though it is likely that once she wrote the scat vocals, it became written and thus not as free in further renditions, but this is just a guess.)
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If you have not reached the end of season 3 and do not like spoilers do not keep reading.
Instead of using <> brackets, if you use [] brackets then it should work so that someone needs to click a button to show the spoiler.
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Pure logic, formal logic, applies to abstractions and has only as much to do with reality as your premises do. You can apply valid logic to anything, even unicorns. Stef usually includes "evidence", that anchors things to reality. Reason, I would hope is reality based, but common usage has warped the word to mean almost anything (usually a straw man created by someone arguing against it), so in order to use it meaningfully, it helps to give your own definition.
You seem to have missed my post right after that went through the scientific method and included evidence and experimentation.
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Perfect
Simple Plan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kFr7IJBmz0
Lyrics Snippet:
'Cause we lost it all
Nothing lasts forever
I'm sorry
I can't be perfect
Now it's just too late and
We can't go back
I'm sorry
I can't be perfect
Nothing's gonna change the things that you said
Nothing's gonna make this right again (right again)
Please don't turn your back
I can't believe it's hard
Just to talk to you
But you don't understand (you don't understand)
Song Meaning:
This song came out when I was entering high school and I started to feel disillusionment with my father. I do not agree with everything in the song now as FDR and my self knowledge work had helped me resolve the relationship, but when I was younger I went through these periods of depression where I was stuck between my father's expectations that I didn't want and my desires which he didn't approve of. As I expressed desires it would result in fights, so I learned to not express them.At the time there was a lot of ambivalence in wanting to please him more than anything, and him being a jerk who I didn't want to talk to. This song meant a lot to me at the time as something where I could exercise some of my complex feelings and have an artistic outlet so that I would not be consumed by the conflicting feelings. Otherwise it would have resulted in my self-attacking further and thinking that I wasn't perfect (as I viewed my parent's expectations at the time as perfect).
I am not totally sure if this fits the premise of the thread, but it was useful in my self-knowledge journey, so I figured I would include it anyway.
It is always interesting for me to think back as to when some of these ideas originated- in that I have held them for so long, but yet it took me so long to make them conscious.
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I think it is a pretty cool idea. I think the things you listed should be communally written, and then people who wanted to share their stories can be added to the book in the back and will be edited and/or selected for diversity of possible experience, quality of writing, etc.
So its like a "theory" section and then an "examples" section. The examples could be much more helpful than the theory.
I would contribute some editing and such to the project and would like to read a finished product.
I also think a digital copy may never need to be ended and if some sort of categorization to the stories could be done, it could be an open ended book that someone could add stories to if they wanted to. This may be asking a little too much, but just an idea. It doesn't need to be a part of the book, but could be anonymous submissions to a page about the book where people could share stories or read the stories of others.
Maybe people do not wish to share their examples, but I always found listener conversations that provided examples as more valuable to me than the intellectual stuff as I could emotionally identify with what was going on. Stef has often said that certainty in relationships is not an intellectual pursuit.
On My Journey To Happiness
in Introduce Yourself!
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Hello and welcome!
I would say you do not need to know anything before positing on the forums. In fact, everyone doesn't know far more than they do know. In fact, you often delve into a topic only to find that you can never know anything about it.
Often, the goal is to learn and challenge ideas. As long as you have a desire to learn and agree to a methodology of science (when logic is applicable) then you can share the knowledge that you have and learn knowledge that others have.
In fact, I could think of nothing more boring than participating in a conversation or listening to a lecture where I don't gain anything and already know all of the answers. Ex: A lecture teaching people that 2+2=4 sounds painful to sit through.