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Thanks, Yeravos Now only to get rational women to join. The male/female ratio here is notoriously unbalanced. Need to find a way to spread the message to help them find their way.

Thanks, Dylan I hope it takes off.

Hey there In absence of an FDR dating site I've made a Facebook group called Rational Dating 101, which can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RationalDating101/ I'm hoping this'll turn in to a nice group for rational singles to meet and for rational married/dating people to come and talk about how best to maintain rational relationships Feel free to join and spread the link to people you know who might be interested but who aren't part of these forums.

Hey Matt I'm still waiting on an equivelant of FDRating.com I considered building a dating site myself but ran in to so much legal and tax law nonsense (think they're trying to prevent entrepeneurialism much? ) I might have to settle for a page on Facebook I am a part of two European/Nordic FDR Facebook groups but that somehow doesn't seem like the right place to post personal adds.

Hey Yeah, I signed up for the nearest one to where I live but it's pretty dead.

Hello Yeravos I've just finished reading your book. It has a good message in it and a lot of helpful tips for people who want to start journaling. It also amazes me that you've only been journaling since some time last year and have already made such great progress. Maybe you could do a follow up book in another year? There are some grammar and spelling problems I've noticed. I'd suggest letting a native English speaker look at it. I'm not very good with things like comma placement myself so I would be of limited use to you. Little mistakes (like the occasional word that's left out by accident) can be a distraction from the message. Some time during your journaling example you mention that the Inner Critic and the Rebel are not the Self. Though aren't they all pieces of the Self which have gone extreme in some way and need to be pulled back in to the fold? All in all an enjoyable and helpful read!

Well it might be something that you do which is based on past experiences. In any case as you say it does telegraph to the world that you're not comfortable in that moment. Makes you wonder what about those moments makes you uncomfortable enough to display this habit. In my own case I know I do it when I'm tired and stressed and generally in need of comfort. Luckily I'm able to control the behavior when I'm out and about though sometimes if I get really tired or upset I do notice the urge to put my thumb in my mouth and sometimes it even gets to that. But then I'll just pretend I just wanted to brush past my lip or rest my head on my hand awkwardly as though I'm thinking.

I was just going about my business at home (currently working on my daily NaNoWriMo word count) and when I stopped to mull something over in my mind I noticed that I had automatically stuck my thumb in my mouth. It got me to thinking on why I still do this. I've never been able to quit sucking on my thumb, most likely because of an insecure or non-existent bond between me and my primary care giver, my mother. I have no memories of my life before the age of 7 which could mean all kinds of things. I just know that I've always sucked my thumb whenever I get tired or stressed and that I've tried quitting many times but always return to it, specially at home. They tried all the usual stuff with me of course, putting a bandaid on it or smearing something foul tasting on my thumb so I wouldn't want to stick it in my mouth anymore. I was too stubborn, though, and I persisted. The only consequence, aside from living with a slightly embaressing secret, is that two teeth from the lower jar have a bit of a gap between them from where my thumb keeps pushing against them which is easily fixed with bracers. Other than that it just serves as a reminder of how my parents felt that children should serve their parents rather than it being the other way around. Does anyone else here have similar habits as a result of insecure childhoods?

Hi Eschiedler. That'd be great, thanks I've been meaning to join the EU call but so far I haven't managed it. I will some day soon, though. And maybe there'll be a EU meeting some time to join. Who knows?

Right. Just because someone can't donate money doesn't mean they can't 'donate' time by sharing videos and talking to people about FDR, peaceful parenting, UPB, etc.

I think the official challenge is to start with a new story on day one, so no cheating

I'm joining in again this year No script and just a few vague ideas; just the way I like it.

I used to wear lots of t-shirts and run-down stuff when I was in my mid twenties. I was pretty depressed and didn't care much for my appearance. When I started getting a bit more confident I started caring about what I wore more as well. I too got rid of a lot of old stuff and started wearing nice things. I didn't dress radically different but I would make small, gradual changes. Those changes were parallel to how I was feeling about myself. The more confident I got the better the clothes I wore and dared to wear because part of the reason why I always dressed down when I was still feeling depressed was for fear of attracting attention to myself.

Hi Ribuck Thanks for the compliment. Unfortunately Dutch and English are the only languages I speak with any confidence. I know a bit of German and French but not enough to speak it. I'll add the languages though as it'll help clear up the issue.

Is that actually going to be a thing? Probably not, but it's fun to dream. I guess you're right about not having defined what I'm looking for. I guess I was too busy explaining who I was first I'll sort this out asap.