An excellent point you make. I'm up for staying home, but I think Ash doubts that we could pull it off. She knows that I want to homeschool, and we have talked about it quite a lot. It's still a sensitive subject though, one which we are constantly adding new variables into the mix. I have no doubt that I would regret not spending as much time as I can with my children. There is nothing I wan't more than to give my child the best chances at life, and to be there with them, learning with them, experience the joys and hardships together, as a family.Maybe I should start seriously weighing my options for alternate income from home. I have looked briefly, but couldn't find any direct income. The only way I referred to working from home, is that I am currently developing a video game that may or may not make a single penny
I have made some pocket money selling paintings though, I wouldn't mind taking that up again. My biggest concern about effectively being a stay at home dad, is that Ash will be the one with separation anxiety. I won't get too specific about it, but she was brought up in a toxic environment, and generally has self-worth issues. Nothing usually too serious, but with when talking about out children, I can see it means so much to her that she is afraid of failure, afraid of repeating what she went through, scared to commit to things that are unfamiliar or considered socially abnormal.
It's something Ash and I will continue to discuss over the months, of course, I think I just feel like there is information from experienced people that I am missing. Like a piece of the puzzle that I didn't know was missing that once we find it she will let her guard down and we can both commit to a very serious aspect of our (as of yet) unborn child's life, not to mention our own life.
Edit: Another thing I should mention is that Ash really wants to open her own daycare service from home. But to do this, we need to have a home. Which complicates things as you know we are currently renting an apartment. We have more important things to think about now though, which is what is best for our child, and secondly what is best for us now. Career will have to go on hold if it has to. That being said, we still have 6 months before they are even born, alot can happen in that time. We may be able to scrape enough money in the meantime to put a downpayment on a home. I sure hope so that would make it a lot easier!