cmckay

I thought this was an amazing article. I can relate to it so much it was almost chilling to read. Always being in a constant state of worry when interacting with women is something I've always had. All of my compassion goes out to you for working with an issue like this. I am really curious about something. If I find myself interacting with a woman where it is probably true that she's doesn't really care about me, I find myself wanting her attention even more. It's like the strings of my heart get pulled and I end up craving the slightest bit of attention from her. I think it's obviously not based on rational thought, but it's interesting how this happens. Can you relate to this experience?

Hello everybody. Long time lurker, first time poster. I wanted to bring up the subject of comfort objects that many of us attach to as children (i.e. stuffed animals, blankets, etc.) In my case, I had a blanket that I would cling to. I wouldn't be able to fall asleep without it until the age of 6 or so. With what I've gathered from reading articles about it, the consensus seems to be that it's a perfectly normal and healthy thing that even helps a child develop. I'm not sure if it's been discussed on the podcast or this forum before, but I find myself questioning the dogma that it's normal and healthy. I can certainly see that if a child isn't having their needs met and they aren't forming a healthy attachment to their parents, they could end up forming an attachment to an object instead. I'm curious to see what thoughts you guys have on this. It's something I started thinking about and I haven't made any conclusions yet. Did you have a comfort object also? Is it normal and healthy?