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Hi, I want to learn more about Korean War. I searched, but I did not find any relevant posts. I also did not see a convenient "History" section so posting here. I figure there would be a lot of knowledgeable history buffs here. Please recommend a book for me. Thank you.

I got a question for this, if someone can help me understand would be very appreciated. Molymeux mentions Freud and the development of Oedipus complex as a shield to not recognize children's sexual abuse. Can someone led me to where I can find out more about this? Does this mean Oedipus is not a valid theory? Open to talk about this over the phone or Skype also.

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Hello Peeps! I thought I would share my thoughts on motivation and my drive that I've been experiencing in the last few weeks. I wanted to share them because I think that getting feedback on how I'm doing currently is helpful for me. I feel like I have missed a lot of things in the past (in which I made mistakes in) by not getting this kind of a feedback. And hopefully this will help me and some of you out there. Recently, I have been very driven to pursue web development. Currently, I'm working at it 2-4 hours a day. I have been wanting to quit doing it everyday since I started, but I was able to pursuade myself against quitting. And I have this extremely driven personality which helps me to push myself being 100% immersed into something, but sometimes I go too fast for my own good and also I pick the wrong things to do. But I feel like this time is different, and I really hope so. I have many more tools to help me (especially my mindset) since my last failure but I could be missing something. I wonder if someone has experience in this regard? And please ask me for some critical questions regarding me studying this field. I will try my best to answer the questions without putting on my biased glasses. Thank you.

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Hi Kurtis, Thanks for your response. I think that's a really wise strategy you took to come up with questions to send emails to. Why I haven't thought of that, I don't know. In the past I usually went with in person interviews to ask questions but with emailing there is like less of a risk. I will suggest this to my girlfriend! Thanks What do you feel that's most helpful with your therapist? I want to have something in my mind to always check if I have the best person serving my interests... in the beginning I forgot and got hurt pretty bad.

Sorry this might be a little bit off topic, but I got really curious when you said you had a "very happy childhood". I got very curious and skeptical when you say this because I generally get a sense that people don't gather in this board if they did in fact had a great childhood. That's just my assumption and it could be wrong, but that's just my impression. So if in fact you did have a great childhood, first I'm immensely jealous, but also I'm curious what value the boards bring for you?

I was wondering how difficult it was to find the therapist you have now? Are you satisfied with the level of service? Have you had bad therapist experiences? (interviews or for multiple sessions)? Where do you live? I'm asking these questions because it has been damn so hard for me to find a therapist in the area I live. I had multiples of terrible experiences with therapists, and also I had another today with my girlfriend. We were looking for couples' therapy and this guy tried to basically bully us with his bad philosophy. I felt so terrible and my stomach was doing parkour so we left a bit earlier than planned. I still feel bad about it, and it feels absolutely terrible to think that he professes to "heal" anyone. And currently, I have an individual therapist right now but it's been a difficult road to get to where I'm feeling okay with this one. I still have reservations about him but we'll see. So I was wondering what your experiences are in regards to this. We both live in a city that's full of disneyland liberals who believe in anything that psychopathic people-monsters feed them, so I'm really wondering if that's the case. Let us know! Thanks!

When I heard the news on reddit, I felt a bit emotional too. I believe it was saddening because I really enjoyed playing pokemon as a child and it was like my parents in a way. This is what I think after Tomas' post. I think I emotionally bonded myself to games and when the creator of those games died, I felt sad. And I think it's natural to feel that sadness when something (or someone realted to the thing) you loved disappears.

Hi Koroviev, First, I would like to commend you for trying to reach out to these people. I think it takes courage and goodness of character to try to help someone who you profess to be friends with. I have certainly read through the entire posts that precede mine and I hope they help you. What I would suggest is to sit them down and have an honest conversation with them. If you were to sit them down for maybe an hour or two and ask them about their situation, maybe that can help you get some more information to act from there. My thoughts are that your curiosity might open up their hearts to their own situations. Maybe you can ask them questions like : "Why do you want kids?", "Do you want your kids to like you?", "What are the advantages of having a big house for your child?", "Why would you rather work than we with your child?", "How many options do you see in your life?", "What is the end goal you are trying to achieve with having kids and a bigger house?". Some questions like this might help them understand themselves better. And also, I think will it help with your relationships with them too I hope this suggestion helps! I'm curious to see how everything turns out. Maybe it will be good ending!

I heard your video, and I thought it was interesting to hear. First I want to sympathize with your upbringings as a child. I can relate to you on many levels and it seems like you had a really tough time especially in high school. I'm sorry that has happened. I think that addiction is a very serious problem. I have recently realized that I have been addicted to porn, drugs, academia, relationships, among others things that had (and still is) a negative effect on my well being. I have recently put my priorities on helping myself with my sexual addiction rather than any other issue that has affected me. I'm currently seeing a therapist for this because I realize that I cannot go about it alone. From my experience, anyone who has a compulsive disorder (or an addiction) will try to substitute another addiction if he or she were to repress the initial addiction without dealing with the root causes. For example, I substituted computer programming and academia for porn for awhile. I convinced myself that I'm getting out of porn, but really I wasn't because I still had compulsions that were harming me. Without a competent person (therapist included) or friends that can help you see these problems, it will be nearly impossible to see what you are planning to be addicted to next, in my opinion. I'm a very smart person but I failed to miss many things that were (and I bet still is) happening with my behavior. Why I mention is because I feel skeptical of your actions of becoming a power-lifter. I might be projecting my issues here, but I see a lot of the behaviors that I see when I try to take up something new to be immersed in it. And every time, they don't get me what I want. I believe this is so because I'm looking for my next addiction. I would look into what the best possible way it is to get good at something. Then find the "perfect" way to do it. And really obsess about how I'm going to be a "top" person in the field. I might be wrong, but I see similar behavior here. And I'm not saying it's wrong to look up how to be the best at something. It's just that for someone like you and me who are addicts need to really be careful what we decide to focus (or distract) our minds on.

After having another conversation with my girlfriend, I got some more information out of this dream. I realized that the person outside of the door is actually a representation of myself. And I think that it's my parent's manifestations of myself. So it's like my parent's part of me. And that person is really trying to scare me and go over my boundaries. And in essence, I think it is a dream about being afraid of myself. Because there are parts of me that are so against what I'm and what I believe in. And those parts made me do bad things and it is still affecting me a lot to this day. I have had similar dream in the past, and it's something that I need to inspect more. August Boulder, I don't know if you read the intro to my dream, but I have stated that I'm looking for a individual therapist as well as a couples' therapist. Recently, I have found an individual therapist and will be going to my 2nd session on this coming week. So far so good

One thing to watch out for are some therapists that are detrimental to your growth. I have had experienced some myself, and it was difficult for me figure out at those times that they weren't doing me any good. So I would suggest that you keep in touch with some folk about issues that you have with therapist here or someone that you know and trust and keep talking about it. Best of luck to you!

Hi Kevin, I don't know what happened the day before, but recently I have been doubting myself and thinking about what to do with my girlfriend and my situation. Whether we should move in together again or not. I'm guessing that it's telling me about that but I'm not sure. I have many fears. If I were to relate it my relationship with her, I would say that I fear messing our relationship up. Failing our relationship. Like we did things too rashly rather than to wait it out. It hurts me to think about that. There was a couple of weeks where I really felt bad about our relationship and I distanced myself away from her. And I think this dream came after this had happened. I felt that all my negative emotions meant that I should change the relationship to her in some way to fix it. I didn't want us to hurt each other inadvertently so I shut off. I didn't answer all your questions in the first post but I'm willing to hear your thought and further questions on this. I find your analysis interesting. I find that helplessness is certainly a big part of my life. I feel helpless about my life sometimes. I had no choice regarding anything in my life, so I have been really trained to be obedient and helpless... waiting for the next command to come my way. And when I think back on this dream, I think about how dogs are obedient and slave like. But at the same time, I wonder why my girlfriend is portrayed in this fashion? Hi Mike, I sent you a PM and email about it. Thanks.

Hello, I listen to Stef talk about a research that indicated that when people are confronted about their irrationality, their beliefs gets even stronger. I want to read the source research paper for this. Does anyone know where I can get it? Thanks.

I had a dream a week ago, and it has been on my mind since then so I would like to get some feedback on it. Short overview of current situation: I live with my girlfriend and we are thinking about splitting up into different apartments because we project our feeling a lot and we get into long conflicts that lasts hours. We have decided recently to seek couples' therapy as well as individual therapy to deal with this problem while living together. The Dream: I'm in my apartment. I'm in a fetal position in front of the door to my apartment in the inside. I heard some knocking on the front door, but I was scared that it was my parents and I didn't move. Since I was in a fetal position, I was able to see beneath the door and saw a person's shoes. The shoes were black and thick, like the shoe brand "New Balance". I just stayed down in front the door, because I didn't want my parents to know that I'm inside of this apartment. Then the door opens, and a hand reaches out to pet me on my back. I don't do anything. My dream skips to another scene happens where I'm in my bedroom and I see my girlfriend, who I slowly realize that she is a dog. She is a mixture of all the dogs that I have liked in the past and current: a corgi, a hotdog dog, shelty, and cavalier. She was coming towards me and I was so happy. This part of the dream was really beautiful for me. Then I start to realize that I'm a dog too because if she is a dog, I'm one too. So that's the end of the dream. I wonder what the significance of this dream is because I'm trying to gain more self knowledge. What do you guys think?

Hi engardeknave, I would like to first say that I'm sorry that you got banned for something that you only wanted to discuss. I can really sympathize with you because I had similar experiences involving me and my girlfriend. And this product it is sold on Amazon, so there shouldn't be any legality issues there I think. So it is, in my opinion, injustice for people of the FDR community to ban you just wanting to talk about this. My thoughts on the matter are that these are some really disturbing images. I cannot stand looking at them for much longer than few seconds because not only because of my history, but also because I think this is a form of legalized pedophilia. The title "immediate family" for this photoshoot tell me something about what the photographer wanted to capture: a sexualized view of family members. I think there is also an element of incest here as well. And in most of the photographs, the pose of the children are very sexual and something that you might find in a adult magazine...maybe even playboy or something like that. That is very disturbing. Also something else to think about is the fact that the photographer is a woman. What is a man shot these photos? How would you respond to them? How would society respond to them? Would he not be called a pedophile?

First I would like to address the OP by giving her/him a possible answer to his/her question. I strongly disagree with Mr.Capitalism in the OP's question being aggressive and I'm going to argue against that within his quotation of his responses. But now I would like to give OP an interesting perspective about the question being asked. I won't get too in detail with specifics because I do not yet fully trust the boards yet. In the past I have seen unjust things happen so I want to slowly see how people respond to what I say. So here it goes. My dad was a very wealthy man when he met my mom. She was model beautiful. My dad and my mom married each other for their vanities. And I'm a product of their genitals grinding on each other until one of them puked. Abuse within the family was very serious. I was very hurt by my childhood experiences. And with money, the dysfunction in the family gets magnified. There are more power games, and people are hurt more deeply. And money also affords you the power and the illusions. When you are crazy and have a lot of money, you can live in your illusions forever because people are willing to listen to what bullshit you have to say or do to take advantage of you. This is what I know of my parents and my history. My parents are not happy and they have nothing that makes them happy, except in instances where they use their positions to dominate others to feel good about themselves. Wait a minute. I don't see any reason or evidence that the OP is "funneling" him in to his or her life script. Where do you get this idea? The OP may have thought about a counterfactual, but she did not say anything that implied that she did anything more than that. And counterfactuals are very valid because it helps us make decisions. And how is an "attempt" to get to know the supposed millionaire important at this point? The OP may be just trying to figure out if that attempt should be made. And blaming the OP for thinking about the counterfactual in this manner is rude. You don't even know the OP is a woman. I have noticed in this and your other posts that you project negative emotions onto women. This is unacceptable. It makes me feel outraged that you are doing this to people on the boards. You blame without evidence and reason. And that hurts people. I think that the OP is not shaming anyone because he/she posts a picture and asks a question to explore. But let's say what the OP is doing is shaming the "millionaire". What's the problem with that? Didn't you think he's a liar? So, we shouldn't shame liars? Shaming is great for immoral people, so he deserves to be shamed, if your presumptions are correct. "Judging him"? Where do you have the evidence for this?? "Expectation of the future"?? What?? I don't see any evidence where OP implies this. A picture and a question for a title and you can understand expectations and judgements of the OP? No, you are just projecting here.

Holy Crap! This is awesome man!

Let me try to explain South Korean culture to you as far as I know it. I lived there from when I was born to about 10 years old, since then I've gone back almost every year for sometimes stretching as much as 3 months. I would think they would be hostile to ideas of parent abandonment. Maybe more so than America...but it is just a guess from what I have seen. The obedience to parents is really ingrained into society. Every year there is a tradition in which the youngsters bow down (like a bow down yoga position) to their parents and grandparents. The same bow is used to bow to Buddhist (biggest religion in S. Korea I think) gods. It is no coincidence I believe. Almost everyone participates and is like a Christmas season for the retailers with people buying food and stuff for their parents. I have not actually talked to any other S. Korean except my parents on this matter and they haven't responded positively to it. I don't know any S. Koreans actually so I don't know how they will react to it actually. Would be very interesting to do so... and of course I will do it with a person who I have screened out to be capable.

If you want a challenge, that is to learn more about stress, I suggest starting with the book "the Work/Stress connection" (1 cent + shipping on Amazon). This book changed my life because I didn't know a lot of stress at the time and I had no idea on how to manage it. And the subtitle for this book is "How to Cope with a Job Burnout" but this could be implication to mean any stressful situations such as familial relationships and what not. I hope you pick up the book

Hi group, I'm really curious as to see if there are any other South Korean listeners out there. Am I the only one here? Did I just become accidentally number one at something? Please excuse me because this has nothing to do with philosophy...it is just a curiosity of mine. Thank you.

Ok honestly you are putting yourself into a dangerous situation. I don't think $150 is enough for food, clothing, insurance(?), necessities(shampoo, etc), phone, and other things I have probably missed. I understand that you don't want to mentally suffer from your mom any more, but you're going from one dangerous situation to next. I perceive your new situation as dangerous because what will happen if you get into an accident and you broke your leg? Is your 800 per month stable income? Where is that coming from? What if you lose that? Before you act hastily, please talk to someone one about it more. Especially people from this community. I will be willing to talk to you on Skype if you are interested. Please PM if you are. I don't know how I can help you or if I even can, but I will at least talk to you about it.

This is very sad

Thesmoother, I'm sorry about what happened in your childhood. That seems like a horrifying experience that you have described. It is just terrible. I feel sad hearing it. You say you are attending therapy? Have you talked about this situation with your therapist? It seems like a very complicated situation to be in. And hopefully there is someone who can talk through with you all of the options available to you at this point. A well informed decision may be better than a decision in haste. I also suggest that if you are currently very stressed, I suggest that you go physically exert yourself (vigorous running/weight lifting). I know it might sound odd, but when you are in such environments as you have described, you might find yourself too often in the "fight or flight" mode. To not be tense all the time, which erodes your physical and mental health, I recommend a physical activity of some sort to release the tension. I believe that it will help you see things clearly and make a stressful events more manageable.