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I am sorry to have miscommunicated that this was not a traumatic experience for PetrKL. It most certainly was a traumatic experience. If what I said made it sound that it wasn't then it was my fault in not explaining myself well. It's NEVER the child's fault when a parent and a child do not connect. It's not the child's responsibility to be initiate communication or even to convey their needs. I was simply attempting to state (poorly it seems) that it sounds like PetrKL was unable to connect with the parents and to be able to express the hurt and confusion at what was seen during the night and not understood. That's not the fault of the child, there is something lacking in the parenting somewhere that made it hard for PetrKL to come to them and talk about this traumatic experience. This is something that the parents should have noticed if a child was scared, hurt, and afraid after seeing something. That's their job. Kids see things all the time that they don't understand and they should feel comfortable coming to their parents and talking it through. The fact that PetrKL did not feel comfortable doing this points to what I feel is the real issue. Lack of connection and compassion on the part of the parents. That's their job, and I think that they failed PetrKL here in a time of need. I'd like to express again that I did not mean that any of this was the fault of the child PetrKL, or that the trauma of this event was not real. I meant that this should have been a non-event in a healthy parent/child relationship if it were handled by people with real parenting skills.
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I think there is a difference between people having sex when they thought the kids were sleeping and "putting on a show" and getting off on involving others into their sexplay, especially having had to get the other girl liquored-up first to "break the ice" so to speak. It's like the difference of a family that embraces casual nudity around the home, and someone getting into the face of a child and fondling their junk right in front of them in an aggressive manner. I am sorry and empathize that you were confused, scared, and ashamed by what you saw your parents doing as a child, and that you did not feel close enough and connected with your parents to be able to talk about it with them and allow them to help you understand that you didn't do anything wrong and that what was happening was a natural thing and nothing to be ashamed or scared of. They should have noticed that you were upset about something and needed to make you understand that you were safe and they never meant to frighten or alarm you. Instead, because they didn't do that, you were scared and ashamed and couldn't talk to them about it. I can imagine that may have made you feel very lonely and all alone in the world at that time, and long afterward. I think maybe that this might be the real source of your unease about this memory. Perhaps the issue of a possible lack of connection with your parents on their part, leading to your inability to talk to them about what was bothering you.
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The worst thing about this whole incident is that has mostly blown over in the news already. For a minute there I thought there might be some real public outcry out there among the muggles. This speaks volumes about just how sick society has become in the USA. If this isn't enough to get people to wake up, what is? Probably nothing.
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Is it More Annoying to Debate Religious People or Statists?
BlackHeron replied to Wesley's topic in General Messages
What about religious anarchists? -The ones who don't want rulers on earth but have pledged themselves to be slaves to some sky fairy in the supposed next life? -
Chris Cantwell vs Stefan Molyneux debate?
BlackHeron replied to Formelyknown's topic in Current Events
The "Free State" project... There is no such thing as a "free State." At least as far as statism is concerned. It's a contradiction in terms. The only state of freedom occurs in voluntaryism -somthing the FSP-ers aren't quite ready to embrace. Back when I was a minarchist I joined the FSP, thinking perhaps there was some way to save the "republic." I"ve grown beyond that in the last 15 or so years. I never bothered to remove my name from their list. Why bother? I simply realized that Statism is not the answer. Violence and coercion are not the answer. It seems that the FSP people haven't quite figured this out yet. This little dust-up with Chris only highlights the fallacy of (big-L)ibertarianism. To see the People Farm is to leave it -not try and improve it, or attempt to negotiate with the masters for better care and feeding. -
Is it More Annoying to Debate Religious People or Statists?
BlackHeron replied to Wesley's topic in General Messages
Statism is a religion, but people won't admit this to themselves even. At least a regular religious person knows it is a religion deep down, while a statist doesn't even know they have been brainwashed -which is what all religions basically are: brainwashing. Religion and statism both are just a microcosm or a projection of traumatic childhoods being reprocessed and re-lived. These people grew up brainwashed and have spent a lifetime normalizing aggression, violence, and force in the form of authority. It's classic conditioning and Stockholm syndrome. None of them are going to be an easy nut to crack. They have a massive buy-in that no simple logical discussion is going to make a dent in. Until we can get people to stop hitting their children and break the cycle of violence/force kids are going to grow up morally/ethically challenged and without sufficient empathy to grasp UPB and the NAP. So debating with a statist or a religionist is like trying to get into a foot-race with the kid born without legs. It's just not a very satisfying endeavor when the legless guy is not ever going to be able to run, and the irrational brainwashed person is never going to learn how to really think. What is the point? -
Lifestyle Choices That Make Others Surprisingly Angry
BlackHeron replied to Magnus's topic in Miscellaneous
I've found the spandex-hate to be more of the same thing we are talking about here. There is a reason why serious riders (not just racers but distance riders too) wear it. We know it looks funny to the muggles, but we don't care. It works. Riding in street clothes for any time/distance gets extremely uncomfortable rather quickly. Short rides of under 30 miles without decent gear is bearable, but once you start riding for more than an hour or two it pays to have on the spandex. But it's easy for the unwashed masses to be scared and offended by anyone who dares to dress differently in public for any reason... -
I think this quote wins the entire internet for today, if not the entire year.
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Lifestyle Choices That Make Others Surprisingly Angry
BlackHeron replied to Magnus's topic in Miscellaneous
I still get a lot of flack from folks who feel that not watching TV is threatening to them. I'm not "fitting in" with society. I'm pretty anti car and anti roads. I do own a car though. I can't always ride my bicycle everywhere (although I try) but I need to commute between Chicago and Madison, WI once a month or so. A car is not all that expensive when you know how to work on them yourself, have the tools, and drive a mid-90's Japanese-built quality automobile that was designed and constructed to last forever when properly maintained (340,000 miles and counting) Being in my late 40's and married, and not needing full-coverage insurance keeps the costs down quite a bit too. Liability-only for my age/status/clean record is a pittance. Paying full coverage insurance on a new $30k+ car that the bank owns is very pricey, more so if you are a dangerous lead-foot with the citations to prove it. -
Wikipedia: When a metric ton of NaCl isn't enough grains...
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I do understand where you are coming from kalmia. I don't like the idea of calling the po-po myself and would try to avoid it if there was any other viable alternative. But sometimes it is like driving on the roads. Sure, they shouldn't have been built but it's the infrastructure we have. I've tried flapping my arms as hard as I can and can't seem to fly and air-cars are not commercially available yet. So what are you going to do? At some point even an ethical voluntaryist needs to interact with the evil system. The game is rigged, but unfortunately it's the only game in town and our choices are pretty limited in some situations. Kobayashi Maru. When it comes down to some kid being abused or holding my nose and calling the pigs, I guess the kid is more important...
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Metric system FTW! I can see how this happened though. Bad data in the databases. Poor record-keeping. Cutting of corners. Standards not being followed, etc. Mistakes like this do happen in the free market, but they are self-correcting and the folks that make them PAY for them. I wonder if anyone is even going to lose their job for this one?
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Get Woody Harrelson on the show - he is an anarchist
BlackHeron replied to GYre0ePJhZ's topic in General Feedback
There are anarchists and there are anarchists I've tried to read a bit about what WH has had to say in the media but I'm still not sure what "flavor" anarchist he is. That's the problem with Establishment Media. All we get is spin from those guys. I would love to hear Harrelson on the show and furthermore I'd love for Stefan to help plant a seed into his mind of a more pure philosophy-based anarchism to whatever degree he is willing to listen. -
Yes, indeed. I am an official high priest in the "religion" of Not Believing In The Easter Bunny. As an emissary and member of the clergy of NBITEB I am the beneficiary of tax-free status, and get to wear a special collar of office made of woven plastic green Holy Easter Basket grass. All hail non-Easterbunnyism! Heap scorn on all the EB beliebers... But I joke
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Here is the above-mentioned Penn & Teller episode of BS referenced by dsayers.
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Pantheism invalidates every "Against the Gods" argument
BlackHeron replied to spiritualguru's topic in Atheism and Religion
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can anyone recommend a good email service?
BlackHeron replied to Omega 3 snake oil's topic in Science & Technology
I'm looking for something to replace Gmail. Not that Google is necessarily totally finished transforming to "evil" but they are big, and they are established, so they really can't fight the man when he comes and demands cooperation. They've got too much to lose. Roll over or die, as it were. I'd like to find someone that did a Gmail-like small unobtrusive webmail that was easily integrated with PGP encryption. It'd be great if they didn't have all the things that suck that Gmail has introduced over the last few years. Best if it were some small off-shore firm that was starting up but wasn't about to go broke. Strong enough to tell the NSA to shove it, while far enough away and small enough that the NSA wouldn't have them as a prime juicy target for a lot of easy data in one swell foop. Not finding much, so I'm stuck with Gmail still.. -
I don't think that saying, "Is GM food safe?" has enough information in it to be meaningful. It's like saying, "are chemicals safe? Like others have said, humanity has been genetically modifying their food since before written history. We need to define the terms. I'll leave that to others. I'm not a chemist or a botanist. Can genetically-modified food be unsafe? -absolutely. Food can be easily altered so that it can be actually poison which can kill almost instantly. It can be altered to be less healthy, and it can also be altered to be more healthy/nutritious, and much more productive than those organisms that existed before mankind began to systematically grow them for our food rather than hunting & gathering. The GMO scare is just more Gia disaster-pr0n bait of statists who want yet another reason to give the state more power to regulate and control every aspect our lives. Like Global-Warming Gia disaster-pr0n it is just fear-mongering aimed at stampeding simple people into supporting their regulatory "solutions" which always tend to create a need for more and more state power to fix them. Funny that... I'm not happy about Monsantos and their policies. I'm not a fan of corporate/state monopolies who try and use their power to mandate and control our food supply. I'm also not a fan of those who would wish to turn back the clock on technology and return humanity to the starvation and privation caused by "sustainable" agriculture either. Can there be some middle ground? Technology is neither good nor evil, it's in how it is used. Should these GMO foods be studied and tested -absolutely. Should they be a choice that everyone can eat or not eat as they see fit? -absolutely. What mechanism can be used to help us chose what is best? Is this even a question in a voluntaryist community? We call it the market and price is the mechanism that is ALWAYS best to determine in what direction society should go. I have issues with the corporate entities that are pushing GMO's and regulations. I look at scary statist power grabs like the Codex Alimentarious and a cold shiver goes down my back. That's some scary shit, pardon my Eurotalk. But I don't automatically look at GMO as evil. It's just a technology and it might be a very necessary one if we don't want to see large portions of the world's population starving to death.
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Stefan and the FDR team produce so much content I barely have time to listen to anything else these days. Right now I'm listening to Feminist Straw woman attacks! and I'm running out of time to finish it tonight. I'm probably not going to get caught up before more content is available on the podcast feed. I need to up my contribution status to gold. Silver isn't enough to cover all this content I'm getting inundated with.
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I'm surprised that prison guard wasn't on that list.
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Pulling the Fire alarm at the FDR Forum and the Compassion test.
BlackHeron replied to mshidden's topic in General Messages
I am starting to think that maybe entire threads should be covered by the rating system and could be hidden from view, like individual posts are within a thread, while browsing from the Topics pages if the originator's reputation falls below the reputation threshold. Instead, somebody with a very low reputation can forge on gaming the system by continuing to post visible original threads in the forums and sustain the focus on themselves even though their lower-level replies within threads are hidden. -
A backup system if channel disappears
BlackHeron replied to FriendlyHacker's topic in Technical Issues
Google's (at least in lipservice) has been pretty good about standing behind its "data liberation" policy and allowing users to be able to download and control all their data stored on their servers. The issue has always been that a lot of the tools tend to break when you try to use them, especially if there is a LOT of data to download. I've tried a few times and failed with my own personal data and I've never evenn tried to retrieve my videos on YouTube. I think if someone with administrative privileges from the FDR google account tried to download all of the videos they couldn't say it was a DDoS attack although the sheer mass of videos involved would probably be unprecedented as a retrieval all at once. The process could take months officially and be a real headache for the FDR team. I think that doing it on the sly as Lians is talking about is probably the best way, and it doesn't require bothering Stefan, James or anyone else official from FDR to get this done, or taxing the server with a ton of bandwidth. It's a good thing you are doing though Lians. I have started torrenting a few of the podcast files and storing them on my computer to start helping seed them but there doesn't seem to much call for them. Not many people use torrents for legitimate uses any more. People have been scared off by the IP trolls. It's too bad as it is a good/cheap way to distribute large files in a decentralized way. I see a couple other peers out there seeding these but in the past 24 hours I've not gotten even the slightest hint of anyone biting on them to torrent. That's really killing my ratio on my torrent client but luckily I've got a bunch of Ubuntu/Xubuntu iso files seeding at the moment that are really hopping along and in high demand, so I think I'll be back up in positive ratio territory quite soon. -
Chicago Meetup Planned for Saturday, May 10th
BlackHeron replied to Melesina's topic in Meet 'n Greet!
And another scheduling conflict for me. We shall see if I can make it. I'd really love to.