@honest - Thanks for the share. First and foremost I can only imagine the trauma and the resentment you have towards your parents and the situations you had to go through, however I would like to bring some light your situation and say it's great that you can bring forth your memories and have a desire to escape the people that have hurt you. When I read your timeline of unfortunate events, I notice that the situations that occurred really took away your confidence of "self worth" and "ownership of being yourself" and that is really hard for one person mentally to overcome, however it can be done.
I invite you to look at your life from a different perspective, as the person who doesn't see themselves as the victim but as the bystander. Instead of looking at what happened to you in your life, look at your parents life, how were they raised, what events in there life's made them become the person they are. When you really try to understand your parents, you understand why they did what they did to some degree, and sometimes it sucks because you could possibly find out things you don't want to, however I feel it's important to understand both sides to really grasp the reason why they took the action they did. Your parents did care for you somewhat or else you wouldn't of lived with them right? If you do what I suggest above, you can find more realistic answers to your parents decisions, and I feel based on the memories you have, that this would be a great starting point for you, and as you find out things you can start to piece together - that yes your mother and father were strict and took unnecessary actions towards you, however at the end of the day it's not your fault at all, and just like millions of other people, you experienced an unfortunate childhood filled with events that create anxiety, trust issues, etc...but it's your choice now to find where to start the healing process and stick to it with a end goal of mind of letting go of that pain and those memories, and maybe even possibly finding a way to connect with your mother to help her let go of her pain and events that happened in her to make her do things that are unnecessary.
I hope this helps somewhat, and thanks for sharing your feelings.