Corpus mentium Thanks for your response. I am sorry that you are in the same situation. Sounds like you were more proactive in informing your FOO of your intentions than I was.
I am really sorry to hear about the situation with your sister. I just found out this week that my younger sister is pregnant. This makes me quite sad and concerned. I called her and talked to her about some of my concerns. I asked her why did she decide to have a baby? The first response was “I don’t know”. This made my heart drop as I was pretty sure that this would be the answer. We talked about it a little further and then I got the story of well I was on the shot and then there were some problems, I did not even ovulate and the well you know the end result. I tried to broach the topic of understanding the bad things we were taught as kids and that we don’t want to pass that on to our kids. Asking her to take some time and look in on yourself. I also made a point to ask her to think about not hitting her child. She asked me what about spanking? I informed her that spanking is hitting. The next question from her was how am I supposed to punish then? I find I have my work cut out for me as it sounds like you do as well.