I_Am_Norwegian

I consider myself an MRA and an anti-feminist. Of course it has it's share of idiots, but overall I've really enjoyed talking with the people over at /r/mensrights. I think we need someone to speak out for men, they are 80% of suicide victims, around half of domestic violence victims, they are falling further and further behind in education. If the rate at which men are declining in education continues, the last degree given to a man will be in 2025. We don't complain about them being 93% of workplace deaths, yet the fact that equal outcome isn't a thing is complained about incessantly. Then there's the demonization of men and male sexuality. Their rhetoric relating to that often equates to "Don't be that black guy, don't steal", or "just because you're a Jew doesn't mean you have to commit fraud.", and people eat that shit right up. I'm probably doing a terrible job at explaining myself. I'm not good at eloquently describing broad things. There's a lot of reasons for why I'm an MRA, and even more for why I'm an anti-feminist.

Thank you so much for your responses, I really appreciate it. I will definitively do something sometime. I don't feel like I need therapy again just yet, but I will continue to learn about philosophy and reason and self discovery along with trying to find some ambition or drive so I can move forward with my life.

I did go to a therapist (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) for my depression and anxiety until she basically said she couldn't help me anymore. It wasn't that she was bad, I just did a lot of research on my own, and I've always been pretty rational and introspective, so it didn't take long for me to understand what she was talking about. We never did focus on my childhood though. Money isn't an issue in the socialist paradise that is Norway

Well, it doesn't sound comfortable, but I don't oppose the idea. I don't really know how I would do that, I don't really remember a lot of it.

Not much of anything honestly. I rarely think about it. I don't like thinking about my childhood, sometimes it makes me feel uncomfortable, like a purely negative nostalgia. I don't feel resentment towards my father. I do feel a bit of resentment against my mother though. Sometimes I wish I could cry and just experience some catharsis.

I'm not saying the abuse was good, or that it made me stronger. I'm saying that the path it took me on made me more capable of handling future issues. I alone decided to self examine and try to make sense of things that I might not otherwise have known or cared about. If I had not had depression myself I wouldn't have done the research and work that helped me get out of it, and will help me get out of it again, or that will allow me to help others trough the same. It's the same when people who experience racism turn back and fight it, or people who have been battered open shelters. I'm not sure if my thinking is fallacious here, but that's how I see it.

Thank you so much. You write like Stefan speaks. When you say it like that I have a really hard time figuring out how he and all the other people who spank their children justify it in their minds. I don't think I felt it as a betrayal at the time though, more like a lapse in judgement. I realize that that sounds like something a victim of domestic violence would say though. My mother did interact with me, but on the level of an acquaintance. She was affectionate and loving to a point, but never in a deep way, if that makes sense? I do feel somewhat lucky that these experiences have put me on a path to self improvement and examination. We all suffer difficulties in our lives, and I'll be better equipped to deal with that if I can manage to "fix" the holes in my development. If I ever have children, I'll take the lessons I've learned from people like you and Stefan. Imagine the person his daughter is going to become. If we all treated our children like that the world would vastly improve. It would start chains of rationality and morality instead of the terrible things which are fully accepted in today's society. I will never drink a lot because of my mother, and in the same way I'll never hit my child or abandon my child or teach one thing and do another or any of that shit. Of course, to get to that point I'll need to learn how to develop deep relationships and friendships. Thank you.

Yeah, I don't understand it myself completely either. I doubt I was ever malnourished, I was very skinny though. I remember packing on fat very quickly after moving in with my mother. I don't think I was ever asked for preferences, and I never asked myself either. I was always very passive, just going with whatever. I always agreed to everything, and I never vocalized any disdain. I don't really know why that is either. I've definitively become more assertive after I started trying to expand intellectually and after I learned that I should live for myself and my happiness first. Thank you for the response.

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