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No where near by favorite song by this band, but the lyrics of this one are hitting me hard right now. Cloud Cult - Sleepwalker We are your conscience. We thought we'd tell you, you've been sleepwalking through most of your days. Your eyes are open, Your body's moving, Your lips are speaking, But you're far from awake. Where is your passion? Where is your wonder? Where is your thankfulness? You put them away. Times come to get up, before you break down. I know you're on it. Where is your kid side? Where is your joyfulness? Where is your empathy? Fast asleep. Where went your moments? Where went your presence? Where went your purpose? Fast asleep. Times come to get up, before you break down. I know you're on it.

Simple enough. Thanks, guys.

Does anyone know how to go about increasing monthly donation levels? I didn't see anyway through Paypal to alter my current payments. Do I just need to cancel my current subscription and create a new one? Thanks!

You seem to be using a different definition for MGTOW than every source I have ever seen on the topic. How do you define MGTOW? Right now, I can only intuit what you mean and it doesn't match with the mainstream understanding. Specifically, I'm confused about how a married man can be MGTOW, aside from being separated and trying to avoid the penis meat grinder that is divorce court. By the way ... I did not down vote you, but your topic title is one of the most aggressive and inflammatory that I've seen in this forum. Pretty sure that's where the -2 came from.

Another one worth adding to the important list (for children): 4. Never handle a firearm without an adult's supervision. Thankfully, my father did a good job demystifying firearms. Safety rules and the reasons for them were always clear to us. They were common tools. Dangerous tools, but tools just the same. If we ever wanted to see one of his guns, he'd be happy to stop what he was doing to show us proper handling and took us shooting with age appropriate calibers. I've heard of some asshole parents having their young children use high-powered rifles their first time shooting either because it was "funny" for them or to scare the kids away from guns.

It's certainly not immoral to not have a reason. However, considering the 4 billion years of genetic history that has resulted in you, it might be a good to understand the reason why that history will end with you. It really is a big decision, either way, and in the interest of self knowledge I think you owe it to yourself to understand the underlying reasons for that decision. On a generational level it seems equivalent to deciding not to eat anymore. It's not immoral, but it does go against deeply wired evolutionary programming which is cause for understanding and concern.

Thank you for all of that, and I'm sorry to hear about your own struggles as well as your family's. I'm also sorry about my own testiness, too. Given both of our struggles with health, it's a pretty understandable trigger, I think. My mother claim I was tested when I was a child, but I doubt the validity. Pretty sure I'd remember a blood draw as a child, since I had a strong aversion to needles then. But maybe it wasn't a blood test. Testing for celiacs was really inaccurate then. My parents are revisionists, so I doubt I'll ever know the true answer. Regardless, they did fail me continuously when they did nothing as my health spiraled downwards. Like you said, soooo many health problems could be halted long before they become an issue. Seems like negative thing plaguing our species comes down to bad parenting. Sigh. Though I've read a great deal about what your talking about, somehow it's never really clicked that maybe my body's reaction to gluten is actually a positive thing. It's very easy for me to treat gluten like poison, given my extreme reaction. As a result, I am better off then those with minor reactions. Though I wish I hadn't spent most of my teens and twenties moderately to severely ill, I have a healthier lifestyle now than I probably would have had I not had such severe symptoms. This has made me feel lucky, in a way. Perhaps I have even more reason to feel lucky ... I could have been even sicker in the long run. Thanks again.

I'm trying to understand what about my statements are so bothersome to you, and I'm coming up short. And if you could, show me where I changed the words of what I said, as I thought I just re quoted myself with emphasis. Also, I am not a determinist, and I see nothing in my statements that would suggest that. You understand that there are many people who are born with genetic diseases and disorders, or are born in areas with rampant disease and malnutrition, or get into an accident and are left permanently crippled, and those are circumstances are completely out of an individuals control, right? In those instances exercise and diet (where possible) can certainly help, but true good health will never be attained. If you happen to born with a "good" set of genetics in an area with good nutrition and without rampant debilitating diseases, with an intact body I would call that fortunate, or "lucky" if you will. Pure chance. Accidents are to at least some degree in an individual's control, but you can't live in a bubble. I don't have much sympathy for adults who hurt themselves doing something risk, but we all need to get to work and there are lots of drunks, texters, and pill poppers on the road. Shit happens to us that we can't control that can severely impact health. What does that have to do with determinism? Free will only extends to our choices, not to where we are born and with what set of genetics. Children born with spina bifida will never know good health regardless of their actions. The heat in my first post does indeed have relevance to the "lucky ones" statement. It does bother me when people have everything available to them to achieve good health and throw it all away. I realize much of that unhealthy behavior is likely due to past trauma, but they still choose ... everyday ... not to do something about it. I have celiac disease which is a genetically inherited auto-immune disease where when gluten is present my immune system attacks the lining of my intestines. It's a relatively easily managed disease ... if you've been diagnosed early. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 25. I was so sick by that point I thought I was dying, and doctors had written me off as a hypochondriac. I was in constant pain, was on the toilet 20 times a day, hadn't slept more than an hour a night in months. My intestines were so damaged they couldn't absorb much nutrition and I was nearly white and faint with anemia, and suffered a whole host of other malnutrition issues. Growing up, my growth had been stunted by at least a few inches (I'm only 5'5"), and my skin was always covered in a painful rash related to celiacs, but was written off as eczema. I had horrendous environmental allergies due to my immune system being overwhelmed fighting my own body. I would probably BE dead if I hadn't finally found a doctor who thought to include it in a broad spectrum blood test and found it. But by that point a lot of damage had been done. It took years and thousands of dollars on various nutritionists, supplements, probiotics, enzymes, etc. and thousands of hours of my own research to finally get myself healed. The digestive system never gets a break, and that makes it really hard to heal. My gut flora was also really screwed up and that takes a lot of trial and error and pain to get balanced. Now, I can sleep well, have normal bathroom visits, the allergies are almost gone, and I generally feel good. But it takes diligent healthy eating and exercise (like everyone else, just with more emphasis on the diet). But every now and again I eat something contaminated with gluten and I'm sick for a couple weeks. It only takes a crumb of bread. Now how about you? Why did my posts bother you? Was it the perceived determinism? I admit my original post could have been clearer, but it seems to me the followup post should have cleared up the confusion. I get the sense we actually agree more than disagree here.

I'm talking about people fortunate enough to have good genetics, or who haven't been infected with a chronic illness or suffered a debilitating injury. I never said that health wasn't a choice or an accident. I said that the really lucky ones are those who are able to support and treasure good health. You do not have to tell me that health is a choice. I've had to work really fucking hard to attain it. Which I also mentioned.

It's "feel good" enabling. Replace the obese man with an alcoholic and it becomes exceedingly clear. This body positive horse shit movement somehow seems to completely forget that loving your body means LOVING YOUR BODY. You don't get to dump umpteen thousand calories of shit down your throat everyday, spend several hours on the toilet a day as a result, only moving just enough to keep the calories coming (with the very occasional dance floor shimmy), zoning out to one screen or another so as to patently avoid any meaningful contact with your inner world, never mind with others and then get to be "Body Positive." That demeans people who will never achieve good health no matter what they do, or the lucky ones (like myself) who have to (but get to) work really hard to achieve good health due to factors out of their control, as well as really lucky ones who have always been able to support and treasure good health.

Here's an interesting article on the subject: http://lifehacker.com/the-truth-about-speed-reading-1542508398 I'm unsurprised by it's conclusions that speed reading leads to poor information retention, particularly with important or challenging documents ... anything that requires a lot of concentration and time to process the information. It also just seems like a waste if you're actually interested or enjoying what you're reading. It's like wolfing down a gourmet meal. Isn't savoring the food to enjoy it's subtleties a big part of the enjoyment? I'm a very slow reader, but I spend a lot of time visualizing scenes, considering topics, rereading and appreciating the language of a well written segment, or conversely rewording an awkwardly written one.

Tragic. http://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/feb/27/american-atheist-blogger-hacked-to-death-in-bangladesh

I just stumbled across this comic. I stirred up a variety of conflicting thoughts, feelings, memories that are now jumbled up into a tight knot that I think will take some time to unravel. Anyone have any thoughts/reactions to share?

I live in NH, and haven't seen where the FSP had much or any impact. If anything, there has been a much faster growth of liberals. A lot of democrats from Mass have moved here to get away from the high taxes ... and then vote for people who raise taxes. Maybe the FSP folks in office have stemmed the tide a little bit, but they're fighting a losing battle.

iHuman, do you have a link? I'm curious to see the evidence.

I didn't see any mention of an apology or making amends for yelling at your son. How have you shown in words and actions your remorse? You were in the wrong, and he should know and see that. Remember the 10-1 ration of positive experiences needed to counter one negative experience, which goes beyond this one traumatic event. You and your wife have 9 years of negative experiences to make up for. Dsayers is right, you are also responsible for your wife's actions, and it is essential for your son's well being that you create a peaceful environment for him. Have you looked into any family therapy? It sounds like your family would stand to benefit from it.

I should have stopped when you did. I got this far:

My son is 15 months old and still breastfeeds once during the night. So, for the first part of the night he sleeps in his crib until around 1-2am when he wakes up for milk. He breast feeds in bed and he sleeps the rest of the night with us. We're slowly trying to push that back further into the night until he is weened from night time feeding, and sleeps through the night in his crib.

It's nice to see an MSM source actually post an anti-spanking article, but holy fuck are the comments disturbing. http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/15/opinion/robbins-spanking-adrian-peterson-case/index.html

JamesP, HA! How about chickens? They are rather rapey in their "courting" methods. It sucks, though that these types of counter arguments only work with someone who isn't immune to reason and evidence. Everyone else just ends up using it as further "proof" that MRM hates women.Patrice, thank you! That means a lot to hear. I try to inject a bit of reason and evidence where I feel it is needed and might be accepted, but at least 95% of the time I am still shocked by the vemon sprayed at me. I can only hope that someone with an open mind on the sidelines will read/hear it and challenge their assumptions. I always take these attacks to heart, though, and it can take days, weeks, or even months sometimes, to let go of the hatred thrown at me. My fight or flight go into overdrive, but fighting is useless, and fleeing is impossible.

She'd always been pro any articles I'd posted about peaceful parenting/anti spanking in the past, often sharing it. Come to think of it though, she posts negative things about her ex in a light that makes him entirely to blame. Guess it's because ... because ... patriarchy? Just another woman who has taken no responsibility for her poor choices and their negative consequences. Just got this in reply from the first troll. I'm done responding to them, but figure I'd update here. It turns out I'm not entitled to my feelings: "You have the option to no longer participate in this conversation. Kate has the right to post what she wants on her wall. You do not have the right to not be offended. Read the words more closely. It says "SOME female spiders". It doesn't even give any idea of what proportion of female spiders that is, at all. This could be a tiny minority of spiders that closely matches the number of men who are fathers, brothers, male friends and SONS who deserve to die by being eaten. Think I'm reading too far into something? Maybe i'm illustrating a point."

Hello everyone, I'm new to the board and I could really use a dose of FDR sanity. A woman, who will be removed from my "friends" list soon, posted a "joke" about killing men. Below is an image of the "joke" and the exchange. Normally, I don't engage with this kind of shit as it rarely does anything but rile me up, but this one really got to me. It was also from someone I didn't expect. I thought she'd be receptive. I thought wrong. Another of my mistakes was engaging the trolls that jumped in. I'd love any advice on how to better pick these battles, as well as constructive criticism on the exchange and how I could improve in the future. Thanks in advance!