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The monsters inside us and how they get there. Why do targets stay with narcissistic abusers? Why do people stay in contact with abusive family members?
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Narcissists Dehumanize Targets w/ Psychiatric Labels
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No. I'm not making the claim that labels are bad. I think labels are useful, especially when I'm short on time and/or I don't have the emotional energy to go into detail about said topic. I am sharing two observations: 1. Manipulative people actively utilize language(labels) to gaslight targets, with the intent to deceive and exploit. 2. I prefer human experience language, with people I don't know, because there is less chance of being misunderstood. Many labels are culturally based and will vary in meaning from region to region. For example, the label Narcissist is not used in all countries/cultures. Therefore, I might choose to use human experience language with a particular person or group. Instead of saying 'narcissist,' I might say, 'someone with zero empathy and the desire to exploit. -
Self-identifying as mentally ill holds the door wide open for abusers to destroy the target's recovery process. Advocates of codependent relationships utilize psychiatric labels to manipulate and brainwash targets into the false belief that they have to rely on others to survive; ultimately destroying the target's sense of self and their autonomy. Psychiatric labels often perpetuate victim blaming, which then leads to people ignoring the primary cause of the target's behavior and/or emotional distress. [For example, high energy young boys are often scapegoated by narcissistic parents, with the label of ADHD.] If you have gained value from watching this video, please consider leaving a positive rating! :-) // https://www.youtube.com/c/sachaslone // 5000+ subscribers // 100+ videos //
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Please check out more of my videos about 'Counter Manipulation Adaptative Stratagems' at https://www.youtube.com/c/sachaslone Counter Manipulation should not be confused with hostile aggression(reactive) or instrumental aggression(proactive). Environmental survival adaptation is not rooted in aggression, because evolutionary adaptation is not exploitative, desire based, or meant to harm. 1.) Hostile 'reactive' aggression is fear and anger based with the goal of causing emotional and/or physical pain . 2.) Instrumental 'proactive' aggression is pre-planned and motivated by a personal desire to dominate and exploit the target. 3.) Counter manipulation is an environmental survival adaptation that merely confuses the abuser into voluntarily disengaging with little to no harm to the target. Counter Manipulation is different from reactive and proactive aggression because the target is simply adapting to their environment. The target adapts in order to avoid detection, to distract the predator long enough to get away, or to fool the predator into thinking they are undesirable prey. The process of 'adaptation' is not hostile or exploitative. For example, an instrumental aggressor proactively engages with the goal to dominate and exploit for their own personal gain. A reactive hostile aggressor's goal is to harm the attacker emotionally and/or cause physical harm. "Anti-predator adaptations are mechanisms developed through evolution that assist prey organisms in their constant struggle against predators. Throughout the animal kingdom, adaptations have evolved for every stage of this struggle. The first line of defense consists in avoiding detection, through mechanisms such as camouflage, living underground, or nocturnality. Alternatively, prey animals may ward off attack, whether by advertising the presence of strong defenses in aposematism, by mimicking animals which do possess such defenses, by startling the attacker, by signaling to the predator that pursuit is not worthwhile, by distraction, by using defensive structures such as spines, and by living in a group. Members of groups are at reduced risk of predation, despite the increased conspicuousness of a group, through improved vigilance, predator confusion, and the likelihood that the predator will attack some other individual. Some prey species are capable of fighting back against predators, whether with chemicals, through communal defense, or by ejecting noxious materials. Finally, some species are able to escape even when caught by sacrificing certain body parts: crabs can shed a claw, while lizards can shed their tails, often distracting predators long enough to permit the prey to escape." Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia sources: Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia http://www.manipulative-people.com/ http://study.com/academy/lesson/aggressive-behavior-definition-types-signs.html
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Yes, I agree, narcissists are like weeds, we must 'keep vigilant.' :-) Thank you for the lovely compliment. Another funny quote: Don't break my leg and then try to sell me a broken crutch! :-D
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PRO TIP: Covert passive aggressive manipulators love to start conversations with: "I'm concerned about you." "I care about you." "I'm worried about you." This type of passive aggressive communication is a strategy used by covert manipulators as a way to level up their dominance, to intimidate the target, to leave the target feeling self-doubt, and to put the target on the defensive. Manipulators want to control the target's emotions and actions. In my opinion, a better way to start a conversation is with curiosity. For example, "How are you? I am very curious to know more about what has happened. A healthy person, who is in ally, will never start a conversation putting you on the defensive. A true friend who respects you, will want to hear about what has happened, from you, before they solidify their thoughts and feelings. The appropriate time for a friend to declare 'I'm worried about you' is after you have told them the story! <iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/USO6gq5hHJ4"frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
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Thank you for the positive feedback! I am happy to know I am providing value. :-)
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I doubt you are a sociopath. I'm guessing you are a person who grew up in an abusive environment, like myself, and you have developed 'defense mechanisms' to mask and shield you from 'feeling' --specifically emotional pain. Your description, of yourself, is a normal reaction/result of abuse. Your defense mechanisms have absolutely kept you alive, without them you probably would have killed yourself. You clearly have a lot of fucking pain being held captive inside of you. I suggest you consider doing a year of IFS therapy, in addition to participating in a free community peer-to-peer counseling service. I can personally relate to almost everything you have shared. There was a time in my life when I thought I was damaged and mentally ill due to the fact I did not think I had 'emotions.' Not having emotions is how I survived as a child and I carried this into adulthood. After processing my childhood abuse, I then understood the difference between my false-self and my true-self. IFS is what helped me pull my true self out into the open. The best part about IFS is that you can do it on your own.
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