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Chances of convincing the wife to stay home: close to zero. I say this because I am the wife of a diplomat, and none of us trailing spouses financially need to work yet the vast majority work BS administrative embassy jobs and put their kids in daycare, because feeling a sense of agency and having respect as an adult with a job is more important. They think there will be no negative effect on the kids because everyone does it. Anyway, better to recommend a high quality nanny such as a graduate of this school: Http://WWW.nanny-governess.com

Does anyone know any now-adult homeschooled kids who were not homeschooled in an overbearing religious paradigm? I have been trying to research just how socially weird homeschooled kids are, and a memior by one would be nice to read. However, so far the only ones I have found have been of people upset about their closed off experiences and religious indoctrination. I don't think these experiences are comparable to what I would provide my kids. Theoretically, I am 100% in favor of homeschooling, but I would like some data on outcomes before I commit my children's future happiness to what most perceive as a crazy decision.

If people need to put their children in daycare because otherwise they can't feed them, why are they having children?

I really have no idea. You'd have to ask your lawyer. I know there are wiretapping laws which differ by state. Even if your evidence was inadmissible, though, the threat might be enough to get her to back down. From a parenting standpoint, though, you really should try to find out what conditions your child is living in when you are not there. If she is spending a lot of time at your parents' house, what was their parenting style like?

How does Sarah discipline your child? If it is less than peacefully, maybe you could get a PI to prove it?

Can you financially survive the whole going to court process? How long would it take? I don't imagine it would take 16 years for a decision to be made. You could counter-sue for full custody, then move. You might have a case given you have a loving two parent home and the mother does not.

The babycenter pregnancy app is great if you want to track what's going on in there.

You have two children and they are fighting. You were distracted and missed the beginning of the fight. One child says "He started it!", and the other says "No, SHE started it!" Clearly one of them is lying, but neither admits to it. As the parent, how do you react?

My friend on facebook posted a meme going around that said "I'm afraid of a world run by adults who were never spanked as kids and got trophies just for participating." I engaged him in discussion on the spanking topic, pointing out the scientific research that it is damaging and doesn't work anyway, and his counter argument basically boiled down to: I know what the science says, but spanking is different from abuse, and I was spanked and I turned out fine and I have a good relationship with my parents. I have friends who don't spank but their kids are spoiled. I won't tell you how to raise your kids, but have never seen not spanking work in raising children. Let's agree to disagree. The mental walls against peaceful parenting are so high and so strong, and there are so very few role models for it. I hope to be one. This friend has no children yet, so I hope when it happens he realizes like I did that there was no actual way I could bring myself to hit my child. I hope a seed of "there are other ways" sticks in his mind somewhere. Does anyone have non-combative strategies they use to advocate for not spanking which might bypass the defensive walls of "I was spanked and turned out fine"?

I was driving myself crazy waiting for a time to buy. I eventually pulled the plug and decided to dollar cost average it by buying the same USD amount each month.

I majored in Computer Science for undergrad, and I think there was actual value in pursuing that major in college rather than just learning on my own. Granted, most things I have learned on my own, like the syntax of the language I'm using, but I'm not sure I would have known about or picked up algorithm efficiencies or design patterns on my own, at least at that level of detail. Also being forced to learn assembly and C, even though I don't use those professionally, deepened my understanding of how the technology actually works and it has made me a better programmer.

My 1.5 yo son throws a tantrum when I don't let him sick his fingers in the outlet or when he can't pull the swivel chair out by himself to climb on it (dangerous). Needless to say, I'm not going to let this baby without language skills yet to kill himself learning about electricity. I usually physically block the action, say "no, dangerous!", and then distract him with a toy that plays music (bribery). He usually goes for it. If I try to wait out the tantrum or hug him it escalates.

http://m.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/07/18/are-you-raising-nice-kids-a-harvard-psychologist-gives-5-ways-to-raise-them-to-be-kind/?wpsrc=AG0003381 Something about this article hit me wrong. Maybe it was the lack of "no spanking" or "listen and show empathy towards your child" on the list. Instead it's all "talk about being nice" What do you think?

How do I know there are no quality people in a 20 mile radius? There probably are but that's an hour of driving here! I was thinking more a 1 mile radius. Anyone here love their neighborhood? Maybe a new development of starter homes would attract a bunch of young families at the same time... Actually, come to think of it, that describes the neighborhood I grew up in and as an idiot teenager couldn't wait to leave. However, my parents had bbqs and book clubs and bowling tournaments and as kids we played jailbreak in the street. Pretty awesome looking back on it. I think maybe my mom knew what she was doing cultivating that.

Hello everyone. This is my first post. Lately I have been thinking about life, what is important, and what is currently missing in mine. I love my husband, and I love my son and we have another child on the way, so overall things are pretty good. However, what is missing for me, I think, is a community of peers. I am past the point of diminishing returns in terms of happiness of just acquiring more stuff and checking the boxes of societal expectations. I know now that our relationships with people are what is truely important, not how fancy your countertops are or how many trophies your kids get. I long to live in a place where people have time to visit eachother's houses, maybe even on a weekday, and just hang out and talk and our kids can play. Where people are not so swamped by the hectic day to day expectations of careers, and activities and commuting, that they can't make these bonds with neighbors. Has anyone found it? Have any of you found an oasis of real people who have time for the important things in life? Where in the US or the world would you live if you had the choice?