TheKiosk94

Lol, same here...

As a shy introverted person in college, I'm finding it increasingly tempting to have no standards for interactions when taking with people. It seems so much easier to make "friends" that way. I realized that if you have too many standards, you tend to have a harder time making friends. So, I've lowered my standards to a couple basic ones. I generally pick friends based on their parenting views and whether they have any virtues or not themselves. So, as a result I've had to drop some friends. I'm considering lowering my standards, because I'll have an "easier" time making friends. I'm finding it easier time having conversations with strangers though. It's also increasingly tempting to be a narcissistic douchebag, in my college, because they seem to have a lot friends and are shy. Their also douchier than some extroverted people in my school. So, for making friends, my body tells me to lower my standards, but my brain says no. So, how have you guys picked friends? Is it based on certain interests? Do you guys value ones over others? Do you guys lower your standards depending on which community your in? What's the thinking process done here?

I doubt this post will get any response, but here goes... So, I was volunteering at Goodwill on Saturday, and I was discussing about how I didn't want to go to college with another guy. Apparently, he was in a similar situation too and actually dropped out of college, because the gen eds pissed him off. He said that he decided that he wanted to join the Marines. I asked him whether he was going to join part of the military where you kill people directly. He said that he might. I then started to ask him if he was aware that if he had any plans for the problems he might get from joining the military. I listed that there is a possibility that he might get suicide tendencies, since, 30 out of 100,000 soldiers commit suicide. He stated that those who committed suicide are simply too weak for the military. I also stated that he might get some health problems like PTSD, coming out of the military. He stated that PTSD was a bullshit disease and that most veterans who got PTSD were only pretending to have it, so, they could get benefits. He also added that the only reason the government hasn't cracked down on it is because PTSD is a popular disorder and that attacking it would lead to bad publicity. So are his "claims" true. Kinda curious what the military veterans think about this guy who hasn't been in the military yet, but, he is thinking of joining.

I'm was wondering what you guys would do in this situation that I'm in. I've been living with my parents for a while now and I'm thinking of being homeless. My reason for thinking of this decision would be that I don't like my parents, because I have a completely divergent view from them in parenting. Also, because their passive aggressive/ physically aggressive. For one, they don't really believe in peaceful parenting, in fact, most of them don't actually care about parenting at all. According to them, the only thing you need to be a parent is give your children education and shelter and then, you leave the kids to do the raising themselves. They don't really care about teaching any of my siblings about empathy, nor me for that matter. The people there are really into sex, weed, and drugs. Currently, I'm in college, and my education is being funded by parents. I'm staying in a college dorm and I don't really like living there. I'm starting to have huge cataclysmic doubt whether being in college is worth it or not.My area of study is in being an Actuary. I should also point out that my mom told me that I could go live in one of my dad's houses, if I decide to stop going to college and finding a job. But, they strongly discourage me from choosing that option. So, what would you guys do in this situation? Would college even be worth it, at the cost of enduring emotional agony? I don't know, I'm just lost right now.