Excellent - thank you everyone for engaging.
What I hope to gain from this forum: Where I am wrong then I will be guided to the truth by philosophical discussion. Where I am nearer the truth perhaps others will be guided nearer to it.
No I dont believe that respect should ever be automatic - but surely the point of a philosophical forum is to at least take a little time to point out errors with evidence - politely - even if (especially if?) you believe someone to be way off the truth.
I am a firm believer in the scientific method and am not saying that corrupt and biased scientists invalidate the method - just that they are not following it. (Listen to Stefan talking about climate change distorted evidence for example). It means you cant just quote scientists to prove a point - you need to dig deeper.
OK - so I picked this forum first because I consider this one of the few subjects that Stefan seems to bring up with bitterness and misunderstanding. I have the greatest respect for the amount of research that goes into almost every other subject but am amazed when Stefan refers only to religion with the same statements describing an abusive aggressive cult - which is completely not my experience from dozens of churches I have attended around the world in the last 20 years. (I travel a lot)
My experience of Christianity is almost exactly one of a free market. The Church is offering a service that you can listen to, or not, support, or not, give money to, or not. The ones that dont get support fail and close. The ones that people connect with and find helpful flourish.
I know there are Catholic, Muslim and cult churches that are not like this but I have never, ever, been told in the Protestant church, that if I dont give money, dont obey the leaders, dont believe the leaders, I will go to hell.
Its the opposite. You are saved by grace - and its free and it cant be taken away from you.
I do however give money to the church. I was for a long time part of the leadership of one church where every single penny given either went to the sick, the poor or those with a temporary need - home and abroad - and if anything was left over it helped fix the roof.
Our current church got hold of dozens of mobile homes after Hurricane Sandy hit ( USA ) and put up lots of families for free until they got sorted out. All paid for by voluntary gifts to the church. Crowd funded?
The congregations are full of people wanting to learn how to follow a non-aggression principle - called being loving to everyone whatever their background, gender, race, skin colour and even if we dont agree with their lifestyle.
BUT - how ever much I think this is all excellent - I still keep a door open to the possibility that perhaps God doesnt exist and that all of the good that we do is just due to our passion to do good - not because a 'God' is using us to do good. At 55 I think I have had enough personal experiences to feel confident I am close to the truth - but I will try and keep an open mind until I die.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to contribute. Please guide me to what particularly can be discussed most usefully.
What is the absolute core of your atheism?
How about we start with forgiveness? As I understand it Jesus invented forgiveness as before Him it was always an eye for an eye and the right of revenge. I think I am right in saying that Stefan does not believe in forgiveness (please forgive me if I am misrepresenting) and yet I have proven again and again to myself that when I forgive it sets me free from bitterness, fear and the desire for revenge.
I would of course not give the person the chance to hurt me again, and even involve the law so that they reap the correct consequences of their actions - but I then forgive and hope they learn how they have been wrong, wish them well and get on with my life. It makes me feel free from the past and start afresh.