Hi guys, this is my first post on the board. I saw this article by David M Allen on Psychology Today a few days ago. It stuck out from all the pop psychology nonsense about sex and how to deal with stress and so on. It's about an advice column that got flooded with letters from jilted parents claiming that their adult children had cruelly rejected them for no reason that they could conceive of and how utterly dishonest these parents really were. The reality is that they were verbally and emotionally abusive to them as both children and adults. I was really surprised to see someone being so frank and straightforward about the reality of family dysfunction and parental corruption on such a mealy mouthed, shallow website that is usually too politically correct to make a logical conclusion about anything never mind about a topic that is as volatile and explosive as the voluntary family.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/matter-personality/201411/parents-cut-adult-children-clueless
It was posted on the seventeenth of this month. The only other time I have seen such a strong stand on the subject of ostracizing abusive or corrupt parents in psychological circles is in Alice Miller's 'The Body Never Lies' and to a lesser extent her other books and obviously this podcast. In the comments section the article was received quite well and people seemed to share very similar experiences of parental alienation and rejection, without the thinly veiled rage of the internalized parents that I would have expected to see directed at such an article. Stef is always talking about how we are decades away from holding parents morally accountable for their actions as a society, but judging from the response and the article's presence in such a popular forum, Western society might not be quite so far away from detonating the myths surrounding the unassailable virtue of parents.
