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1) I remember my first love, after the first day on both sides seemed like both of us had no interest. We dated for 15 month lol. Let body language and facial expressions guide you if it is not intrinsic if you cannot sense the "vibe" (for lack of a better word). Personally we may depart from root cause as for me it was a result of being shy and not an inability to read people so much. Similar to me but not really is I had trouble hearing what people say (became word soup) so I learned how to read lips and do not have the inability to understand spoken language anymore. If this does not resonate I hope this does, that problems not "common case" and personalization is key. Therapist tend to revert to common case if not prompted other-wise. Preparation for therapy is key as well. 2) Is it a night terror as the main criteria is you do not remember night terrors. It comes from a sleep state so deep you memory is very weak. About the only thing a person can remember from a night terror is the emotion attached to it. If I assume "fear of death night terrors" and not "fear of death and night terrors" it seems like a nightmare in the first part and a night terror in the second. I cannot help with night terrors and I doubt a therapist know more then me. I can help with the nightmare if the location is a repetitive and real and/or circumstance you experience (even if it is warped it still counts). Sorry if I was unclear about what you meant and made you read more to touch all bases. Fear of death I always think of a quote from Charles Darwin. After sleeping through a hundred million centuries we have finally opened our eyes on a sumptuous planet, sparkling with color, bountiful with life. Within decades we must close our eyes again.....We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Sahara. Certainly those unborn ghosts include greater poets than Keats, scientists greater than Newton. We know this because the set of possible people allowed by our DNA so massively exceeds the set of actual people. In the teeth of those stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here. We privileged few, who won the lottery of birth against all odds, how dare we whine at our inevitable return to that prior state from which the vast majority have never stirred?" I start to tear up by not understand and appreciate and I become afraid not to live my life but then laugh as he called himself "ordinary" lol Hope this helps good luck!