mortimer

i just learned i am a father of an almost four year old boy. what im wondering is if anyone has any thoughts on whether it is a better idea to let him stay in the family he knows or try and share custody and influence him in a good way, seeing as i am up to speed on peaceful parenting. i am 23 years old and the boys mother is married to a guy in the army and they live one state away. any thoughts? this is my firt post so dont be too hard on me