If you'd like to have a peaceful coexistence, have that peaceful coexistence. I know some anarcho-capitalists believe that anybody who disagrees with him wants to enslave him, therefore the two cannot peacefully coexist, but this is not my perspective. I don't hold negative emotions to statists, I just think they have not seen the truth yet. For example, my mother is a Canadian-born, green party, 81% democrat according to isidewith.com. Our relationship is not tainted because of our drastically different mindsets, but it makes for good conversation. Bernie voters are not below you or I, but I think if more people are exposed to our rationale in a emotion-free debate, the anarcho-capitalist mentality would at least be considered more readily by the public and not be seen as a radical, treason-inducing, lawless, terrorist mentality (which I think the mainstream would call anarcho-capitalism should it get big and at all aggressive).
Some rants I have personally seen, although I agree with them, would alienate common people. I understand the frustration that builds, but as long as you don't attack your wife personally or try to belittle her somehow, keeping it clear that you are just debating, I think you'll find enjoyable conversation with statists. I get my frustration out by attacking the ideas mercilessly, adding in plenty of "which disproves that point definitively," "And even if all that I said is untrue, your point still falls because blah blah blah morals," but be sure to compliment their more logical points before delving into analysis, do not interrupt, and generally keep your temperament.
I think you'll find that statists are not a gang of idiots, and from their premises can logically argue for what they believe, and do not think they are stealing or inefficient.