mosuper

I'm new here but wow! What a post similar to me. I just exited my marriage with my verbally abusive wife. We have two kids ages 5 and 1.5. We stayed together (and had our 2nd child) because I hoped that things would be better for the children if we were together. I finally couldn't watch and be complicit in any abuse of the children (complicit because I was there watching and unable to intervene). So about a month ago, I moved out and down the street a couple blocks. We tried everything--couples therapy, talking, etc. Nothing worked or really helped any changes. I found freedomainradio last fall and that was a breakthrough for me. Stefan's book of relationships was awesome and provided the base for my final push out of the relationship. And, it led to some particularly ugly moments that my wife couldn't deny as ugly so she was somewhat understanding when I was ready to go (which I think will lead to a less vindictive finalization when we finally settle the divorce). Most importantly, I'm slowly discovering what it was in me that led me to getting in to such a relationship. So far so good for me. I guess this verbally abusive women with a passive man is somewhat common!