Okay, 'kay! Here's the thing........ Many, many years ago, I suffered a trauma that seemed to embody all the difficulties and frustrations that I had endured in my life to that point. I was in some state of shock. I tried getting some "professional" help. Unfortunately, this was the time when a psychology degree didn't get nor deserve much respect ... much like the sociology spin-offs today, thus I was compelled to go it alone. I took about a year-and-a-half to work my problems through. I had lots of issues to sort through. I'll spare you the details and jump to the conclusions: 1. The world is a most wonderful place full of things to do and discover. 2. Social inventions restrict choices by conditioning people to comply with established memes and preferred behaviors. Worse, society defines right and wrong, self image, goals, compliance, etc. Worsest, social conditioning dictates the emotion to evoke when something "improper" occurs. People comply because of sloth, ignorance, conditioning, and irresponsibility. A friend of mine defined this as "Lack of scope". 3. Self-destructive emotions hate, anger, embarrassment, fear, panic, offense, apathy, etc. These feelings must not persist but must extinguish quickly. 4. The ability to approach problems with a good sense of humor is necessary. 5. One must be free from the foibles of friends and family past and present. 6. One must look at the new day without prejudice, but rather as a bit of drudge and a new adventure. 7. Consider that the mind-mender from whom you might seek help is under the same social conditioning that's causing your problem, and most likely cure you with compliance! 8. Lastly, from an old NatLamp allegory: "Disgusting is in the mind of the beholder".