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JamesP

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  1. Everybody!!!

     

    Just so you're aware, I will be putting the board into maintenance mode around 6pm MDT this evening. The site is moving servers and the smoothest way to transition is to go into maintenance for a few hours.

     

    You won't be able to post or register, and the chat will also be down. Things should be back up and running later in the evening.

  2. The chat isn't a good place for philosophy, nor is the board. Philosophy can really only happen in a real-time conversation which contains emotional input. Text completely strips that from the conversation.

     

    It's also the case in chat and forums that anyone can come in and torpedo the conversation, whether it be by name-calling, or trivialities, or whatever.I'm guessing that whoever called you pretentious and arrogant might be less likely to do so if they were actually talking to you.

     

    In any case, the major rule of the chat is that empathy is required to use it. That includes a recognition that emotional content is very difficult to discern and often needs to be communicated directly, and that name-calling without evidence or explanation is very much discouraged. I don't have the full story, of course, but people shouldn't be acting like that in the chat.

     

    Some people also use the chat as a way to avoid doing self-knowledge work. A consistent pattern of this will sometimes result in a loss of chat privileges.

     

    If you could contact me privately with further details so I could look into this, I'd appreciate it.

  3. A negative thought is serving a purpose. "Think like somebody's listening," is important, but it's only one piece of the puzzle.

     

    Listen to your thoughts with curiosity. They are trying to tell you something. If they keep saying the same things, you haven't yet gotten the message.

  4. I don't think there's anything wrong with mothering compared to a having a job. It's actually quite appropriate--you have responsibilities, you get compensated for doing so, and there are goals and rewards at the end of it, if you've done your job well.

     

    And, you can also be fired if you've done a poor job.

     

    Being a parent is the most important job you'll ever have. It is also completely voluntary, so not everybody needs to be a parent.

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