Dave Bockman

This is something I've struggled with as well. When who we are as children is summarily rejected, ignored, degraded through neglect, outright insults, or disgust, that is an absolute anathema to us. The most powerful coping mechanism can be to become a kind of blank Etch-a-Sketch whereon other may write whatever they wish in order for us to perceive ourselves as 'useful', 'good', valuable', 'cool', 'one of the herd', etc. I will say that for me, one of the hardest challenges is to understand *emotionally* that because I never experienced authentic nurturing love and intense enjoyment of my company from my parents when I was a child, I will *never* be able to experience those feelings as an adult. Intellectually, I get it. The hard part is connecting with those inner child parts, getting them to trust, and then giving those emotions to them from your adult-self, if that makes sense. Adult relationships with others, no matter how fulfilling, will never fill that black hole of non-existent parental nurturing-- nor should it. People sure try though, with a variety of awful consequences. Feelings of love, honoring the self, feelings of being nurtured and safe and GOOD ENOUGH, these all have to be self-generated as an adult. Expecting others to provide those feelings (or dulling the pain of their absence with alcohol drugs, promiscious sex, workaholism, religion, etc) will never work, it's asking a square peg to slide easily into a round hole. I think it's awesome you're reading Alice MIller, she's absolutely fabulous. Another book I found very helpful for these specific issues you're strugging with is Honoring The Self: The Psychology of Confidence and Respect by Nathaniel Branden.

I am a Landscape Architrect with some small knowledge in phytoremedioation and generally in bioremediation. What's your project?

I really like the Stitcher interface too, I wish it worked. Anything we as consumers can do MMD?

I am somewhat confused by your request. You used the word youself in your original post, are you thinking I am working from an irregular definition of the word bully?

who was the first bully in your life?

If I had to guess, I would say that the person who jeered you saw or heard how difficult it was for you and decided to attack. In terms of exploitation, it's highly likely he was attacked in his own childhood for not being assertive, and just a syour anxiety was provoked by history, so was his when he (subconsciously) processed that. I'm not saying any of this to excuse his behavior.

Benjamin, I'm curious what was your goal in texting her 'Happy birthday'?

Take them to lunch, take them for coffee, take them for an after-work drink, create an entre for the discussion. Acknowledge your feelings of awkwardness, openly state it's none of your business, then just say what's on your mind. Let them know they're under no obligation to say anything to you about it, but that you're concerned.

I'm rather hazy on Catholic rules & regulations, but I'm petty sure it's considered some sort of sin (and not just a mild one like swearing or masturbating) if you take the Sacrement (the cracker thing) while not being baptized and also 'Confirmed' in the Catholic religion. So, using this finger-pointing turd's own logic, you're actually doing the right thing.

too bad for those suckers who donated to his presidential run, eh? The old switch-a-roo Jerry!

Check out the 'aquaponics' system curently being developed by Will Allen, founder of Growing Power From the article: In certain circles Allen is referred to as the father of "The Good Food Revolution," which is also the title of his 2012 book. In it he recounts a very personal story of reconnecting with the earth — a reconnection he would like to see made across urban America, and especially in African-American communities.

my mistake aerlier in this thread, I totally misread your op and thought it read '15', sorry for the confusion

and apparently it's all made-up nonsense anyway: Crew members: ‘Captain Phillips’ is one big lie

The crime of "statutory rape" makes it illegal for a perpetrator of any age to have sexual intercourse with someone under the age of 16 that they are not married to.[50] This law specifies that a defendant cannot be convicted on the testimony of the victim alone; some other evidence must be present. This offense carries a minimum sentence of 1 year in prison, and a maximum of 20 years. If the offender is 21 years of age or older, the minimum is raised to 10 years in prison, and the offender is subject to sex offender sentencing guidelines source If appeals to her well-being don't move you to leave her alone, perhaps self-interest will.

Peter is like the douche in Pictionary whose drawing is indecipherable, but he just keeps circling it over and over and over until we all die

OK, well, if you don't mind me being completely relentless I'll ask something along the same lines: did your mother take legal action against the hospital?

Is the Scientific Method a scientific principle?

UBP is not a moral principle, it is a framework for determining whether or not a potential moral rule is valid or invalid.

Melesena, what level of responsibility do you think your mother assigns to her herself and her own actions n the unsuccessful pregnancy?

You're welcome, and you're in error. Unless your definition of a debate is not 'the mutual comparisons of potential truth statements to an objective standard' if it is enything other than the above definition, it's not a debate. Also whe you say 'You can have a debate without UPB' and then go on to supply the proof of the validity of your argument, that's UPB.

When you state that UPB is in error, you are validating UPB. When you say that UPB is false, and here is the evidence backing up my assertion, that's UPB. You cannot debate without UPB. You cannot debate without UPB <----- that is a valid truth assertion I would respectfully ask those interested to listen to this podcast: http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_872_Debating_and_UPB.mp3 hey that embedded player is cool

I chatted with Mr. De Mause awhile back and these topics came up in our conversations. If I remember correctly, his researchers (the Journal of Psychohistory) were the primary sources for a good portion of the data. If there's one thing he cannot be faulted with, it's a lack of meticulous data collection. I'm sure the Journal has the citations to the research.

That's a shame, it's a vivid & fascinating dream. One small part that I latched on to was the '360 dollars' charged request for internet access. For me, numbers are very important in my dreams so if it were my dream, the 1st thing I would explore would be the concept of 'coming full circle' (or 360°) and how that might fit in to what's been going on with self-exploration. To further that theory, holding a camera up to a peephole in order to record children 'watching' you seems to me to be intensely symbolic 'Minutes' are a demarcation of a circle (degrees/minutes/seconds) Interestingly, you do not try to engage the children standing guard outside your door in any kind of dialog, ask them why they are watching you so carefully, etc. After enough time passes, some of them tire of the guard watch and leave, while others stay on. Very interesting, seriously that's quite intriguing. (Again, if it were my dream) I would speculate and explore the possibility of this being a very helpful and crafty dream, one in which your internal family/mecosystem is letting you know it's aware of the processes you're going through trying to access/heal them in a positive way.

'I attacked...' ..smashed the false-self...' No, please stop.

If it were me, I would get some breathing room, even if it's for just a few days, take your friends up on their generous offers and borrow a couch/spare bedroom for a few days