Doesn't this mean assigning value though? That is what dr. eldstein is arguing against, whereas EVERYTHING, is in a state of flux.
As always, values can be objective or subjective, true or false. The only survival-value of false values is that of being accepted by others, which has nothing to do with an objective appreciation and experience of success, achievement, fulfillment... Michael is arguing against an idea of self esteem based on these false, social or aesthetic values, which is the usual misconception – and a very sad misconception.
To follow Stef's own example in the video. I'd say Isabella experiences high self esteem when playing the piano so "badly". On the other hand, skilled and successful piano players (whom I have met many) generally lose their basic ability to think and be connected to reality – as a result of having to compulsively meet the non-objective standards of others in their career – and so experience a low self esteem regardless of their reports and achievements.
What Isabella would call self esteem (Nathaniel's definition) is not what the piano player – or Michael or Stef – would call self esteem.
While I can appreciate your saying, I think value, or things such as isabella feeling happy are key words, whereas eldstein is stressing no evaluation at all. I sense that your making an argument for "nathaniel branden's" self esteem, if I interpret correctly here. Frankly though, if you are talking about task orientation, then I really like the book "Flow". The interviewees in that book make mention, that they would do what they do, even if you were not paying them. I think it is a good companion to eldstein's book, not that I am affiliated in any way with either.
The only place where I would part company with eldstein though, is with regard to discussing early childhood experiences. In his book, he deems this as unnecessary, and perhaps at a point, because you do have to take responsibility for your life, but I feel the same way as stef, that it IS about relationships, and those things should be explored and resolved. Please correct me if I misquote anything here, but this is my understanding.