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I say nerves but that seems like too light a word , and i say women but its just one woman. Theres a girl at work , after a bit of casual facebook stalking i found out she likes ayn rand , and since then ive been extremely attracted to her. Ive managed to exchange a few words , found out she voted for hillary , (shes an american in england) , still very attracted to her and want to know more despite that. Then had a big conversation at the christmas party . But since then havent managed any conversation , the chances i get to talk to her are rare and random , passing in the hallways . And when opportunitys arise i get a huge adrenalin dump and know it would be a disater to even try. One time i had to talk to another girl that was in her office , so i went in , started out ok then deteriorated bad , i could hardly talk or string a sentence together and felt like i was going to pass out! Hoping it didnt seem so bad from the outside , occasions afterwards the girl still smiled and said hello to me so i think theres still hope. Shes witnessed me acting natural around other attractive women so think there was some redemption from that and shows her im not a complete beta. Ive never persued a female and proactively tried to make things happen like this , the few times in the past with woman ive always been more passive and just went along with situations , and alcohol was usually involved. And ive never felt this kind of clear and certain attraction , ive always been conflicted and ambivalent about women , not really feeling any real attraction to their characters. The window of oportunity is closing. A few more times of clearly not taking action when presented with an oportunity and that window will slam shut on this attractive girl that likes ayn rand. whos got the secrets? How do i disarm that over whelming fight or flight response? ive tried journaling it out , reducing caffeine , reading books on body language , conversing with other girls. How do i get my anxiety under control or atleast too the level where i wont come across as a stroke victim?