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Hello, my name is Michael. This is my very first forum post, so I hope I'm at least somewhat clear with what I say and don't get too caught up with my rambling. I'm pretty open-minded with discussions and I don't want to come off too vague if I fail to elaborate on anything. I come from a history of no relationships, and no intimacy with women. I just want to be honest and show how this is a problem and how it has affected me. I'm trying to understand what I should be saying or questioning when I first talk/meet with a woman. I get thought trapped in thinking that I ask too many questions, or I'm being too personal, which I feel may lead to the other thinking I'm too emotional or obsessive. I feel that maybe I am obsessing or over-thinking things and that tends to make me blank out and not know what to say next. I get frustrated at times because I notice myself falling in the same pattern and wanting to care with what I say, and I feel I may come off too kind or too willing to help out. I'll usually say things like "have a nice day", or "how are you today", and I usually ask about any interests or goals they have. I try to be open and give my opinions or thoughts about things and try not to talk too much while doing so, but I feel like I'm letting on too much.I am not so talkative and usually a little nervous when meeting new people, especially women, but I feel that I can keep good conversation going when given the right circumstances. I feel that my personality may be non-alluring or somewhat dull, but I can say that I do have a big sense of humor and usually laugh a decent amount. I appreciate anyone's ideas and comments on this and I hope you've found this somewhat understandable, and maybe even relatable.