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I was hoping that the community could start building up a thread of success stories shared by parents using peaceful parenting methods during negotiating and resolving conflicts with/among their children. I know I have seen a few scattered here and there on the forum, but I think it would be beneficial to consolidate these stories into a nice, long thread that can be shared around the internet wherever pro-spanking and coercive parenting statements are encountered. I think this could be especially helpful to those like me who don't yet have children but want to spread the peaceful parenting message and want to show real world examples of how it can work, not to mention gain some knowledge and wisdom for future parenting reference. I invite parents to share stories of all kinds, both from those who have employed peaceful parenting strategies from the beginning as well as from those who shifted to peaceful parenting mid-stream. I would also like to ask peaceful parents who grew up in a not-so-peaceful environment to share (if they are comfortable doing so, of course) comparisons of situations from their childhoods to similar situations they encounter while raising their children now – typical things like bedtimes, chores, toothbrushing, sharing communal resources like the TV, computer, etc. If you grew up in a household where your parents employed peaceful strategies, don't hesitate to share your stories either, whether you have children now or not. I think it would be great to hear perspectives from your point of view. I think it would be of particular help and interest if stories could be shared by parents who have changed from coercive parenting to peaceful parenting. What kinds of changes did you see in your children and your relations with them after you made the shift? Was there a transitional period that your children needed before things really improved? If so, how long was it? How did you go about making the shift to peaceful parenting? Finally, please don't feel that you need to limit your responses only to my questions, suggestions and requests as listed above. They are only meant as examples to get the ball rolling. Since I am asking questions from a position of practical ignorance, I am sure there probably are many things that I am missing and important questions that I may not be asking. If anyone has something that they think I should add or refine in this post, by all means, send me a PM and I will make an appropriate update.