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In either a recent podcast or one that was posted on the board someone mentioned an article by OKCupid, in which analysis of messaging and male/female attractiveness shows a bell curve on men's ratings of women: and a slippery slope for women's ratings of men: In the podcast this was not discussed in any detail; and I am at a bit of a loss as to what may be driving this. My first thought is that women put more effort into their physical appearance, in particular in relation to makeup. I was surprised at the extend to which women can up their game with makeup. I think if you take makeup and other effort women are more likely to put in, men and women are fairly equal in base attractiveness; if not more so for men as women seem to suffer much more from bad skin. But I feel that women putting only 15% of men as medium or better, compared to men putting around 50% of women as medium or better is stringent on the part of women. Another possibility is that women rate differently than men as a general rule. For example in terms of rating films, I rate something that is 'watchable' as 7/10; whereas my friend, who is a girl, says 'watchable' is 5/10 and she gives a lot of films 10/10; while I have given no film 10/10. Somewhere else, in relation to the same data, I heard the suggestion that women have come to expect too much of men. Does anyone have any insights into this phenomena?

A pattern, I have noticed, in the world is that women segregate into groups by their level of attractiveness. So a woman’s friends will be about the same level of attractiveness. I was wondering if anyone else has noticed this and can shed any philosophical light on the subject.