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I finished a new video on fake versus real curiosity in relationships, where I talk about about the differences between real and false curiosity in relationships, how "curiosity" can be used as a tool of manipulation, and possible problems related to it.

So in the middle (somewhere between 70 minutes and 82 minutes through) of Podcast 1751, there is a part where the caller and Stefan are discussing the considerations one might use when choosing a romantic partner. Stef articulates that there would be different considerations for a short-term partner vs a long-term partner. Some examples below (some directly from the podcast, some are from my own thinking)... Short-term: a) physical attractiveness b) spontaneity c) is there a "spark" or "chemistry"? - sorry that is nebulous but most will generally know what that means d) sense of humor and wit long-term: 1) how will they be when your back goes out and you have to lay down for a week while there is a toddler around? 2) how will they be when your best friend is sick and you want to spend time with the best friend? 3) how will they be when their own mother is sick? 4) how will they handle the stress if one or both of you lose your job(s)? 5) how will they act when they are woken up by your child for the fourth time in the middle of the night? 6) How will they act when they are wrong about something and they know it? Will they counterattack, dig in deeper, increase denial, etc? Hopefully those two lists illustrate the differences sufficiently. Now for my questions for discussion: Q1-- In a long-term relationship, how do you best handle a conflict where there is disagreement, and both people are 100% sure they are right? Q2-- How do you interpret the various general types of responses from the other person?