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Something I feel strongly about, and I put it in my introduction post, is the idea the Ethics is context sensitive. To lie is a bad idea, but if you lie to protect someone it maybe the best idea. Actions are not moral, reasons are. The question of morality and ethics is why? We can ask who did what, we can ask where it happened, but if we don’t ask why, then we are not asking the moral question. “So in a chat Yesterday someone asked does it matter why your wife was raped? She want be unraped. “ Yes it matters, and, yes she maybe unraped” The difference between rape, and making love is context: A) A 30 year old woman have intercourse with a 13 year old boy is Rape by definition. What if they were in love? B) A 30 year old man is having intercourse with a 13 year old girl, is Rape by definition. But what if they were in love? If you are being honest with yourself most people feel differently about those to situations. Should we? Well that is a question of Harm. Rape is ultimately a question of harm, we can be harmed stepping off the sidewalk. Now we can sue the engineer for following specifications of how sidewalks should be constructed, or we can take responsibility for talking on are cell phone and not paying attention. “A wife that is having an affair and then claimed she was raped, when she ends up pregnant, is not a wife raped.” The rape of a woman is some culture is seen as a harm to a Husband or a Father, and the woman is held accountable for getting into the situation. Your first instinct maybe as is mine is that this is crazy, as crazy as it is, to ignore the context of culture could result in more harm. But saying you were raped and being raped can be a matter of semantics, it is also a matter of legal definition in the above cases. A person that is raped, may have no physical damaged to them, yet they may also be extremely emotionally traumatized. The worse thing we can do with rape is make it worse then it is. We make matters far worse when we assume that a 13 year old girl will be traumatized by her experience with an old man and vise a versa. Harm should never be assumed, and not doing more harm should be the response of a free society. If we value marriage their maybe harm in having too many premarital partners. However, if you don’t value the concept of monogamous marriage then it’s a different question. There is harm in allowing adults to have sex with children. However, Harm is contextual to values, and perceptions, and too often we try to project our values and perceptions onto children, causing them more harm. Projecting are emotions on children only causes emotional confusion. It is not a question of how you think they should feel it is only a question of how they feel.