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Hi, I just started a Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL6rGSlLAsX0dC3hgus8R6g I have 35 videos dedicated to identifying toxic people. Some of my video subjects include: sex with a Narcissist, how to stop negative self-talk, how to get verbal abusers to disengage using body language, How to tell the difference between a Sociopath and a Narcissist, What is Narcissistic Supply and why do they want it, How to know if you are emotionally healthy, How to recover from Narcissistic abuse, etc.. Here is a one of my favorite videos inspired by many of Stef's podcasts. title: First Date Warning Signs <iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/wFrWca3M9yk?rel=0"frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> Please check out my channel and let me know what you think. Much warmth, Sacha Slone

I do not know how many people have as much difficulty with this as I do. It seems that society has me backed into a corner where I can never hope for things to happen unless I make the first move. It would be easier if I had a little success in the past to draw on when I decide that I want to ask someone out. I am twenty-six years old and I have only been on one date and that only happened because I was asked out. There are a number of things that make it difficult and I only really want to focus on one of them in this thread. Whenever I try to ask someone out, I start to think that it will only annoy the person I am asking. One of my sisters has told me several times that whenever she is asked out that it is one of the worst things that she has to deal with. The amount of time she has put into telling me how she does not want to be asked out and that she then dreads seeing the people who have asked her out, has me worrying about being judged harshly just for asking a simple question. Now the stories were of men who would ask her out several times even though she keeps saying no, but there was never a story of her being asked out and wanting to be asked out. So that leaves me thinking that when I approach a woman that she will never want me to ask her out even though that is not likely. What I am asking for is for some of the women on this board to tell me a story about a time when you wanted to be asked out. I think if I can add some positive stories of when women want to be asked out I can then jump over this hurdle. Like I said before there is more to it than this, but this is one of the sticking points that I am not moving past. How often do you want to be asked out but then are not asked? If you do not want to be asked out, does it ruin your day?