I had to decide whether to go to a funeral recently of someone (a relative) I thought horrid. I gave the decision very careful thought and I decided not to go and I am glad I made that decision. In the culture I live in, this is a decision not without cost, but the rubber has to meet the road at some point.
This podcast might help others with a similar decision to make.
https://player.fm/episodes?q=molyneux,%20grieving