What do you think about the line that separates honest communication and having hidden agendas? For me currently, it's a very thin line and I hope to change that about myself.
I was talking to someone on okc, and after several msgs, I asked about their childhood because I was curious. Instead of asking followup questions (the reason is their childhood was good overall), I shared my experiences growing up in an honest and open manner with the hidden agenda of trying to test their level of empathy towards me. I dont know if I'm using ex post facto reasoning to justify to myself that I really was speaking honestly in real-time or not. I don't know if having these hidden agendas imbedded within these "true and honest" statements are considered vile or nefarious. They seem sinister to me.
What do you guys think?