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Hi everyone, I met a woman and we had a meaningful conversation about psychology and child abuse. She mentioned that her daughter's teenage friend tried to commit a suicide recently. That girl is on psychotropic drugs, she is seeing a therapist, but it doesn't seem to help. I barely know the woman, but she said she has a good relationship with the girl. We talked about that girl's parents, but the woman doesn't know much about what happens at her home. I told her about FDR. I know I can't do much in this situation, but maybe I can send a podcast or a video to that girl through the woman that will resonate with her? If you think this is a good idea, what podcast would you recommend? I'm thinking a listener conversation about suicidality may help.

I just did a full on intervention with an abuser. She's the mother of one of my youngest daughter's classmates. For a while I've been wary of letting my daughter play over at her house, because on several occasions I've seen her acting in a punitive and heartless way towards her son, who is "rebellious" and "not listening". The other day the boy ( who is a great little guy) was playing at our place. When his mother came picking him up he was mad and dissappointed because she came by car instead of on bike as she had promised earlier. He was angry, and after dismissing this fact offhandedly she told him to thank me for the play-over. He kept being angry (rightly so), and then she grabbed him, pulled him to the other side of her car where -out of sight- she had a one-on-one with him. Then she picked him up, stashed him in the car and while driving off the boy frantically yelled "Thank you for the play-over", crying. Today, entering the school, I told her that I had been shocked by the event; the pulling, the shoving, the obvious threats, the force involved. I asked her what her own thoughts were, and she rejected the idea of having hurt the boy. I kissed my girls goodbye and walked outside, and then she followed me outside. We had a talk for about five minutes, and nearing the end we were both crying. I could write the conversation down, but with the emotions shown I guess you could say I 've gotten through to her at least in the moment. Even so, I'm a bit wary right now. Like her, I'll be visiting this school for another six years. If this continues to be a terrible mother I'm in for some trouble from now on, just like the kids. And I wonder how she will act the next time we come across. I also wonder what I'll tell my daughter who wants to go and play over there next week, because I made it quite clear to the mother that her behavior is not something that I want to expose my daughter to.

I just saw this video today on Stef's facebook wall.Two large dogs stopping insistent mom from hitting child. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10152699514539692

I'm in college and I'm seeing this very sweet girl, that's unfortunately (for both herself and for me) hooked on the sorority life of excessive drinking, partying and even drug abuse. I have only known her for a short period of time, so our relationship is not that serious yet, but I would like it to be if she could straighten herself out. She has self-esteem issues and it seems like she is constantly afraid of being rejected because of her issues. So she has a history of resorting to casual sex and rejecting commitment preemptively just to avoid the risk of being dumped first. She finds a life without alcohol and drugs appealing (she hates drinking), but she's afraid of what's going to happen with her relationship with her sorority friends if she abandons even parts of this destructive lifestyle. She also seems a lot more comfortable expressing attachment when she is drunk, but gets really reluctant whenever we speak of commitment. Should I intervene? If so, how!? Should I leave her and let her figure it out herself? oh and she has some daddy issues (I THINK the daddy might be absent) and I think she feels like her mother is not really proud of who she is and her accomplishments..