RFan Posted January 12, 2013 Posted January 12, 2013 I don't have many friends. I have a group of like 5-7 friends that we do everything together. None of them have the same philosophical views as me which leaves me feeling kind of lonely sometimes (like tonight). Can anyone give me some advice?
empyblessing Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 "If a man knows more than others, he becomes lonely." -Carl Jung. I'm lonely a lot as well. I have few friends and no one close to me. What helps for me is to focus on my work, writing fiction. Also, learning to accept loneliness in the present will abate some of the pain. But take action to find people that you can bond with. There's lots of clubs and groups you can join.
Anna Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 People are different and what you can get out of each relationship also differs. I'd say, try to enjoy whatever you find pleasurable or valuable with current friends. If you want to specifically hang out with people interested in philosophy, there exist philosophical cafes and such. If you want ancaps in your life you'll probably have to meet them online, or sometimes at libertarian of ancap meetups. For freedomainers you most likely need to stay online, unless there's someone in your area. Will they be friend material though? This is one thing I've discovered in the last few years. Even if you agree with someone politically or philosophically, there's no guarantee you'll bond as friends. Or even if you do somewhat bond, they may as well turn their back on you for ideological disagreements. A solid friend, someone who has your back and won't leave you in times of trouble or for differences of ideological opinion is a rare thing. So it makes sense to turn to people with the same world view so that you can talk and vent about the same issues. But for enduring friendship I'd suggest not putting your hopes on a ideologically based relationship. Just my thoughts and experience.About freedomainers and ancaps. I have the impression a lot of people here are lonely. Theoretically they could all help each other out a lot, even if it's just online communication.
Stephen C Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I'm in the chat room fairly often, RF. I like to be visited, I talk good sometimes, if I'm lucky I say something that makes sense.
Stephen C Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 About freedomainers and ancaps. I have the impression a lot of people here are lonely. Theoretically they could all help each other out a lot, even if it's just online communication. Theoretically speaking. []
RFan Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 thanks, the typing chat isn't really doing it for me for some reason though
RFan Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 And yeah that's a good point. Just because we share the same views doesn't mean we'll be friends but its good to have people to talk about that stuff. I'm 17 btw
cherapple Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Skype, Google+, and Facebook are also good places to meet. The first two offer face-to-face voice chats.
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