Stuggling to pay for therapy, considering asking extended family for help ( not parents)

[Juan S. Galt]

Hi!  Im juan, ive been around fdr for about 3 years now, tho i have not been too active in the forums. soon after i found fdr, i decided that i needed therapy and needed to work on my relationship with my mom and dad.  Im sad to say things with my dad went very badly and i ended up moving out, i was 21 at the time. im 23 now. allot of complicated stuff has happened since than, and to make a long story short, after, now close to  a year roughly of trying to make enough money to pay for therapy on a bi weekly basis atleast, im finding my self struggling.i can go into  more detail about my life if people are interested, but my main question - to those in therapy and perhaps in similar economic situations as me- how are you getting therapy or how did you?im 23, i took 1 year of collage in social work in canada where i live and decided not to work in that field for the time beign, so im working part time jobs as a costumer service agent, yes ive been one of the annoying guys on calling ur phone during dinner for a survey, but ive also been the guy helping you with road side assistance. :)the second thing id like is some feedback on an idea i had to help fund my therapy. ive had a few but this one stands out the most. i want to write up a facebook post, explainig how ever messed up thing that happened to me during my childhood, like my parent's divorce, affects people statisticly, as a kind of information post. i also want to mention there that i have suffered some of these effects as a result, and that i need help paying for therapy.my birthday is soon and i know i will have lots of family exressing great joys of my birth and im thinking this is a great time to do this, ofcourse im skeptical of weather they will really live by the love for me they  proclaim, and so this is in a way a test, however i hope i can get some support from them in this way.most of this family lives in colombia, so they are in a third world country,  this kind of knowledge and testing of their values, is kind of like a meteor hitting their world, as a dream has adviced me months ago when i visited them, im not sure that this is good enough reason not to post this letter, however it feels relevant. ive also been working on introspection on the side for a while, but i know i need help now form a proffecional, i also dont want to go to the canadian govenrment,  for some reasons i can discuss, i want an ifs therapist that is offering me an affordable price.

 

thoughts?  I appologize for the bad grammar, its a work in progres and auto correct isnt working for some reason. how have you dealt with this challange?Juan S.

[Stephen C]

I don't know the entirety of the situation with your father and mother, but I have a suggestion ... the only problem is it's manipulative as a mofo so I'm not sure it's worth it...Contact your parents and let them know how sorry you are that you aren't and haven't been a good son. Tell them that you're all fucked up in the head from the drugs you did and just generally fucked up in the head from birth, and this is stopping you from doing right by them. Let them know how important it is to you that you take care of them and give them what they need, especially now that they're getting old. BUT,  in order for you to be the helpful son you want to be you need to go to therapy to fix the crazy parts of yourself that get in your way of having a great relationship with them. That you need to get rid of this anger you have for them and you know just the therapist to help, and then you can return to them the loving son they always deserved and you can be supportive for them til their last days, like a good son should be. It's a odd suggestion, I know. Not sure if it would work with your parents, if you could pull it off, or if you'd even consider it, but that's what comes to my mind. 

[Juan S. Galt]

@ stephen.Uhm, nah.do not show ur needs to sadists.  ive learned my lesson with them before.

[LiberalRaver]

Hi Juan, Darius Cikanavičius offers therapy, is familiar with IFS and sharply priced. Maybe his services are a good fit.