todofixthis Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Heya. I'm looking for another podcast. In a podcast somewhere between mid-700 to 1000, Stefan talks about why it is important to be generous in one's relationships, as that generosity will buy you freedom. Either you will discover that the other person is virtuous (in which case whatever you put into the relationship was a good 'investment'), or you will discover that the other person is not virtuous — in which case you can end the relationship with a clear conscience. An example he gives during the podcast (note: paraphrasing from memory; details are likely to be fuzzy) is a girlfriend who wanted to produce a movie. Stefan spent a significant amount of money and time helping to write and produce the film... and then later on she couldn't be bothered to review a book he was writing. This gave him the clarity to be honest with himself about his girlfriend's character and end the relationship. Does anybody know which podcast this was?
ribuck Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 ... a girlfriend who wanted to produce a movie. Stefan spent a significant amount of money and time helping to write and produce the film ... Sorry, I can't help you with the podcast, but I guess the film was .
Stephen C Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 You're talking about the "give, give, give and then see what you get back" podcast?
todofixthis Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 You're talking about the "give, give, give and then see what you get back" podcast? Aye, that's the one!
Rick Horton Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 I've never found as easy as giving, giving and giving to test a person on if they are recipricle. In my experience it is better to give and take equally from the beginning. I believe the belly can be hypnotized like in nature, and weaken a soul. For example, the way to tame an animal is to feed it. Once it's dependant on that food, you are it's friend and it "usually" will not harm or attack you. Same with pets in general, and trust. But that comes with the price of dependence on you. You feed a stray cat and it will keep coming back. It forgets how to fend for itself, so although you may get some kind of emotional benefit from giving, giving, giving, and maybe even get reciprication, you are also handicapping the other person as well, it may well be in a lot of relationships. I see that with Parent/Child relationships all of the time. Parents can give to a child so many things that the child becomes very weak and dependent instead of ready for adult-hood. So I'd say equal give and equal demands, and no guesswork or games about what is what. Ask a favor, give a favor. Don't be cryptic about it, or "testing" in nature. Anyhow, this has worked far better for me than what is being discussed now, and I had to go through a lot of trials to realize it.
todofixthis Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 Hey Moncaloono. Thanks for your thoughts, but I'm just looking for a link to the specific episode in this thread.
Rick Horton Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Hey Moncaloono. Thanks for your thoughts, but I'm just looking for a link to the specific episode in this thread. and?
Stephen C Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Sorry, ToDo. A couple years ago I could of pointed you to that podcast right away, I'm losing it. I've spent some time looking for it, but I can't remember the title. If I come across it in the future I'll post here. Great podcast by the way.
Stephen C Posted March 18, 2013 Posted March 18, 2013 There it is :)http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_853_Managing_Other_Peoples_Emotions.mp3
Stephen C Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 You're welcome. Kinda reminds me of this... [View:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IPeV8zNIkyI]
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