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In one of his books, Stefan briefly mentions the topic of a highly attractive sexual partner.    Does anyone know if there is a podcast on this topic that would discuss it in more detail? 

I don't have this problem now, but perhaps the thoughts might help me let go of the pursuit.

Thanks 

 

 

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There's a Sexual Obsession premium podcast in the bronze donator section.

Guest NateC
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There is also Podcast #243: Reclaiming Masculinity that deals with the subject.

 

Just listened to it.  Yeah, that's a good one.

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What's the problem? I have an extremely attractive sexual partner and I don't have any problem. Of course, others might not agree with me but who cares.... she's the hottest woman I've ever seen. [:D]

 

Once you let go of the need for a partner who meets the common description of beautiful or handsome, you'll find a partner who far exceeds that simple description. I found it by actually becoming friends with a girl for whom I had no initial physical attraction. Likewise, our longest married/together and happiest friends are couples who didn't first feel the desire to bed one another and that's also how Stef and his wife landed up on one another, so to speak.

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What's the problem? I have an extremely attractive sexual partner and I don't have any problem. Of course, others might not agree with me but who cares.... she's the hottest woman I've ever seen. /emoticons/emotion-2.gif

 

Once you let go of the need for a partner who meets the common description of beautiful or handsome, you'll find a partner who far exceeds that simple description. I found it by actually becoming friends with a girl for whom I had no initial physical attraction. Likewise, our longest married/together and happiest friends are couples who didn't first feel the desire to bed one another and that's also how Stef and his wife landed up on one another, so to speak.

 

 

If I'm not attracted to a woman the only way it would be possible to have sex with her is to fantasize about an attractive sexual partner. 

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Once you let go of the need for a partner who meets the common description of beautiful or handsome, you'll find a partner who far exceeds that simple description. I found it by actually becoming friends with a girl for whom I had no initial physical attraction. Likewise, our longest married/together and happiest friends are couples who didn't first feel the desire to bed one another and that's also how Stef and his wife landed up on one another, so to speak.

 

No point trying to deny our biology. Humans want attractive mates. You can't rationalize that away. Don't fight it, but be aware of it.

Note that Stef's wife is cute.

  • 2 weeks later...
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I have listened to the podcasts about beauty and virtue.   So much truth.   I especially enjoyed listening to the one where a caller and Stef are talking about his obsession with a very pretty girl yet who is not emotionally available.   "Those running toward the impossible are running AWAY from the possible" is Stef's quote I most appreciated.   The whole conversation was meaningful.

 

Thanks to those who responded to this thread!

 

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