Write like no one is reading

[SteveHein]

Maybe u have heard "dance like no one is watching" so I will say write like no one is reading.

 

I say this especially today because i have been looking too much outside myself for affirmation, validation, understanding, acceptance, praise, etc etc etc

 

I work with suicidal teenagers. i relate to them. i connect with them. i understand them and they understand me. we click - much more than i click with most adults - sorry adults...

 

suicidal teens are so so worried about peer acceptance. the first thing they do when they go to a forum is check to see who replied to their posts. they want to know if they are being accepted, or rejected. they want to know if their lives are in danger. i mean that literally and figuratively.

 

we all know now of cyber bulling and bullycide etc.

 

it is possible to kill someone with our words. (but only if the "foo" has first made them very very vulnerable)

 

so a fragile, sensitive teen  or any such human needs to know "am i being accepted or rejected" "valued or trashed" "wanted or unwanted around here, in this group"?

 

today i did not check to see what replies i got to my previous posts. i felt more of a need just to write.

 

so i did

 

tfr

 

steve

 

 

[MysterionMuffles]

that's my approach to journalling. Write like no one's reading, as those teens should learn how to do. It is rivetting to have an avenue where you don't have to censor yourself and you can let it all out.

 

And even if anyone did read my most darkest secrets, I think I'm building enough integrity to know that I wouldn't care for their judgements on me.

[Sashajade]

  Omg! I love your post Steve. Speaking of dancing, I love to dance if someone is watching

and i still dance wen no one is watching. The part of being able to dance in front of someone

was not an initial thing that I overcame without doing tho. Wether it was a strip club or

a dance/nite club bar. I really held back alot in the beginning fearing what other people

thought if i pulled out some awkward move lol!  Anyway enuf about me.

   I think its absolutley awesome that you understand the gravity to which people are

affected by bullying/verbal assaults. It cut me very deeply as a kid and now as an adult.

The only thing that has changed is doing my own therapy and learning how to cope with it

The shocking part of bullying in all manners is that the things that are said to these kids

especially by peers is the most offensive evil shit i've ever heard. Worse than things I

even heard as a child from my mother. It's extremely horrifying for a teenager who has

to be subjected to peers like this daily.

   Since they have to get the acceptance of peers because that is who u value since

you arent around adults more of the time. Kids are forced to attach to their peer group

who is viewed even more important than many of the adults in there life who are always

working,busy and should b the ones to matter. Unfortunately your peers arent able to be there on a mature level

like a caring adult can or should. So its excruciatingly painful when immature peers who

you want to belong with are rejecting and cruel, especially when u have to

be around these other kids all day at school and u have no choice.

   It's like being in pure hell, an abusive 

relationship that isnt even occuring at home. wait yes even at home on internet,

some kids even threaten u near your home. I had many thoughts of suicide in my

teenage years because i didn't feel like i belonged anywhere. Not at home and not

in school. it was pretty sad, i think it is great that u are supportive of these teens

because they sure need it. Thanks for doing what u do Steve.

[SteveHein]

thanks for the nice 2 replies. i did come check my post just like a teen ha ha

 

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