Stephen C Posted November 6, 2013 Share Posted November 6, 2013 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EdOKsLY7p_cUgh, give this video a thumbs down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_LiveFree_ Posted November 6, 2013 Share Posted November 6, 2013 I'm only 11 minutes in, and this is damn brilliant! I'm laughing my ass off because that voice is soooo familiar, so accurate! lol Well done! (thumbs up!) -------------- Wow. I view myself differently after watching this. ..just, wow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 6, 2013 Author Share Posted November 6, 2013 I'm interested to hear how you view yourself differently after watching this video, if you'd be up for sharing.Thank you for the kind words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_LiveFree_ Posted November 7, 2013 Share Posted November 7, 2013 That abusive voice in my head. Now I see it as a part of me that actually served, and maybe continues to serve, a purpose. Seeing you treat it with respect seriously deflated its power. Seeing it as a part of me that I can listen to, but not necessarily obey, was something I've intellectually understood, but have never been able to do. Watching you do it was inspiring! You have no idea. I thought about it a lot today and still can't put it all into words. Dude, I can't thank you enough for this video. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 7, 2013 Author Share Posted November 7, 2013 I'm sad to hear you had to internalize abusers throughout your life to keep yourself safe, but I'm glad you made it out alive.One of the reasons I made this video is so that people might see it and say "Hey, that's what goes on inside my head!" and not feel so alone. It sounds like I've reached my goal.You're welcome, thanks for watching and expressing your experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STer Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 This was really interesting and entertaining. I love the layers of meta where you're discussing the implications of posting the video itself. Perhaps you can turn this into a one-man show - or rather a multi-one-man show - and go on the road. Nice way to introduce audiences to IFS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LovePrevails Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 I love STer's idea - wy not a Sephen Colgan show? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 8, 2013 Author Share Posted November 8, 2013 This was really interesting and entertaining. I love the layers of meta where you're discussing the implications of posting the video itself. Perhaps you can turn this into a one-man show - or rather a multi-one-man show - and go on the road. Nice way to introduce audiences to IFS The road?! The road??!! Lemme tell you something about the road!! If it weren't for the government there would be no road to go on!! I love STer's idea - wy not a Sephen Colgan show? I'm not sayin' not. I'm makin' videos and my channel is under my name so...I think I've got a show. I have a list of video ideas and I'm sure more will brew up. One of my video ideas is "LovePrevails is a sex machine" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LovePrevails Posted November 8, 2013 Share Posted November 8, 2013 One of my video ideas is "LovePrevails is a sex machine" Yes, this will almost certainly be your most true and successful video to date, but perhaps very pedestrain to those who have already interacted with LovePrevails. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Beal Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 I find it very difficult to find any compassion for my inner critic. I get it intellectually that he exists as a response to protect my younger self, but abusive older siblings do shit like that too and I don't see how being compassionate in this way toward them is going to bring me closure and integration. Muslim parents in Saudi Arabia are going to teach their children that Allah is great and fill that child's mind with horseshit, and part of that is to protect the child if only unconsciously, but that doesn't excuse them. My inner critic is like the biggest asshole I know. I can't wrap my brain around how I'm ever supposed to feel genuine compassion for him. We talk maybe once a month or less for not very long, partly because the timing is inconvenient and partly because I really dislike him. I don't completely block him out only because I'm concerned about the effects of repression. (Also, there is a little "cool" factor cuz I get to say that I've done mecosystem work). I really don't understand that compassion thing. I'd love to hear how that works out for you (Stephen) or anyone else who takes this approach. Does it really help to integrate the good in that part? It felt forced when I tried it, and he called me out on that, of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysterionMuffles Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 Wow that was very interesting and does sound familiar. Love how you emphasized the abrasiveness of that part. It was clear to me who was who for the most part, but near the end it seemed to have lost some steam. Understandable though it is tough to monologue (sorta dialogue) for a half hour. I would suggest being conscious of the tonality of your voice like you were near the beginning and middle, where the critic had a slightly higher pitch while you yourself of course spoke at a bit of a lower tone. Not too big of a difference, but also the fact that your inner-critic and self near the end started to sound more like, not in content, but in voice...perhaps...is the union of the IFS? I dunno. Overall though, thanks for more insights! It inspires me to do more of those IFS dialogues again like I did a lot of last month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LovePrevails Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 4.56 - I want to ask inner critic why he wants to fuck you up 7.05 - I want to ask inner critic what he wants you to do instead 24.30 - I want to ask inner critic if his job is to keep me safe why does he criticize you for ..... can't finish the question no more questions after that , nice to hear the critic giving you some kudos and hearing him share his own self-knowledge "you're wack son, you're wack" - gold! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 9, 2013 Author Share Posted November 9, 2013 I find it very difficult to find any compassion for my inner critic. I get it intellectually that he exists as a response to protect my younger self, but abusive older siblings do shit like that too and I don't see how being compassionate in this way toward them is going to bring me closure and integration. Muslim parents in Saudi Arabia are going to teach their children that Allah is great and fill that child's mind with horseshit, and part of that is to protect the child if only unconsciously, but that doesn't excuse them. My inner critic is like the biggest asshole I know. I can't wrap my brain around how I'm ever supposed to feel genuine compassion for him. We talk maybe once a month or less for not very long, partly because the timing is inconvenient and partly because I really dislike him. I don't completely block him out only because I'm concerned about the effects of repression. (Also, there is a little "cool" factor cuz I get to say that I've done mecosystem work). I really don't understand that compassion thing. I'd love to hear how that works out for you (Stephen) or anyone else who takes this approach. Does it really help to integrate the good in that part? It felt forced when I tried it, and he called me out on that, of course. You've said a lot here, Kevin. Would you be down to have a voice chat on the topic with me? Wow that was very interesting and does sound familiar. Love how you emphasized the abrasiveness of that part. It was clear to me who was who for the most part, but near the end it seemed to have lost some steam. Understandable though it is tough to monologue (sorta dialogue) for a half hour. I would suggest being conscious of the tonality of your voice like you were near the beginning and middle, where the critic had a slightly higher pitch while you yourself of course spoke at a bit of a lower tone. Not too big of a difference, but also the fact that your inner-critic and self near the end started to sound more like, not in content, but in voice...perhaps...is the union of the IFS? I dunno. Overall though, thanks for more insights! It inspires me to do more of those IFS dialogues again like I did a lot of last month. Inner Critic says "I don't need to be so loud when I feel I'm being listened to," 4.56 - I want to ask inner critic why he wants to fuck you up 7.05 - I want to ask inner critic what he wants you to do instead 24.30 - I want to ask inner critic if his job is to keep me safe why does he criticize you for ..... can't finish the question no more questions after that , nice to hear the critic giving you some kudos and hearing him share his own self-knowledge "you're wack son, you're wack" - gold! Inner Critic: All these questions are answered in the video. You need a Q Tip or something, pretty boy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LovePrevails Posted November 9, 2013 Share Posted November 9, 2013 right that's it, shirts off, me and inner critic - outside. we'll see whose gonna fuck who up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 10, 2013 Author Share Posted November 10, 2013 right that's it, shirts off, me and inner critic - outside. we'll see whose gonna fuck who up. Inner Critic: I don't get physical, I just talk. You're just looking for an excuse to take off your shirt, aren't you, pretty boy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STer Posted November 10, 2013 Share Posted November 10, 2013 Inner Critic: I don't get physical, I just talk. You're just looking for an excuse to take off your shirt, aren't you, pretty boy? Next you'll be setting up different accounts on the forum so the different parts can post from their perspective in each thread Actually that would be kind of interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 That's a bannable offense, Ster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STer Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 That's a bannable offense, Ster. Yeah, maybe instead you'll need to create your own, separate forum where every user on the forum is a different one of your parts. Your Self can be the moderator. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysterionMuffles Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Lol that's hilarious. Though I don't doubt the validity of even trying that approach, as tedious as it would be. Probably would be easier to just write a play with each part playing a character (as opposed to a character playing a part in the traditional sense). Heh, I guess that's what all fictional writing really is. An examination of the IFS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 Yeah, maybe instead you'll need to create your own, separate forum where every user on the forum is a different one of your parts. Your Self can be the moderator. How much drug have you smoked today, Ster? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STer Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 How much drug have you smoked today, Ster? That's pretty judgmental from the person arguing with his inner critic on YouTube! Just playing, I enjoyed it. The answer is precisely none. It's just called imagination and humor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 11, 2013 Author Share Posted November 11, 2013 That's pretty judgmental from the person arguing with his inner critic on YouTube! Just playing, I enjoyed it. The answer is precisely none. It's just called imagination and humor. Heh, gotcha.I noticed you got some negative reputation on your posts here. None of them are from me. I wonder why you were given negative reputation.Would the people that gave Ster negative reputation here please explain why? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 12, 2013 Author Share Posted November 12, 2013 Inner Critic said in the video that this will be my most watched video and will get the most thumbs down. So far it's my most watched video and has the most thumbs up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysterionMuffles Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Yeah my bad, Stephen. My inner critic was quick to judge this post: Yeah, maybe instead you'll need to create your own, separate forum where every user on the forum is a different one of your parts. Your Self can be the moderator. as a passive aggressive response to when you said "that's a bannable offense." It was taking the situation more seriously than it should have based on a few threads STer has been on (particularly Thought Terrorist's empathy one) and got some down votes. But then I scrolled up to read his first post in this thread and realized it was just a nice silly joke going on. I would be the first one, don't know who the second would be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen C Posted November 13, 2013 Author Share Posted November 13, 2013 Yeah my bad, Stephen. My inner critic was quick to judge this post: as a passive aggressive response to when you said "that's a bannable offense." It was taking the situation more seriously than it should have based on a few threads STer has been on (particularly Thought Terrorist's empathy one) and got some down votes. But then I scrolled up to read his first post in this thread and realized it was just a nice silly joke going on. I would be the first one, don't know who the second would be. I think I understand, MM. Thank you for taking the time to explain your experience and decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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