A__ Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Whether you're at a family gathering or in a long line at the supermarket what do you do when you notice even mildly abusive or negligent parenting?
powersquash Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Negligent parenting is a little more difficult to call out than abusive for me. I've had small discussions with people about why abuse should never be an option and so forth, however, it's never been in the moment of the abuse. I've yet to witness any since I've been ballsy enough to do anything about it.
Lians Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Stef touches on a good strategy for dealing with abusive parents in this podcast: FDR 1685 - Virtue, Ethics, UPB and APA http://cdn.media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_1685_Ethics_UPB_APA.mp3 Other than trusting your instincts, appeal to the parent's self-interest. Ultimately, the goal is not to change the behaviour of the parent (that's not likely to happen) but to demonstrate to the kid that the parent's actions are wrong.
Ruben Zandstra Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Same as Lians: it's about making clear to the child that this is not right. Other than that: the supermarket line and family situations would require somewhat different approaches I think. In a family situation there is all the time in the world to reflect, anticipate, discuss, weigh options etc. At the bottom line you might think again why you have people in your life who treat their children (mildly) bad, and reconsider your next christmas plans. Whereas in a supermarket line there is only that single moment, a couple of glances, one chance to talk.
Soren Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I Work some sundays setting up som gymnastics props for 2-8 year olds to play on. A few times I have vitnessed parrents verbally abuse their children. I am yet to find the curage to really say something to the parrent, which I feel really bad about, I always fogg up in my mind. On another job I was once watching some props during summer vacation. And vitnesed a dad getting mad at his children because of some food. His Little daughter fled 5m away from him but could not get futher because of the tribune they where on watching her face as he went to pick her up was terrifying. It was like he did not see her fear at all. I felt very small and cowardly seeing that. To my surprice she later came running to me and sat in my lap, as i was sitting on a gigant airtrack watching some kids play. How can you approach people like that in a professional manner and tell them, not to yell?
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